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Bonnie blue risky sexual behaviour whilst pregnant

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Jellysweets13 · Today 17:22

If you’re not interested in discussing this then feel free to scroll on by.

A lot of us will know who Bonnie Blue is. The porn star who slept with 1000 men and various other stunts. Loves to rage bait especially to women.

She’s now pregnant, probably around 4-6 months.

If she’s to be believed she’s still working and filming and her latest stunt was to hold a baby shower in which she invited strangers to urinate over her and then have sex with her.

Obviously this has created a lot of outrage and disgust and there are comments everywhere online saying that she is not only sexualising her baby but that social services should be involved.

I’m not completely convinced that she actually doing these things for real. She has an X page showing clips, but it could all be fake or AI.

But let’s say for a moment that she really is having sex with strangers and letting them urinate on her. Where is the line drawn between her body her choice and saying that she’s putting the baby at risk and social services should be involved?

I’m very much usually of the opinion of women having autonomy and choice, but it seems like very risky behaviour and the child is going to have to endure a lot of negative comments and attention because of the choices the mother is making. She doesn’t need to do these things whilst pregnant she is a millionaire.

Yabu - her body her choice
Yanbu - it’s a social services case

OP posts:
RoseField1 · Today 19:49

Daygloboo · Today 19:49

As i said before, i think this probably constitutes child abuse..

Why though?
What is the actual impact on the child?

RoseField1 · Today 19:51

DelphinoPlaza · Today 19:30

If it was a regular working class woman doing a golden baby shower and eating semen mixed with baby food, who conceived her child in a 400-man orgy, this would absolutely be used for SS involvement.

Edited

Not necessarily. There has to be evidence of actual harm or risk of harm. Finding it icky and creepy isn't that.

desperatemum1234 · Today 19:51

Jellysweets13 · Today 17:35

https://x.com/BonnieBlue_xoxo

WARNING for graphic content. But if anyone has any doubts have a look for yourself.

I am traumatised by that.
What is her agenda? Just rage bait for money? Referring to herself as slut, whore etc. Always saying “your husband” is a fan etc. It’s just bizarre.
And now a baby, the most vulnerable creature imaginable, is involved. I despair.

Glowingup · Today 19:51

Jellysweets13 · Today 18:52

SS do get involved with pregnant women.

It’s very common. They also can and do remove babies at birth if they are deemed to be at risk.

I’m not saying that that will happen in this case, it it’s incorrect to simply say that the unborn baby has no rights therefore SS have no remit.

They can’t actually do anything until the baby is born though. They can’t keep the mum locked up or supervised until she gives birth unless she lacks mental capacity.
Lots of women will potentially put themselves at risk of STDs during pregnancy. It’s unlikely that the baby will be damaged, eg HIV has a low mother to fetus transmission rate.
She is a disgusting excuse for a human and will never be a good mum but I don’t think anything can be done.

Zov · Today 19:51

RoseField1 · Today 19:49

Why though?
What is the actual impact on the child?

I can't believe anyone even needs to ask.

RoseField1 · Today 19:52

JustSawJohnny · Today 19:32

My worry for the child in utero is how many men she's going to allow to shag her.

Guidance on sex in pregnancy is clearly based on the assumption of one partner and average amounts of sex across an elongated period of time, not a hundred odd men lined up for a hours of constant banging!

I'm sure she makes them use condoms but they break. If she's taking risks with STIs then so is her unborn child. Plus you can catch UTIs, parasitic infections and herpes etc from infected human urine.

WHY isn't her instinct to protect the baby kicking in?

I genuinely hope SS take that child at birth and there are VERY few situations I'd openly hope that. It is absolutely brutal to take a child from birth but the kid is not safe.

Better to grow up with an adopted family and to be oblivious to the hideousness of their birth Mother.

Guidance on sex in pregnancy? Huh? I don't believe anyone has the right to guide anyone on how much sex, with whom and how they have sex while pregnant!
Social services will not be taking the baby away because its mother is a porn actor. I can tell you that for nothing.

Jellysweets13 · Today 19:52

Samysungy · Today 19:44

I judge ppl on how they care for their kids..

You are yet to tell me what evidence you have that she will abuse her child?

Can you elaborate on what type of abuse you think she will do to her child and what gives you that idea?

Sexualising a baby shower and calling it a golden shower, eating baby food mixed with semen is stepping into pedophile territory.

Allowing strange disgusting men to urinate all over you and then selling the video as part of some sick violating a pregnant woman is going to cause the baby serious psychological harm once it’s old enough to understand.

Having sex with strangers whilst pregnant is putting yourself at risk of disease which could have serious consequences to the baby.

If you can’t see how her behaviour is harmful then you are either being argumentative for the sake of it or you have a screw loose.

OP posts:
RoseField1 · Today 19:53

Zov · Today 19:51

I can't believe anyone even needs to ask.

I Am asking. I am a social worker thinking this through. What harm has she actually caused to the baby? Apart from the harm of having a baby as a high profile porn actor? Because that in itself will not be evidence of harm or child abuse.

Daygloboo · Today 19:54

RoseField1 · Today 19:49

Why though? I'm being devil's advocate and thinking it through professionally. What emotional harm, other than growing up the child of a famous porn actor will this baby experience as a result of its mother's sexual behaviour?

But what about potential physical harm. If she doesnt know who these men are how can she be sure one of them isnt a dreadfully sick individual who could use the opportinity attack the baby as some kind of sick fantasy. I woild have thought there were strong grounds for removal of the child when born.

Zov · Today 19:54

RoseField1 · Today 19:53

I Am asking. I am a social worker thinking this through. What harm has she actually caused to the baby? Apart from the harm of having a baby as a high profile porn actor? Because that in itself will not be evidence of harm or child abuse.

You are a SOCIAL WORKER?!

chocoluv · Today 19:55

TeaPot496 · Today 18:49

An unborn baby has no legal rights so at present SS have no remit

I know someone who was smoking crack whilst pregnant and SS removed the baby as soon as it was born.

I don’t know how much input they had whilst she was pregnant but it was obviously some sort of input.

She also tried running away so they couldn’t find her and it was seen as quite a big deal as she needed to keep them updated with her address and what hospital she was giving birth at etc.

Obviously there is a grey area as smoking cigarettes or having some alcohol is fine but smoking crack, being in an abusive relationship or being with a sex offender would cause SS to get involved.

I guess it’s more about the risk after the baby’s born.

Badum · Today 19:55

I don't think sti is a likely risk. The industry is normally heavily regulated in terms of health

I imagine if asked she could probably provide an accurate list of participants and their health screenings etc

That's the thing that makes it different from a random woman

Zov · Today 19:55

Daygloboo · Today 19:54

But what about potential physical harm. If she doesnt know who these men are how can she be sure one of them isnt a dreadfully sick individual who could use the opportinity attack the baby as some kind of sick fantasy. I woild have thought there were strong grounds for removal of the child when born.

This .^ And many other reasons too. It shocks and frightens me that someone claiming to be a social worker thinks that this unborn baby is not in any danger.

SMH.

shuggles · Today 19:56

Jellysweets13 · Today 17:43

Yes I agree.

I’m fairly open minded I know people have fetishes but fetishes involving pregnant women and particularly degrading a pregnant woman.

Just why?

But you've made a leap in logic, in that urinating on someone is a form of degradation. That's strictly how you frame it in your mind and your head. I certainly don't see it as degrading.

RoseField1 · Today 19:56

Jellysweets13 · Today 19:52

Sexualising a baby shower and calling it a golden shower, eating baby food mixed with semen is stepping into pedophile territory.

Allowing strange disgusting men to urinate all over you and then selling the video as part of some sick violating a pregnant woman is going to cause the baby serious psychological harm once it’s old enough to understand.

Having sex with strangers whilst pregnant is putting yourself at risk of disease which could have serious consequences to the baby.

If you can’t see how her behaviour is harmful then you are either being argumentative for the sake of it or you have a screw loose.

She's sexualising her body and her pregnancy, not the baby. It's a fine line but it's there.

chocoluv · Today 19:56

Jellysweets13 · Today 19:52

Sexualising a baby shower and calling it a golden shower, eating baby food mixed with semen is stepping into pedophile territory.

Allowing strange disgusting men to urinate all over you and then selling the video as part of some sick violating a pregnant woman is going to cause the baby serious psychological harm once it’s old enough to understand.

Having sex with strangers whilst pregnant is putting yourself at risk of disease which could have serious consequences to the baby.

If you can’t see how her behaviour is harmful then you are either being argumentative for the sake of it or you have a screw loose.

If this is true then she sounds like a peadophile and surely that is grounds for SS involvement!!!

Jellysweets13 · Today 19:57

Badum · Today 19:55

I don't think sti is a likely risk. The industry is normally heavily regulated in terms of health

I imagine if asked she could probably provide an accurate list of participants and their health screenings etc

That's the thing that makes it different from a random woman

She’s not just a regular porn actor though.

Part of her selling point is that she has sex with strangers and randoms off the street.

She isn’t having sex with sti tested professionals.

OP posts:
shuggles · Today 19:57

@Jellysweets13 Sexualising a baby shower and calling it a golden shower, eating baby food mixed with semen is stepping into pedophile territory.

This is seriously reaching. Both sex acts you described have absolutely nothing to do with paedophilia.

Badum · Today 19:57

There's also many many pregnant porn stars/ only fans people

Its not solely her, and I doubt they've all had their kids removed

Zov · Today 19:57

Also, where is the actual evidence that this person (Bonnie Blue) shagged with 1057 'men?' (In 24 hours...) I have never seen any actual evidence of it. Just her saying she has. No-one would be a part of screening it anywhere, so we only have her word for it. She is clearly deranged, so it's very likely untrue. She has shagged a LOT of men though, and should never be allowed to keep that baby...

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RoseField1 · Today 19:58

Daygloboo · Today 19:54

But what about potential physical harm. If she doesnt know who these men are how can she be sure one of them isnt a dreadfully sick individual who could use the opportinity attack the baby as some kind of sick fantasy. I woild have thought there were strong grounds for removal of the child when born.

What? Do you mean while she's pregnant? I don't actually understand your point. Do you think she'll be taking the baby with her on porn shoots?

EmeraldShamrock000 · Today 19:58

Samysungy · Today 19:38

Nope as having sex doesn't mean she is a bad parent.

What is it about being sexually active that makes her a bad parent?

Does she not feed the child when it is born? Will the child go unwashed? Will it go without childcare? What is your concern and what evidence suggests she will:
neglect said child
abuse said child
harm said child
not meet their needs?

Is the child at risk of future emotional damage? Yes 💯
That’s a big one for SS removal.
I think authorities let Katie Prices children down terribly, as a result, they are damaged and have been placed in care, should have done it years earlier before the catastrophe.

Zov · Today 20:00

RoseField1 · Today 19:58

What? Do you mean while she's pregnant? I don't actually understand your point. Do you think she'll be taking the baby with her on porn shoots?

FML. 🤦‍♀️

Backedoffhackedoff · Today 20:00

Jellysweets13 · Today 19:52

Sexualising a baby shower and calling it a golden shower, eating baby food mixed with semen is stepping into pedophile territory.

Allowing strange disgusting men to urinate all over you and then selling the video as part of some sick violating a pregnant woman is going to cause the baby serious psychological harm once it’s old enough to understand.

Having sex with strangers whilst pregnant is putting yourself at risk of disease which could have serious consequences to the baby.

If you can’t see how her behaviour is harmful then you are either being argumentative for the sake of it or you have a screw loose.

How can something that doesn’t involve infants or children be straying into pedophilia?!

Frequency · Today 20:00

Fetishising pregnancy is not remotely connected to pedophilia. Pedophiles are, by definition, aroused by pre-pubescent bodies. Pregnant bodies are the opposite of that.

Also, a fetus is not a child, nor is it a baby.

I don't like what Bonnie Blue does; it is a form of extreme self-harm, imo, but let's save the judgment for the vile men who not only encourage this by paying for it, asking for it, and promoting it, but also willingly participate.

BB either has some kind of personality disorder, is being exploited, or is a very sick woman who is doing this for money and a nice lifestyle, among other reasons. What do the disgusting men involved gain from it?