What a dick move - am I right?

[TeutoburgForest]

Just got on busy train in London. On a table a man is sat with his bag on the seat next to him and his coat on the seat opposite him - basically making it difficult for people to sit on 2/3 of the remaining free seats. Is this common??

lol ! simples :))

I've been on trains where they've announced that the only thing allowed on a seat is a human bum, so if you've got you bag or coat on one, move it. We never used to be so selfish/though less as a nation.

He then grabbed the strap and I stood up as he pulled it out from beneath me. I just thought ‘aye that’ll be right!’

It’s very common and people get away with it because others are too polite or afraid of confrontation to say anything. If someone called them out they would most likely move without a word

He stood up and grabbed the strap of him bag and pulled at it, I stood up to let him pull it off the seat then sat back down. Utter clown!

I know I’m BU but I don’t bother with politeness in these circumstances any more. They KNOW they’re taking up seats that people want but have to be asked to clear them? Rude as fuck.

i just say “move your bag”. They can tut at me all they like. I’m post-menopausal and IDGAF.

my dh commutes most days into london=he hasnt got patirnce anymore just looks at them and if they dont move their bag he sits on it

I prefer the aisle seat on both buses and planes. I don’t give a hoot whether the middle seat (on a plane) or the window seat (on a bus) is empty or not. I will politely get up and move aside enough to let anyone who wants the empty seat move past me to take it. Simple.

I sit on an aisle seat because of a man sexually assaulting me when I was sat in a window seat on a bus when I was a teenager. Since then I’ve never put myself in a position where I can be trapped in. I don’t take that seat hoping that I’ll get to be alone. It’s a bonus if I do. If someone wants to sit in the window seat I’ll happily move to let them in, but don’t expect me to take the window seat just because you think I’ve only taken the aisle seat to get 2 seats. You’ve said yourself you prefer a window seat, does it honestly not occur to you many people prefer an aisle seat?

Rude entitled behaviour. People like that spread themselves out to discourage other people from sharing the space, you see it in coffee shops all the time.

gotta be careful sometimes as ppl can kick off back at ya, that's the thing

I sit on the aisle seat because i prefer it. If you want to sit by the window I'll get up and let you in

Ha. Good for you. I doubt he'll refuse to move his bag in future.

Use your words....

Excellent. I have seen a standing passenger (whose requests for someone to move their bag were ignored) lift the bag, dump it in the aisle and sit down. Bag owner twat was furious, how dare you touch my stuff, now my bag is on the floor etc. Someone else yelled "well go and get it then". More protests. Was told loudly to shut up by another passenger. He wisely shut up, realising it was him against the rest of the carriage!

Also, when I’m feeling exceptionally twatty, if it’s a burly looking tall younger man, I’ll head tilt and ask them if they need some help getting their bag into the overhead storage. I’m five foot nothing.

That's fair enough but this poster is talking about aisle passengers who get angry when asked to let someone access the window seat.

Just say ‘excuse me please’

it’s polite, it’s not ‘excruciating’

it’s just nicely asking.

It’s basic ‘adulting’

there is no need for anyone to get in such a tizz or be rude or seethe or anything else.

it really is a minor annoyance that is so easily resolved.

Some people are a bit oblivious to others needs and spread out - so you just politely say ‘excuse me’ then take your seat.

She gave one example.
She also said i think they do it so they can have two seats. She also said they mostly accept. This is because most people who sit in an aisle seat..... shock horror... prefer an aisle seat. Just like she prefers a window seat.

She's not the only one allowed a preference.

I think I would just rather ascribe this sort of behaviour to things other than someone being a dick so just default to assertive but polite. Maybe they didn't notice, are generally oblivious, had a mental blip, were reading a really good book, or yeah maybe they are a dick but there's no need to be rude until they prove themselves a dick is there? It just makes you angry for no reason when you could just say 'can I sit here?'

Of course it's a selfish twat move, but it's easily remedied. "People need these seats, move your things please."

When I was a young woman traveling on commuter packed trains, there was a constant battle with men wanting more than their own seat. I don't care if you're genitalia is feeling hot and claggy, close your legs. I would put a coat or umbrella in between us so that my using my seat couldn't be misunderstood as getting off on the unwanted physical contact. Anyway, there used to be coat hooks above the inner of a 4 seat section. A man begrudgingly moved to just occupy the outer seat, leaving his jacket hanging in "my" space. I sat down heavily and it snapped his jacket off the hook with a little rip sound. I handed it to him and carried on about my day. I'm petty, this is a fond memory of mine.

Me too

I get the train from Norwich to London but get on half way - its full of people doing this sort of thing. I always ask them to move their stuff so I can sit down, but bemusingly the train is full of people who would seemingly rather stand rather than ask someone to move their bag, and people who would not move their bag even when they see there are people standing.

One time there was a girl lying across two seats, with headphones on and her eyes shut - I had to touch her shoulder before she would acknowledge me and give me a seat. Another time on a packed train I have sat between two people on the aisle and window seats of a three seater, the huffing and incremental scooting up was incredible.

and I've seen worse on a train, thanks to a couple - u can work out the rest :(