To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

I eloped so didn't actually have these people there but out of the 50 people who would have been only 4 are dead 15 yrs on. My dad, dhs uncle, my nans sister and our friends son.

All of Dh's parents generation have died except for one who turns 100 this month.

Very similar. At least 15 that I can think of now, out out of about 80, but our wedding was a bit longer ago at 25 years and two deaths were recent.

Some were old, so "to be expected". But five were 65 or younger. Two were only in 30s. That seems a bit rubbish.

We got married 9 years ago.
125 guests, 5 have since died

It had already crossed my mind that this seemed like quite a lot of people to have lost. I've had the "there is no-one left" feeling! So in some that sense it is not as high a proportion as I thought. However, there are a fair few that we don't really see any more, and some we've lost touch with altogether (I imagine mostly still alive but not sure in all cases!) so that makes it seem like there are fewer left. I wasn't including small children in my total number of guests - they are all still around, thank goodness.

I’m divorced now but there were about 110 people at my wedding. 2 died on exh side and 2 on my side. Wedding was about 15 years ago.

Hardly any. I was 29 when I got married (11 yrs ago). One auntie has died & 2 grandparents (both the grandparents were in their 90s, the auntie was 74, so no one was "young".

Have you told the caterers.
Asbestos in the cake?

or

Someone with a grudge.
Police matter?

22 years ago, 110 guests, 1 death

I got married in 2014 (no longer together), we had about 45 guests and off the top of my head, 5 are no longer with us.

Have you considered seances?

My bil died 6 months after his wedding.

My mums is a very sad reminder of how short life is. Married 20 years (second marriage). My sister was very heavily pregnant in the picture and my baby niece was stillborn 6 days later at full term. My grandad was next, he had cancer when the photo was taken so was quite unwell, but a massive heart attack took him 4 weeks after the wedding. Then my 11 year old cousin who is holding my aunts hand in the picture was run over and killed in a terrible accident 4 months after the wedding. Another cousin, who was 2 in the photo, took his own life just a few months ago. It’s really sad to look at, approximately 30 guests (all family).

Im now divorced but on mine it’s just my MIL and one of the groomsmen. She smoked like a chimney and passed away age 60 to lung cancer. The groomsman died at the age of 24, he went to bed one night and never woke up. Undiagnosed heart condition. Everyone else is still alive, approx 80 guests.

3 that I know of - my father (who died at 91), and two who were lost to cancer before their time. But we are a very long lived family (both sides) so there's a good clutch of older relatives hanging on in there in their 90s.

@thinkofsomethingdifferent that's heartbreaking

We got married in 2022, had 130 guests. In the time since, the following have died

DHs uncle aged 59
FIL aged 51
Friends brother aged 19
DHs nan aged 81
My cousin aged 34

It's definitely not been a great time

Quite a few as we got married 23 years ago and some of the guests were elderly then. There have been two young deaths too.

So probably around 10-15 out of over 100 guests.

Married 30 years, small ceremony of 40 guests wider party of 100ish guests , i calculated 20 people have died,

Approaching 32 years married. 70 guests, 22 had died by the time we’d been married 28 years and there’s another 5 that could go at any moment and it wouldn’t be a shock. No veil worn. Still married though!

I think about 10 out of 100 …. married 2009, divorced now.

Married 15 years, lost 3 of 88 guests. Did have a few earlier life losses though.

Married coming up 6 years in September. Only one...my dad 😓

I’ve been married 18 years - 90 guests and 5 have died, however 3 of them were my mum, my dad & my grandad!

11 years (in 3 days!) and 4 have died - including my wonderful dad

OP sorry to hear about your divorce. Hope you are ok. This is so weird you posting this thread as I wondered the exact same thing a couple of nights ago when I was awake and I have never had this thought before.

It was 19th anniv last week, it was a very small wedding which I wanted as it was my 2nd. So maybe about 30 guests of whom 2 have died. One was my husband's gran who was in her mid 80s. Very sadly the other was one of the children attending who died 11 years later as a very young adult. However 5 babies have been born inthat time.

My 1st wedding was almost 28 years ago. As we divorced I've lost touch with lots of the people who attended. Again another very sad death though as my then MIL died only 7 months after our wedding. Both my nans and one of my uncles subsequently died. I am aware of at least 15 babies who were subsequently born though including my DS.

I'm so sorry for all the losses x