AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

I do?

So you live in a townhouse which is probably about 15/20 ft wide if he parks outside your house (obviously on the other side of the road 😬) and you park outside his house they are both visible from both houses as you dont live in detached mansions that are 100ft away from each other? I dont see the issue other than there is a tree which gives shade but also (presumably) bird poop, leaves and sap dripping? Also, where do the people who live on the otherside of the road park? Surely they arent all holiday homes who are only there occasionally?

I don't understand why it's rude to park in a public street. People generally park wherever they can find a space.
I many roads near me people are lucky to be able to park within 5 minutes of their houses!.

Not a couple of weeks a year

And what a way to spend it eh! He has probably worked - as a DR mind - all his life for this daily parking slot struggle. He could always unpark it and go somewhere interesting.

So when the parking space under the tree is occupied where do you park your car?
You park it outside another persons house, of course you do, it doesn’t teleport out of existence.

If It’s a public highway, they can park where they like. You should have bought a house with a drive if you wanted your own designated space.

Total derail but isn't it free rein? As in when you loosen the reins to let the horse lead the way?

I can see your version makes sense too though: like a monarch.

One had a large gated driveway built (illegal but that’s another issue, then there’s the holiday owner rarely there, then permanent family (park outside their house-or do when he’s not here 🤣

Cba RTFT but the first page was full of people not grasping the OP’s point at all which was frustrating. I get it OP- no one parks on your side of the road to allow driving cars to pass through, everyone parks on the opposite side and they park opposite their own home. Your NDN park opposite your home rather than theirs because it’s shady and they don’t want their car to get hot (even though they barely leave so don’t use it often!).

I’d be irritated too, especially with the husband intentionally moving it as soon as you leave! There isn’t much you can do short of putting cones there or something.

Yes it’s free rein.

No I have to try for the other end of the road (cul de sac) that has parking spaces but generally occupied by the houses down there

I didnt think them parking there was cheeky till i got to the part of them waiting for you to go out and than parking there. THAT is cheeky

Oh ffs 😂 yes, yes I have all of that…do you? I’m wondering why you are so invested in my thread and in attempting to make me feel like there’s something wrong with me, not nice tbh 😔

Yes, it's the moving when you go out that is the really irritating bit.

If he went out and came home and, ta-dah: there it was, well that's good luck for him. But stalking you to steal it is a bit unpleasant and way too over-invested.

It is basic good manners to address someone by whatever name they ask you to call them.

You may privately think it's a little pompous for him not to want you to use his name alone, but that's up to him - some people like more formality than others.

What does he do if you don't address him as 'Doctor'?
I mean, how does he make you do it? If you said, 'Hello Alfie (for instance) I've hung 20 bird feeders in that shady tree opposite my house,' would he say, 'It's Doctor to you?'

Thank you! Was starting to feel I was going nuts there

No, not to me, but would they or amongst themselves as we do

RIGHT?!

Exactly though!! In turn you then park outside someone else’s home ie he’s not the only one who does it!
You park in another space usually taken by the person who lives nearest, so someone perceives you as taking ‘their’ space.

YA probably BU but I'm 100% with you on this ;-)

You need two cars op, so DH can swap into the space when you go out. Rental when he is there? It's not like Dr can say anything about the technique of hover and swoop.😄