I know you will say I am but here goes.......

[Kimi]

I am the one with the DH1 and the new DP
DH1 and I together 23 years 2 lovely kids then drifted apart.... Still love the the man to bits, just can't be a couple right now, we are however still a family and do a lot together see each other every day and get on so much better now.

I have a new DP who was a friend for a long time to DH1 and I, and who loves me and looks after me and my children and gets on well with DH1 (to whom I am still married)

Any way we did not shout our break up from the roof tops, friends and family know but a lot of people don't.

So DS2 is a beaver and as far as everyone at beavers knows Mr and Mrs Kimi are just that, there is one woman leader who has no concept of personal space and every time she speaks to DH1 she is about half and inch away and has to touch his arm, if you knew my DH1 you would know he does not like this.
So we have seen this woman a few times out side of beavers and she has been all DH1 this and DH1 that and has totally blanked me (I find this rude because as far as she knows I am his wife and we are happy).
She is also married so really should not be so um.... "friendly" with other men.
DH1 finds it uncomforitable and I find it bugs me.
A friend of mine who knows about the split says she is just like that, but I see her like that with DH1 more then any of the other dads.

I am not trying to have my cake and eat it, and I am not throwing my toys out of the pram but to put it bluntly she pisses me off by being so bloody rude, If I see anyone I know when I am out who is with their partner I will always acknowlage the partner too.

Talk some reason in to me please ladies.

This thread made me larf...

Glad you came back to this Kimi, felt a bit guilty that I'd not been very tactful in my post. I do think that while I can understand totally that it is annoying for a man or woman to have someone invade their space, If they don't mean any harm, and aren't threatening or overtly sexual, then don't think there is a way to complain about them without really, really offending them and hurting their feelings, which might have repercussions for your son. Better for him to say, start chatting animatedly with you when Mrs Beaver is about, and say, 'Oh sorry Mrs Beaver, we were just discussing ds's prowess on the football field' and generally issuing cool but friendly vibes.
I totally agree it is a good thing for exes to be friendly when kids are involved.

Thanks jam and MsD.

Had lunch with my friend and was talking to her about it and she says beaver lady is the same at the school too, (differant school to DS) and with friends hubby (and all other men) seems beaver lady and her husband are very well off and she deems herself a bit above everyone else (friend see's much more of her then I have too), so I guess beaver lady is just plain snotty and rude to all women, and sad enough with low self worth to have to play up to all men.

As I say DS moves from her group in July so I won't have to deal with her rudeness.

Glad my life can make you chuckle, if you think it is funny to read about try living it

Um how is leaving your husband, THEN finding a new partner having the morals of an alley cat?

Or were you looking in a mirror?

Reminds me of the first and last singleton holiday i had when i was 21yrs old.
It was a walking holiday in the Corsican mountains and there was a couple with us, don't think they were married but they were around 40ish.
Anyway, throughout the trip her "man" kept talking to me about different things,all quite innocent.
She on the other hand thought that i was "stealing her man".
Suppose it's because i was young and pretty .
But one night she had a right scream at me (too much wine methinks) and accused me of being a man stealer.
But this bloke was not interested but she took it all the wrong way because she was insecure.
She should have been glad that the real "man stealer" had already shaked up with the guide.
Don't understand this seperation thing. You are either together or you're not.

What a terrible example your behaviour is to your children, and the only person you 'love' is yourself! I am not attacking you personally, just your dubious morals and if you were totally happy with your choices why are you seeking feedback on here.

wtf ???

We are seperated, going to divorce, but we are still friends.

I am not insecure, I don't think she is out to "steal" first husband he is not mine to be "stolen", I think she is rude, and I think she has no social skills as she wants to be a half inch from your face when she speaks to you (if she deems you worthy of being spoken to that is)

Also as she likes to hang off of every man she see's maybe she is the one resembling a feline?

Bloody hell fire ImA! That's a bit uncalled for.

By Imaparenttoo on Tue 24-Jun-08 16:09:34
What a terrible example your behaviour is to your children, and the only person you 'love' hmm is yourself! I am not attacking you personally, just your dubious morals and if you were totally happy with your choices why are you seeking feedback on here.

Ok so HOW is being friends with the father of my children setting them a bad example?

Should I tell them oh daddy is a fuckwit and we must all hate him?

How is splitting up with someone before you have a relationship with (and in no way because you are want to) someone else setting a bad example....

Should I have stayed with DH1 and slept about??

I was asking AIBU about the rudeness.

God I feel so sorry for you if you think that leaving a relationship then finding a new one but being friends with your Ex is bad.... and god help your children is all I can say

I recognise that story from Ripeberry from somewhere else

Trippety-trap.

See what you mean Kimi.
If she does that again why not do a mock wave in her face and say Hi!
If she has any social skill she should be embarassed.
We have someone in our playground who likes to "barge in" on private conversations.
She'll just push her way into circles and start spouting off rubbish.
I've always told my DH if he went off with another woman, i'd have words with her first and then he'd better watch out.
Meowwwww!

Regardless of your situation ignoring you like that is rude.

Getmeoutofhere. How can i be a troll? This kind of thing happens all the time.
Be it in the local pub or on holiday.

"I'm not attacking you personally"
ROFFLE! Yes, dear, you are being just adorable.

Maybe she just dose not like cats

/Kimi makes note to self to sleep around, hate DH1, poison the childrens minds against him, refuse him access, screw him with the CSA, demand half the house, oh and sleep around some more.....

Can someone get me a kipper and scratch behind my left ear please......

Howzabout a nice saucer of milk?

My apologies ripeberry, I saw the post from imaparentoo and lumped yours with that.

Ima, your comments are absolutely uncalled for imo. Kimi has come back to this thread this morning, obviously feeling better about things, and has some clarified some points which had previously been misunderstood (by me! ).

Kimi, it is fantastic that you and your (ex)DH are able to have a friendly relationship. The beaver woman is just a rude cow who should probably know better.

No problem! Just started worrying if you were THAT lady from the Corsican holiday but then you would be in your 60's by now!
It did make me larf at the time