AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

The mention of Miguel and I KNEW it had to be Portugal!

nothing personal... Senhor Doutor and Senhor Arquitecto or Senhor Engenheiro... people are VERY into their titles and Dr doesn't mean actually medical doctor, anyone with a degree is Doutor... (especially in the 50+ generation)

it is a small parking bay, not outside someone’s home, but again I try not to as it’s where the houses down there park their cars, again no set spaces but generally all the people park in the same spaces

If your street is one where it is difficult to park, you can find yourself having to park 100 m from your house and when that happens, it will be that late afternoon in December when it's tipping it down, and you need to get a load of shopping and your baby to the house.

I can live with that. What annoys me is sloppy parking (e.g. parking half a car length from a disabled space or dropped kerb) or CF next door knocking on my door asking me to move my legally-parked car. I pay annually for parking permit.

OP is BU to expect her favoured space to be hers, but NBU to be annoyed by NDN watching and moving into the space as soon as she's vacated it.

And also what if I deliberately ALWAYS did it because it’s shady (which it is) and waited to see their car go past and then rushed out to put my car there…weird!

😂 That’s brilliant

I think the OP is getting a hard time on this. He sounds like a bit of a knob to be honest, moving his car into the shady space as soon as OP goes out. What kind of person does that?? As for asking to be referred to as doctor....I feel embarrassed for him. My daughter is a 'Doctor" but would be mortified to addressed as that!

Yes, but it’s not the same with younger generations, it’s almost embarrassing to be like this, people don’t do it as much

Exactly

But he is older?

You or your husband sitting at home watching out the window after the other has driven off is just as weird, how do you not see that?

Yes but times change and it seems rude to instruct someone as to what they have to call you
I don’t address him as anything but mentioned it to highlight what sort of character he is

Dh doesn’t sit at the window watching? We live in a hot place, front patio doors open, sat in garden etc, you don’t have to be ‘Watching out of the window’ to notice

It is the traditional way in the culture of the country

Honestly, @Chipsanddipsforlunch, I’d change your name and start the whole thread again from scratch as a brand new thread, and include a bloody diagram in your opening post. And also include that you’re not in the UK and shade is at a premium. And the restricted width of the road. And that you look after / keep an eye on the holiday-home people’s house for them.

Meanwhile get your DH to loiter in the spot when you go to the shops, and refuse to move. He can be ‘looking for his contact lens’ or something.

Or buy a car sun protector.

Right, so you don’t like him and that’s the real problem.

If you are out and he re-parks his car, how do you know he hasn’t gone out after you and come back before you?

In any case, he prefers to park his car under the tree for shade, just as you do. He is parking his car in front of someone else’s house, just like you are. You do it for most of the year, but you’re pissed off that for a few eels you can’t. What makes him rude and you not?

Just because someone doesn't agree it doesn't mean they don't understand.

Not as much anymore

So you want to park there because its opposite your house and has a tree for shade? As a neighbour surely its close to their house too and they might not want yo park in the sun (for same reason as you)?

Personally dont have much sympathy as its not your space. We live on road with on street parking and sometimes we can't even park on our road...annoying, but that's how it works when you don't have your own drive and no parking restrictions.

It’s not rude tell someone what to call you, how else would they know?? That’s a completely normal thing to do!
Are you offended if someone said their ‘name is Timothy, please call me Tim’
You have an issue with this man and you’re being irrational over every little thing.

I don’t not like him or like him, I don’t really vare either way or know him well enough to form an opinion

It’s not a few weeks!

Does anyone read through threads

From a practical point of view OP, I think you might need to get a sunshade for the car.

Take the park when it is available, use the shade when it isn't.

Your neighbours are as entitled to park outside someone else's house as you are! Especially if that's the superior shady space. I don't see why you feel you should be more entitled than they are.

You’d hate living where I do! I’m near two sport stadiums which means people are always parking outside my house when there’s a game on. Sometimes I have to park 5-10 minutes walk away. Also, next door is rented out to 4 students who have 4 cars and so always parking outside my house if any of them get home before me. I don’t own the road though so whilst I do sometimes find it a bit annoying I just get on with it.

You’ve mentioned that other homes have driveways, can’t you put one in yourself? You can even plant a tree for shade.

You said the steering wheel is hot. Get a cover like I have, it’s fantastic, I’d never be without one now. Also get a shade for your windscreen. Takes one minute to put on and off and cools the car down.

You don’t seem to realise that you are extremely blooming lucky that not only do you get to park directly opposite your own home, because the people across the road are hardly ever there, but you also get the shady spot too. From the tone of your posts you clearly resent holiday home owners but if they didn’t exist, you’d never have a free spot in the shade by your home. I can’t believe you’d be so daft as to buy the house you did when parking is so clearly important to you that you get precious over a spot that is actually someone else’s anyway.

You’ve got loads of options:

• speak to him
• get a steering wheel cover and shade
• build your own driveway
• move house
• chill out

I suspect you will do none of those but will continue to moan.

😂