Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To not have a drink with your food!?

185 replies

calltheyep · 04/06/2026 19:08

Do you know what blows my mind… people who have their dinner with no drink. Like no drink at all. No juice no tea no water. How do you people do it?

what do you think?

YABU - a drink with food is not necessary
YANBU - not having a drink with your food makes you a psycho!!

OP posts:
BlackRowan · Yesterday 09:23

Mumtobabyhavoc · 05/06/2026 01:17

No. That is not correct. 🤦‍♀️

Yes it is. People follow their bites with water instead of properly chewing food, and for good digestion you need to chew your food well. Then they also fill their stomach with food and water which has an impact on stomach acid’s concentration and is also bad for digestion. Here in this thread people are saying they can’t swallow food without water which means they are not chewing it well

darksideofthetoon · Yesterday 10:30

Drinking lots of liquid with food dilutes stomach acid making digestion less effective.

TheWineoftheChicken · Yesterday 11:05

darksideofthetoon · Yesterday 10:30

Drinking lots of liquid with food dilutes stomach acid making digestion less effective.

At least 10 people have already said that on this thread, and at least the same amount have pointed out that scientifically this is untrue 😊

zingally · Yesterday 12:03

I grew up ALWAYS having a drink with every single meal. And still do, whenever I visit my mum.
But otherwise... No... I just got out of the habit of it.
I usually have a drink with breakfast, because I often wake up feeling parched, but lunch and dinner. Rarely.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · Yesterday 12:12

I was brought up by a family of camels and consequently tend to drink large amounts but very infrequently, although as the the diet was mainly dry grass, leaves and salt-tolerant shrubs, a drink with food is always greatly appreciated.

darksideofthetoon · Yesterday 12:43

TheWineoftheChicken · Yesterday 11:05

At least 10 people have already said that on this thread, and at least the same amount have pointed out that scientifically this is untrue 😊

Adding a neutral liquid to acid, dilutes it. That’s basic chemistry. The stomach would then have to produce a lot more acid to try and compensate. Some young healthy people may be able to do that but not so much for older people.

Humans tend to lose stomach acid as they age so may struggle if they’re washing their meals down with liquids. But many people have low stomach acid to begin with due to such things as chronic use of antacids, H. pylori, nutrient deficiencies and junk food.

Gut and GI problems are so abundant these days and low stomach acid only makes it worse.

Diamondsareforever72 · Yesterday 12:45

ToadRage · 04/06/2026 19:14

I have to drink with food, due to the risk of swallow issues associated with my condition but what confuses me is people who have hot drinks with hot food. In my house hot drinks were for breakfast or mid morning or mid afternoon with a biscuit. Meals have cold drinks, soft drinks or wine/beer on the weekend. My husband and his parents always have tea or coffee with dinner. Its totally normal to him, they are weird.

Edited

My mum would have a cup of tea with everything, including curries 🤣🤦‍♀️

Cheese55 · Yesterday 12:49

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 04/06/2026 20:32

Looks like I’m in the weirdo gang too! It’s never occurred to me to have a drink with food.

Yep weirdo here, never occurred to me and I have to say I don't know anyone else who does either.

CoastalCalm · Yesterday 12:53

I have to drink a lot alongside food so always get a fresh litre of water before I start to eat

KeepDancing1 · Yesterday 13:47

FrangipaniBlue · 04/06/2026 21:17

What’s the reason people say they “need” or “have to have” a drink either food? Beyond medical need.

I can take it ir leave it…… at home I rarely have a drink with food. At a restaurant I order a drink while waiting for food and might have some before then finish it after.

Because a meal should be a pleasure, not a recreation of a medieval witchcraft trial!

KeepDancing1 · Yesterday 13:52

sprigatito · 05/06/2026 09:12

We weren’t allowed a drink with food as children. Even when the food in question was as dry as a camel’s chuff. I can still remember the misery of trying to choke down stale peanut butter sandwiches and begging for a bit of way. My stepfather believed that all children were on a mission to avoid eating their food by “filling up on water”. If you got caught sneaking a few gulps out of the tap while he was out of the room, you got thumped.

My children were allowed free access to drinking water. Because we aren’t assholes. <yes, I’m very bitter>

Bless you, that sounds absolutely awful 😔

Didimum · Yesterday 13:56

I eat when I'm hungry and I drink when I'm thirsty – they don't always overlap? At breakfast time is the only time that they usually do.

BoredZelda · Yesterday 13:58

I never have a drink with my meal at home, it is entirely unnecessary. I have a drink with my meal when I’m out, mainly to stave off hunger whilst waiting.

Tshirtking · Yesterday 14:18

I have to drink while I eat to wash it down, I drink after every few mouthfuls of food otherwise I carnt eat. I only drink with meals unless it's a really hot day then I have an extra drink in the afternoon. Everyone's different

Stressedoutmummyof3 · Yesterday 14:25

I always have a drink with food. My parents, siblings, DH and kids do too. ILs on the other hand never do ( I must have converted DH). They will eat and then have a cup of tea afterwards.

phoenixrosehere · Yesterday 17:35

I realise I do have liquids during a meal only with things that are too sweet or salty to lessen the taste in my mouth..

Doteycat · Yesterday 17:41

I dont drink while i eat.
As i am currently treating an ulcer and acid reflux along with a hiatal hernia.
One of the methods to manage this is to not drink while eating and it has made a huge difference to me.
It always baffles me that people can be so ignorant as to assume someone is wierd because they do something different to them.

LaJacondeFumantLaPipe · Yesterday 17:41

My husband is like this. He rarely has water with a meal. He drinks a lot of tea throughout the day and the odd pint of squash. Hardly ever drinks water. He is also really slim naturally and never gains weight or anything despite eating a lot.

Doteycat · Yesterday 17:43

TheWineoftheChicken · Yesterday 11:05

At least 10 people have already said that on this thread, and at least the same amount have pointed out that scientifically this is untrue 😊

Im living proof its true.
Plus when my endocrinologist specialist doctor advised it, and he is the best in the country, i tend to believe him.
Plus it works.
HTH.

Itiswhysofew · Yesterday 17:44

I did, all of the time for many years, but don't seem to now.

Wednesdaysotherchild · Yesterday 17:55

Always a drink and often more than one at a time. Juice, tea and water for example. One drink is never enough! (i’m a thirsty person and I’m breastfeeding).

RampantIvy · Yesterday 18:10

Tshirtking · Yesterday 14:18

I have to drink while I eat to wash it down, I drink after every few mouthfuls of food otherwise I carnt eat. I only drink with meals unless it's a really hot day then I have an extra drink in the afternoon. Everyone's different

Even with wet foods?
Does your food get stuck? If this happens then, I don't want to worry you, but you really need to see your GP.

FrangipaniBlue · Yesterday 22:51

KeepDancing1 · Yesterday 13:47

Because a meal should be a pleasure, not a recreation of a medieval witchcraft trial!

Huh?

How is eating without a drink like a medieval witchcraft trial?

I understand for please ie enjoyment of a nice wine etc….. but that’s not “need” is it?

My question was why some posters say they “need” a drink or “cannot eat without one”

FrangipaniBlue · Yesterday 22:54

RampantIvy · Yesterday 18:10

Even with wet foods?
Does your food get stuck? If this happens then, I don't want to worry you, but you really need to see your GP.

Yes, or chew food more and slow down?!

GreenMarigold · Yesterday 23:00

We have water with every meal at home. I don’t need it to eat, but tend to down a glass as habit after the meal to help fill me up.