To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

[Cloudyonasunnyday]

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

I do this, it stems from growing up extremely poor and making sure my brother's had an equal share of food.

Did your partner have a difficult upbringing?

He's not about being fair, read the comment about the arguing over financials when OP was going on mat leave. He's a tight petty man who begrudges his partner, mother of his child a stray extra piece of fucking chicken.

She out earns him, she's probably better off never marrying him.

I think with that, it wasnt the law then as it is now. Womens money was theirs but the husband was expected to still "provide" even in divorce. So maybe thats where her thinking is, if its hers in her name its safe. She will also never ever be told that she is wrong.

As a twin who grew up sharing a lot of things and always having half each, this honestly wouldn’t bother me. Everyone gets an equal portion and pieces of chicken, fair and square.

I do this sort of thing myself all the time. Don’t want anyone missing out and being disappointed with a smaller portion.

That would give me the ick x1000. In fact, the plating it up would make me cringe. We’d never do this. If we get a takeaway, we put it out on the table or the island for people to serve themselves.

And what if as much as you need means the other person gets less.
This wouldn't bother me but if I were I'd just order something for me and he could order something for himself.

😂😂😂 ladies if you eat a quarter of your man’s takeaway, do you even love him??

I would order my own.

😂You again!

Is this the closest thing you have to a hobby? Hanging around Mumsnet and posting ridiculous stuff just to get attention?! I am sorry that RL for you must be so shit.

If me and DH were to share a meal (that would never happen), he'd make sure that he got 2/3 and I got a 1/3. I admit that he does have a bigger appetite than me though and usually finishes off my meal when we do get a takeaway 🤣.

Eww

Not normal and would be an ex as showing you who he is

My partner is much bigger than me with a bigger appetite. He still assumes I want half because he's not a dick.

Stinginess is always unattractive

I grew up hungry and find it hard not to do this. Even when I tell myself I'm not doing it.....I am a little bit. Mostly with naan. Don't take my share of naan.

Same here. I’d eat about 1/3 of what my husband does, if that. Not competitive undereating, as MN is so fond of throwing out - I weigh 2 stone less than he does. He finishes my dinner every evening.

Yeah I also cook more for him when I'm cooking, but only because he eats more. When he cooks we have leftovers because he cooks as much for me as he does for himself.

It depends whether he's doing it in a scrupulously unselfish "I mustn't accidentally take more than my fair share" way or a selfish "I must secure my rights to each last bit of paneer I can reasonably claim" way. In an ideal world enough takeaway is ordered that neither of you could eat another bite and there's plenty left over, but if you order on a budget and that's not going to happen you presumably both want ti be reasonably equally fed?

I would too, counting bits of meat would give me the ick if anyone did it.

I’m another one who eats less than my DH, it’s not a flex or an under eating boast before anyone starts, I just have a smaller appetite. We open the containers, I take what I’ll eat, he takes what he wants and there’s always plenty left if we want more, we never order just one dish though.

I could imagine my DH actually crying if he was expected to share half a Chinese dish.

Ugh… just no. My local Chinese does massive portions. If my husband and I order a few dishes, there’s absolutely no way I could eat exactly half of everything, I physically just can’t. I take whatever I fancy, and the rest is for him. 🤷‍♀️

I think a lot of it comes down to communication as well. But if someone genuinely feels hard done by because they got one less prawn toast than their partner, then there are probably bigger issues at play… 😬

I actually know a couple who divorced and got so petty by the end that they literally split everything right down the middle, but that was very much driven by him. Even cutlery! They even divided the Wii controllers, they took one each!!!!! 🫣😂😂

I'm only speaking from my experience as an only child. I don't share food because it would stress me out if I thought i was taking more than my share so I get what I want from the takeaway and DH gets what he wants. No counting chicken or rice grains required and we always have leftovers 😁

I’d definitely do this to make sure he got the same as me rather than making sure I got more. I’d want it to be equal.

Absolutely 🤣. It just wouldn't happen here. Sometimes when we eat out, the dishes they've served and I just look at his face and he looks like he is devastated.

it really wouldn’t bother me. I mean why are you sharing a take out meal? Cost? Or got loads of other bits / starters and not that hungry? I suppose the problem would be if it’s a cash constraints would he fancy sharing your favourite dish haha or would he want his 🤪

I could count the pieces only because I wouldn’t want half of it as my husband is significantly bigger and taller so I’d want less than half and for him to take the majority well 60:40 etc) and he would generally try to give me half or more and he needs more calories than me as he’s bigger.

So it depends on his reasoning! ND / Asd? or maybe he wants to make sure you have the same as him to look after your baby