AIBU to resent holiday-home neighbours taking our usual parking space?

[Chipsanddipsforlunch]

First of all to say, no one on the road has their ‘Own’ parking space, however it’s sort of an unspoken thing that you park on the road outside your own house.
Have owned our home here for fifteen or so years, we live in a beach type place. The immediate next door neighbours have their house as a holiday home, thankfully they don’t rent it out, they come to stay maybe four times a year, usually for a month or two in summer.
Every time they come, they immediately park where we park daily all year round opposite our house. It has a large tree and shade (we live in a hot place) so i’m guessing that’s part of the reason.
Everyone else parks in front of their own houses, it ends up that we have to park in the sun in front of their home, if space or round the corner/far up the road. I have a young Dd, ddog, it’s just the two of them. I’m often struggling walking up the road with bags of shopping from the big shop, my dd etc
They don’t go out that much, so the car is just sat there.
Dh has noticed that sometimes if we’ve managed to park there, opposite our own house and I for example nip out to the shop, the guy next door will come out of the house and move his car into that spot 😂

Honestly, I know it’s so petty, but it’s starting to piss me off recently as it’s hot and more tourists/second home owners parking on the road

Aibu??

Op, I lived in the Middle East for a while and had one of those reflective windscreen shades to prop up against the windscreen. Really made a difference to the internal temperature and the steering wheel.

Re your neighbour: well yes he has the same right as you to park anywhere ; yes he is being a bit tatty moving his car to the shade ( he could also use one of those window shade things). But you are coming across as resentful in general, as if the Chips from your lunch have settled on your shoulder.

If he bugs you that much, then don’t look after his house while he is not there. But try to let it go, as your irritation is probably not good for your health.

I think you’d have to be in the situation to fully understand and see

I don’t

Or a diagram. 😊

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A diagram!

Bizarrely, I feel a bit sorry for him. Imagine going on holiday only to spend it sitting watching for the desired parking space to come up so you could leap out and grab it. He sounds ... unfulfilled.

You said “we” just call him his name, M

A poster kindly did one a few pages back, it’s spot on aside from neighbour is on the left of us

Well maybe, yes. I can only go on the information you've provided. I don't think this is worth upsetting yourself over though.

So is the house opposite his where you expect him to park occupied? Where do people park if the houses on both sides are occupied.

Yes I don’t say to Dh Dr Miguel said such and such, I say his name or actually just ‘The neighbour’

It would irritate me too, but I'd just tell myself to be happy that they'd be gone soon. And no, I would ignore his instruction to address him as Dr.

Pft.

I’m honestly not 😅
It never used to bother me much, I thought it was sad/odd to wait and rush out, Dh always found it annoying but it’s getting worse

Or he could say "Sorry mate Dr, but I have to sit watch over the car park opposite so I can switch our car into it as soon as it moves."

They have a driveway with large security gate, there is space so that it doesn’t obstruct this

I recognise the musical cars syndrome, where the owner feels compelled to move their vehicle to a preferred spot the second it becomes available, in case the previous occupant returns. My neighbour does it. I only notice because one of their favoured spots is right by my front gate. It doesn't inconvenience me in the least, because I keep my car on the driveway at the back, so it's a minor source of amusement. I can see it would be annoying if I wanted to park there myself.
However, there's nothing you can do about it but seethe, OP and that only messes with your state of mind. Just think, if relations became too hostile, they might sell up to people who'd be there all year round, possibly with more than one car.

You can get a shade for your own car. It’s not his fault your car gets hot.
You are just as entitled because if that spot isn’t free you also turn in turn park outside another persons home! The very things you do are what annoy you from him.

🤣

Basically, your street is very quiet as mostly holiday lets, and you resent people coming and disrupting your routine for a few weeks a year. Maybe read the news - might make you feel like this isn’t even an issue.

No, I don’t?

But you don't?

Yes, I think it's annoying that he moves it. I think I'd be inclined to try to walk with the dc as much as possible when he is there.

Well, yes, we could say this about many things

In fairness, It's more way too much time on HIS hands.

It’s parking. And literally for a couple of weeks a year. Rest of the time it sounds like you have free reign.