To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

2012
80 guests
8 deaths
21 births (probably more)
Edited to add 3 more to births whoops.

Got married 19 years ago with 100 guests and 19 people have died. I think about this quite a bit, especially on anniversaries, when we tend to look at the photos. Some of the losses have been very big and/or young - my dad, my best friend, my brother. Glad that they were there to be part of the memories though.

Got married less than 15 years ago and 33% of our guests have died. On the plus side, though, 17% of our guests have since been born...🤷‍♀️

(It was a very small wedding and my sister was pregnant.)

Also 20 births and three divorces/separations.

We had our silver wedding anniversary last year and as part of the celebrations we had our wedding video put onto a memory stick so we could show the kids. It was lovely seeing our dear departed relatives but felt a bit shocked realising how many had died. We only had about 60 people at the wedding

Three grandparents (the others had passed on before the wedding).
Both H's parents.
Two of H's siblings plus the last brother died this January, so all 3 now.
H''s uncle.
My aunt.
3 x family friends (parent's friends).
One of H's former school friends.
My workmate/friend.

(Possibly a couple more of the older folk we lost touch with.)

So 15 out of 60 in 25 years =25%.
😪

At least 23 babies born to guests since though plus probably more to people we list touch with!

The 4 grandparents who attended are all dead, but thats it. It was the only grandchild each saw marry so it was very special they were there.

My first wedding most of them, including the groom. I know my parents and his have died plus his one brother, my two aunties, it was a quiet wedding about 6 other people 7 including me but lost touch with them.
second wedding I escaped after the honeymoon! I would have thought his mother and step father may be dead by now but anyone else no idea. only a third were senior so odds are few of those too. I did read the other day his brother has been sentenced for rape always thought he might be that way.
third wedding I know the grooms mum died a while back and his father years ago. A few may have died from where we used to live but again not sure

We had a very small wedding, twenty eight years ago. There were seven guests. Three have died, but these were our elderly parents. We married in our late thirties, so I should imagine that if we had more guests of our parents' generation, quite a few would have died in the nearly thirty years since we tied the knot.

80 at our wedding 25 yrs ago.

The 3 grandparents who were there have died. One of DHs parents have died.
Other relatives are hanging on in there.
3 of DHs family's friends have died.

Have lost touch with a fair few ppl i have to say. There was a distant aunt who may have passed away.

Omg you escaped after the honeymoon!!!

Four out of 50 in 20 years. But we married in our early 40s and quite a few people had died before including all gps, both my dps and one of DH’s dp. So not many from the generation above us attended.

married just over 50 years ago. I know about my parents, inlaws and several older relatives but that's hardly surprising, also my husband is dead, no idea about percentage though.

Married 19 years. Maybe 80 guests and I’d say 6 have died. Bless them.

We had 120 guests of which I know 16 have died. Others that we have lost touch with may have died as well.

We have been married 27 years this month.

We had 100 guests and 10 have died.

The youngest were tragically 28, 38 and 54. The others were all mid eighties onwards with the oldest being DH great uncle who died at 97. The youngest one died of an undiagnosed heart issue and the other two younger ones died of cancer. My Mother died at 94 and my Uncle was close to 90. Those two plus DH Uncle had one thing in common they all had very physical jobs when young, fireman in the Blitz, dancer/circus acrobat and farmer. My Mother was fine till she was about 88, my Uncle and DH great uncle were fine till they both just dropped dead. No illness or anything, my Grandmother the Mother of my Uncle was the same.

Two couples split up at our wedding, well just after not on the day but because it sort of brought that up as a topic.

Married 4 years, nine family members have died at a quick count. Could possibly be more but have never thought about deaths in relation to marriage, lots of family members passed before we got married too so I was always sad that certain people couldn't be there, grandparents etc vs thinking about who has passed since

18 that I know of out of about 100 guests that attended 27 years ago. Most were 75 or older when they died.

80-ish guests at our wedding 15 years ago, 6 dead. Both my grandparents, my sibling, MIL, SIL, a friend.

Been married 8 years this month.
Only my grandfather has passed.

I’ve only been married 2 years so nobody dead yet but my wedding album is a mausoleum of dead relationships. So many couples that are no more and people we don’t speak to anymore even though it’s only been a short time.

My wedding was 12 years ago, we had about 80 guests and 3 are dead.

I had to really think about this.

we got married 13 years ago. I think 4 have died. My sister about 8 months after the wedding, my step dad about 4 years later and two uncles have died in the last couple of years. No one on my husband’s side has died.

30 years ago we had four guests. Two have died. So a 50% death rate for our guests!

Blimey, loads! I was 26 when I married and 62 now. I've lost MIL, FIL, my dad, my nan, grandma-in-law, lots of uncles and aunts. Also lost my husband two years ago.

No idea. We had about 180 about 24 years ago.
All the great uncles/aunts, grandparents and a couple of the parents are dead, plus one uncle. Roughly adding up, maybe 8-10 max.