To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

18 years married and only 2. One of my parents was not invited but has since died, the other died 6 years ago, and the other death was a dear friend, taken much too young. I have much older relatives still alive

We've been married 16 years and had 102 guests and only 2 have died that I know of, my mother-in-law invited a tiny handful of people I don't know that well, so there could be 1 or 2 more that I don't know about. We were mid 30s when we got married and are getting to the point where several of the guests are now in their 80s and it's inevitably going to increase.

Got married 10 years ago and has 80 guests.

5 have now died, including my mum and sister in the last 9 months 💔

3 out of 85. we've been married 10 years

17 nearly 18 years ago, 7 including my DH out of a 100 or so.

18 years married about 120 guests 7 dead

26 years married
70 guests
About 10 dead

lots of couples have split up too

Married 39 years, I did wear a veil (Oxfam £2.00), 100 guests, all grandparents were already dead at the time of the wedding and I know of nine who have died since, but most in their mid-80s to late-90s, with one very sad exception.

31 years in August. 30 guests.
Most of the generation above us have died except 1 younger uncle each. Only natural after so long.

Our 25th was during Covid so I thought we could wait another 5 to have a family party with DSis who has become the person we all check in with.
Dearest BiL died suddenly in the meantime and I didn’t have the heart to summon the same people back to a happy event so soon afterwards.

Sorry to lower the tone even further.,.💐

Married 16 years. About 100 guests. 5 have died. 3 of those were grandparents, in their 80s/90s. 2 others in their 40s - cancer and alcoholism. So a low number but still feels sad thinking of those gone.

Wedding 20 years ago. Both in our 40’s so the guests were mostly older. About 60 people there. Just one has died.

I have been married for 12 years, had 2 deaths from our 150 people strong wedding. 1 birth (someone was pregnant and due on our wedding day - baby arrived the next day!)
I would say that’s pretty good. One lady was 96 when she was at our wedding and the other lady in her 80s; we lost one 2 years after our wedding and the other during Covid.

15 years ago and we’ve lost 3

That does seem a high number op. Were they all elderly?

My first wedding was in 1992 so 34 years ago. I’m not entirely sure and most of the guests were my friends rather than family/ parents’ friends - out of about 60 guests I’d say 5.

V small wedding 20 years ago. Less than 20 people, including us. 5 people have passed. But those 5 include 2 grandparents already in their 80s. Then 3 others who were late 60s/early 70s when we got married and all passed away within 10 years.

DH wanted loads of friends at the wedding. As nice as it was, the registry office then a quick lunch in the city would have been better with close family when I look back.

I agree, most of those friends at the wedding we never see almost 20 years later. But family is still there for us.

Great gran on my side is gone, two of MIL's friends are gone who were guests, my uncle is gone (who took the wedding photos). One of DHs friends is dead. Just last year, in fact. Was in her 60s. Possibly 8 or 9 altogether, I feel certain there are more guests. Will ask DH later today. We had around 75 guests at evening reception and 15 of us at registry office.

39 years married. 8 guests, 3 dead.

18 years ago...small wedding of 20... My grandparents have passed, they would be in there 100s now if alive. Two other guests have passed too. So four out of 20 but it's 18 years.

We only had ten people at our wedding and 1 died, not a good percentage if you think about it :( Married 11 years.

Another interesting question would be how many of your wedding guests do you still actually talk too!

Got married 18 years ago this week. Lost only one, I think. My father in law. Though there are a few who are probably nearing end of life.

We got married 22 years ago. We aren't in touch with a few of the guests but 6 older guests have died (DH parents, two of my aunts and my grandfather/his wife) and one young mum who died age 40 of cancer. We had about 140 guests so I think we've been quite lucky.
I've had a younger friend also die of cancer aged 50 but I actually can't remember if she came to the wedding.
Oh and one of the guests went to prison for fraud in the meantime (came out and retrained as obviously could no longer work in finance and is now a chef!). I imagine that's not a statistic anyone wants to compete with.

Probably more than that. Think there was about 80 at our wedding. About 10 years ago looking at our album I realised on some pages everyone in the photos was dead.

Silver wedding next year.

Thinking about the next generation / births is a nice angle, the five bridesmaids have had eight children.

We invited quite a few from my old church, as that's where the wedding took place, but I no longer go there due to having moved away. So quite a few from those plus others we've just lost touch with.