I don't care

[Thoughtlife]

In the last hour, both of my adult children have told me via text they're bisexual.

AIBU that I don't care?

Yeah don’t say this to a gay or bisexual child and then expect them to remain in your life.

Have they really

There have been a lot of AIBU threads recently that are dismissive of gay people, anti-Pride, why don't they keep it to themselves, straight people don't need to come out etc etc. Quelle surprise that a lot of those piggyback on this site's pre-existing transphobia to get some good old-fashioned homophobia in there too.

You don't have an oversharer do you.

Then say about a new person you've met or fancy. If you don't need to announce your straight you don't need to announce your bi or gay

But what do you want to be treat the same way as everyone else or to be given a medal nobody gives a shit its 2026.

Two of mine are gay. When they told me I replied that I knew already and it it was cool. As long as they were happpy that's all I was concerned with they are still the same people they were before they told me.

if they say anymore you could answer by asking them if they would like you to tell them about your specific sexual preferences

I actually do! And if it’s important to her, I’ll listen.
Anyway, my point was that people are reducing it down to just sex. ‘I don’t want to hear about their sex lives’. Fair enough, but being bisexual isn’t just about having sex with men and women. It’s about relationships. I’d never tell my kids that I don’t care about their relationships.

It’s not just about sex.

Did your sibling invite his father to speak about his sex life or is this a one direction only conversation?

I don’t understand all of this ‘coming out’ business.

I’m bisexual and never came out, i just introduced my then girlfriend to people.

my eldest did the same pretty much. He told me that he was going on a date and when I asked about ‘her’ he just said “his name is Peter, he works with me” and I told him to have a great time, exactly the same as always.

But the op’s kids didn’t speak about relationships they were having. If they had then the op could have had an interest.

For all those who say that it’s not just about a sex life, well then the op’s kids should have said what else was on their mind. Otherwise it IS just about their sex life

Where about do you live? Is the area MC? This isn't happening across the country, at least not with the boys, here in the NW, largely WC areas.
Not that being gay wouldn't be accepted, but it's usually announced once the young person is having a proper relationship, over 18, just in case there is any backlash.
@Thepeopleversuswork what did your sibling want from your Dad? A parent could go the other way and start to have worries and fears, from STDs to never being able to have children.

When my sister told me she bi I said "Oh OK!". She then didn't speak to me for 6 months as apparently I had been dismissive of her big reveal when actually I didn't think it was a big deal.

What a strange thread. What outcome were you looking for OP?

Of course you should care about your kids but it doesn’t matter what their sexual orientation is.

Hetero is the default so it’s not the same. Are you saying if they texted you something personal you would respond by saying you’re not interested? “Mum, I’ve met someone I really like”
“Who cares, I’m not interested in your love life”?

No

It was a big deal for her to tell you. You were dismissive of that.

Well we don’t actually know what the kids said, the OP has only posted twice and hasn’t given much detail. She says ‘they told me they were bisexual’, but I doubt the messages just said ‘hi mum, I’m bisexual’.
Regardless, sexual orientation is very rarely just about sex.

Perhaps the bi or gay person wants to tell their mum (or whoever). Are you dictating to those people what they can or can’t do?

I did too. People are reading too much in to it.

Then the expression is 'I don't mind'. Not caring means something else.

I don't care about my child's sexuality.
I do fully support pride (including the TQ+) because I know not everyone is as tolerant as me and the community still face a lot of prejudice.

No, it's not. It's about who they may fall in love with and affects their chances of conceiving children.