To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

[Cloudyonasunnyday]

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

You had to make sure he paid for things for his own child? Oh dear. I know you meant this as a light hearted post but I think there are more issues here than the number of chicken pieces in a takeaway.

What do you actually think happens in Indian takeaways? The pieces of chicken are counted

Thats right, he'll be accused of having a penis portion.

I would count it out too, to make sure its fair.

I don't know that it is, it's just that I say something and he's less food motivated than me. He probably wouldn't say anything.

I do this 😕. I'm trying to be fair. I didn't realise it was so frowned upon.

DH is generous to a fault and always at massively over orders anyway, so the likelihood of counting bits of chicken out is non existent
I love a man who eats like a horse but is extravagant and generous in body and spirit
Any whiff of tightness or grabbiness is the most unattractive quality going in a man to me. Luckily DH is neither !!
Honestly, counting bits of chicken lol- does he do the last dribble in a wine bottle thing-eeking a smidge from glass to glass , head down low eyeing the levels ??
When I see this in restaurants or with friends I’m screaming inside -order/ open another bottle you tight buggers!!

This isn’t he “eyeballed it”, this is greed on his behalf and a complete disrespect for you. Any decent DH/partner wouldn’t do this and you shouldn’t need to point it out to him. It’s got nothing to do with attention to detail, it’s rude of any DH/DW/partner to take the lions share of a meal and he knows exactly what he’s doing if he does this continually. Personally I wouldn’t be taking food he’d already put on his plate, I’d be making a point of ordering a fresh new dish to be delivered. What a pathetic excuse for a husband leaving you with just the sauce and you have to ask him for some of the food he’s already served himself.

This wouldn't bother me either but maybe it's because last time I got a curry I'm sure there was only about 6 or 7 lumps of actual chicken in it. So maybe he's divvying it up so that you both get a decent portion of the meat instead of one person spooning "half" onto their plate with all the good stuff and the other person getting nothing but sauce and onions. My DH's a bit like this and I'd rather that than the sort that always serves themselves the good stuff first for virtue of being a bloke who needs more calories (even though you split the bill)

If he's actually tight in other ways like doing rounds at a pub and him getting weird if you're ordering drinks a bit more expensive then his or insisting on itemised splitting of dinner bills, especially if you've decided to be in a committed relationship and no longer just dating.

It's the kind of thing I'd do, but I think I have undiagnosed autism and adhd.

I do it because it seems logical to me

Massive ick. Sounds like my brother when we were children, measuring out our shared can of coke we were allowed twice a week!

Is he worried about taking too much, or worried about not having enough?

I would always give the person I'm cooking / eating with the bigger portion if it was an obvious bigger portion, or say, I'd always give someone the nicer piece of salmon (unless it was something I had picked and was mostly for me, yano?)

I'd never go as far as counting chicken and it's funny because the sauce is the nicest bit so I'd rather forgo any meat and have extra sauce, i guess it's probably best just to ask 'why you counting?' it can be jokey if needs be, good luck!

I did not see this was almost 10 pages in, im sure my questions have already been asked whoops

I'd have to dump him.
Very petty.

I'd probably find it a bit odd by not cringey. When I am dividing up meat/fish dishes (that I have made), I make sure the meat eaters have equal portions and will count pieces of meat (and cut them into a dividable number first).

I haven’t heard someone say, “what a gimp,” for so long that reading this made me laugh. Completely agree though.

If any of my friends or a partner did something like OP’s partner, I wouldn’t be able to not take the piss out of them over it and it would be brought up from time to time.
In fact I’d probably make a point of doing something like pretending I was counting out the chips/grains of rice.

Not a takeaway but when I cook anything with king prawns in I count them out evenly. If there is one left over I get that, chef's reward.

I works have done this when my DH was alive. I wouldn't count aloud or anything, but assuming that we're talking reasonably large chunks of meat, I'd ensure that the portions were fair, which would include mentally counting.

I'm not stingy in any way.

Could he have a form of OCD? Most people would eyeball it.

But not a dealbreaker of he shares fairly.

Op. I put YANBU. But, at the same time, I am neurodiverse and there is something intrinsically satisfying abour divvying up a meal in in an equal way. It brings me joy in the same way as a good spreadsheet or tidy database does.

i count out the chicken pieces when i serve at home for me and dh

OP you are having to fight to get him to pay for things for your joint child? Does this not worry you?

Major major ick. Why are you sharing? I understand sharing sides but surely you should just get your own mains!

I wouldnt go as far as counting out the pieces but I would try endeavour to make sure the potions looked equal. I remember my mother having to count out and measure stuff because me and my brother argued so much about who got the most