To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

Given that we’ve been married for almost 50 years, and that my mother dictated who was invited, I imagine that the majority of the 80-odd guests are dead. They were mostly her friends.

We have been married 12 years. We have lost my grandads sister, dh's great gran, my lovely fil, my aunt, my beloved uncle, 5 uncles of dh and 4 family friends of dh. So 14 people from our 200 guests. For a long time dd1 would want to watch our wedding dvd so she could see her grandad.

I like to look on the bright side though and there were many more babies born to guests from our wedding in the 12 years we have been married than people that have passed.

Married 25 years ago. About 120 in attendance. 2 dead (a parent and a grandparent).

Not sure which country in Asia you were married in, but years ago, we lived in India for 6 months and were invited to a wedding through a pretty tenuous link (but very much assured we were welcome to attend). It was a huge and wonderful event over 3 days (we just went to one day). I remember these long trestle tables being continually refreshed with delicious food, all served on banana leaf plates. We loved it, and felt very much part of the celebration, despite not knowing the bride or groom!

Wedding 16 years ago, 85ish guests - all still alive! No longer married but that’s a good thing!

20 years ago. 50 guests. 5 have died. 3 GPs, 1 MIL, 1 best mate. Memories tend to make me cry so I don't usually dwell on them.

I like to think the baby was “there” for our wedding, and in fact was the only baby allowed at our very adult only wedding. It was such a nice thing to have the baby the next day too.

I got married 9 years ago and can’t even remember who the 70 guests were!
3 of the guests have died, all from my side of the family. Husband still has all 4 grandparents though so I imagine in the next couple of years the number will go up rather significantly.

We have lost three parents, five aunts and uncles, and I think that’s it!

that generation are now in their 80s and 90s so it’s not shocking.

My wedding was 30 years ago, we had around 100 guests and I can think of 10 that are no longer with us and were gone before our 20th. I am struggling to remember the full guest list and would need to find the wedding album and do a count up but that is too sad to do.

Married for 14 years, 5 of our 40 guests have died. Two nans, Two Uncles and an Auntie.
We are no contact with a big chunk of the guests now though!

Married 24 years, had about 65 guests to the day do and about 120 for the evening. Only 4 have died to my knowledge but no longer in touch with all of them!

Read some of the replies about divorced couples and was intrigued so counted that - 4 of those!

Ouch, painful 🥹 I can’t count specifics, but around a third of my wedding party are no longer with us. Small wedding - about 50 guests, 20 years ago.

Lost - Both DH’s parents, three quarters of one of my relative’s family (in one year). My niece (different branch), killed at just 30 years old. Another aunt and uncle, a few of DH’s friends, ugh.

25 years ,(separated 8, Divorced 2). 50 guests. 3 out of 4 parents dead. Grandparents dead. No contact with in laws. Little contact with family. Frequent contact with moat important guest )my unofficial adoptive mother). My wedding pic is a lost world.

Married 22 years - two very elderly guests have died since the wedding, however, every couple who attended have split bar one.

19 years and all still standing, we did have a very small wedding though, and two of our parents had died before we married

Only 4 of us at ceremony, about 50 at our night 'do' which was a year after as dad and brother were very ill for ceromony. 17 and 16 years ago respectively.
Out of original 4 (us and 2 witnesses) all still with us.
But DH has sadly just been diagnosed with grade 4 pancreatic cancer.
Out of the night revellers, my brother who was sick sadly didn't make it to that, my dad did but died soon after.
Around 6 more have died since, not all elderly either, my DSil, breast cancer ,in her 50s and my DS in his 40s took his own life last year. A couple of my DH's friends and workmates died in their 50s from building trade related illnesses and/or just the general knackering effect of it and some very elderly neighbours/friends parents who would be expected to have passed by now.
I must be very unlucky or sometimes think must have been a bad person in a former life.

Zero. Been married 17 years.

This thread is one that ultimately encourages getting married abroad with no guests!

25 years, not a huge wedding but no deaths. Possibly more remarkable is that every marriage and relationship that was present is still going strong. No divorce or separation, and two additional marriages (a lot of children!)

We’ve been married 36 years, most if not all the guests of our parents’ generation have died, and a few of our contemporaries too.

We had a tiny wedding abroad and of the attendees, we have lost two: MIL and FIL. They were already long divorced and FIL's partner didn't come as they felt it would be uncomfortable for MIL (although I wished she had, as she was much nicer than MIL!)

Everyone else still with us, 20 years on. No divorces or break-ups.

5 out of 50 - 35 years ago. Only 2 were elderly when they died though

11 years, 50 guests, 4 have died including FIL.

Married 16 years ago, aged 21 (now divorced) and at least 8 guests have died since then. All family members. There may be more but I honestly can’t remember much of the day or who was/wasn’t there. It was a relatively small wedding, hashed together within the space of 6 weeks and there were people there that I didn’t even know.