I know you will say I am but here goes.......

[Kimi]

I am the one with the DH1 and the new DP
DH1 and I together 23 years 2 lovely kids then drifted apart.... Still love the the man to bits, just can't be a couple right now, we are however still a family and do a lot together see each other every day and get on so much better now.

I have a new DP who was a friend for a long time to DH1 and I, and who loves me and looks after me and my children and gets on well with DH1 (to whom I am still married)

Any way we did not shout our break up from the roof tops, friends and family know but a lot of people don't.

So DS2 is a beaver and as far as everyone at beavers knows Mr and Mrs Kimi are just that, there is one woman leader who has no concept of personal space and every time she speaks to DH1 she is about half and inch away and has to touch his arm, if you knew my DH1 you would know he does not like this.
So we have seen this woman a few times out side of beavers and she has been all DH1 this and DH1 that and has totally blanked me (I find this rude because as far as she knows I am his wife and we are happy).
She is also married so really should not be so um.... "friendly" with other men.
DH1 finds it uncomforitable and I find it bugs me.
A friend of mine who knows about the split says she is just like that, but I see her like that with DH1 more then any of the other dads.

I am not trying to have my cake and eat it, and I am not throwing my toys out of the pram but to put it bluntly she pisses me off by being so bloody rude, If I see anyone I know when I am out who is with their partner I will always acknowlage the partner too.

Talk some reason in to me please ladies.

Here puss puss puss....

Fighting the urge to make pussy/ beaver jokes....

Us women of low morals tell dirty jokes you know

Not attacking her - just her behaviour and in my opinion, riding out the ups and downs of a marriage is setting a good example not bailing out when the going gets tough.

I feel quite deflated that I have such low morals TBH ....
I met DH1 at 14, engaged at 16, married at 21, moved in together after the wedding, children at 26 and 30, did not ccheat on him EVER, and I am an ally cat..... what would I have been if I had done it another way???? The mind boggles... I did think being a ally cat would be more fun, I shall repent repent repent at church this week

Feel sorry for your children Kimi - hope they don't just 'drift apart' from you when they get the chance!

I'm fairly new on here, so am not sure if I what I am about to say is good form or not, but will go ahead anyway...

Ima, looking at your other posts I really don't believe that MN is the place for you.

Imaparenttoo I don't think anyone Bailed out, 20 odd years is longer then most... when we married it was for life and I took my vowles very seriously, sadly somewhere it went wrong, no one was to blame as such, we stopped talking, and other stuff that I don't feel I need to justify to you.

I guess you are one of those women who will stay married even if everyone is unhappy,
Surly it is better for people to be hapy apart the unhappy together, it is better for the children too is it not.

I did not think oh that bloke there looks better I will just sod off from my marriage.

You know nothing about me yet you attack me, you attack the fact that I get on with my 1st husband, the man I went from a child to a woman with, the man I have two children with, even if we both remarry we are bound forever by our children, who are happy, loved, grounded, polite, kind and in no way fucked up at all.

DP and DH1 are friends, the kids have 2 homes nd a family that love them,and getting to the age of 37 and having had 2 partners is not exactly being the worlds biggest trollop is it now.

No one has been lied to, no one has been dumped, no one is hurting...

But I can now either hate DH1 or go back to DH1 and everyone be unhappy, but at least I will have good morals, is that right?

I don't know how you live your life, and how ever you do is up to you, I am wondreing if you are related to beaver woman though....

Kimi, dont feed the cat.

Oh, I don't know, seems quite appropriate with a lot of inflammatory comments on MN if you ask me ThinWhiteDuchess.

FWIW, although I do not agree about the morals of an alley cat comments, I now see where Ima was coming from. But, not sticking it out in a marriage with a person you still like does not make have low morals,.... it's a different 'personality issue' entirely

Let me quickly add, I have nothing bad to say about Kimi's situation whatsoever anymore. I have read the whole post, udnerstand everything now, and although perhaps she got a little defensive at the start, all makes perfect sense to me..... YANBU, she is rude.... an' all that

yeah, that last comment was below the belt.

LOL you have no idea do you you silly little woman......

DP was a friend of the family, yes it is strange we got together but that was in no way the reason for my marriage ending.

I don't know what you are hiding, to be so judgemental of me you must be very very unhappy...is that is because I am happy, my children are happy, my 1st hubby is happy and DP is happy,

Is your life sad and you don't have the guts to walk away from it????
Does your other half screw your friends so you assume everyone must be like that?
Are your children fucked up by it all?

Lady if you want a war of words bring it on, I am sure of who I am, of who I love and of who loves me, and I am happy, if that offends you so so much I think you are a sad sad person.
But if you having a pop at me make you feel superiour and happy about yourself carry on by all means......

LOL, everyone getting their knickers in a twist over this - just ask your DP how he would feel if you split and you jumped in the sack with one of his mates.

And Kimi - I am definately not a silly little woman

Your a stupid bloke then.... I did not jump in the sak with anyone FFS DH1 and I have been apart 2 sodding years now.

Sorry forgot that if you're a bad person and your marriage fails you have to join a convent of live in a cave, all the while turning your children against the other parent....god you learn so much here....

With all due respect IMAPARENTTOO (or should that be Iamapratttoo)

Fuck off.

Walk away Kimi walk away....

BEAVER LEADER BEAVER LEADER

/Kimi looks through DPs address book to see which of his friends to hump first....I am so hot you know they all want me,,,, where to start........

Kimi - are you even slightly tempted to change your username to AlleyCat? As a 'two-fingers' to t'old namechanger over there?

I'm not really sure what kimi has done that merits such condemnation. Is it unnacceptable that anyone ever leaves anyone else? How odd.

tempting very tempting.......

I have a question.... can I screw DPs female friends too, seeing as I am not sure if that lessens my morals even more of it it is not really cheating... well IAPT

LOL THW

If he's like most blokes he'd drive you over there and plump up the pillows for you!