To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

Gosh this is making me think! I'm divorced but we got married 15 years ago. Very small wedding with 18 people there and 4 are gone. One parent, one sibling and an aunt and uncle.

I like that a PP mentioned new people who have come along since and there are 3 wonderful new children who would have been there, had they been in existence.

SO many. Got married in 2004. All five grandparents that were alive then died within the next decade. I've lost my Dad. My Mum died before the wedding. I've lost an aunt and my husband has lost three uncles.

Most great aunts and uncles have died (we had ten of them, now down to 2). We got married at 25 so we're now late 40s and, thank goodness, none of our contemporaries have died - v grateful for that.

We don't really watch the wedding video now because it's a bit depressing!

Never been married. But lost a lot of friends and family young, most suddenly.

They were great people. I carry them with me in my heart for the ride. They remind me to enjoy every minute of life, find the magic everywhere and not give a shit about the material things.

Doesnt it depend on how old the guests were when you got married ?

Doesnt it depend on how old the guests were when you got married ?

In the 15 years we’ve lost 5 I think. I think we had about 50. Only one was younger and unexpected. Mostly my family not my DHs. 4 mine, 1 his.

If I hadn't reached my twentieth anniversary getting divorced and grieving the relatively recent loss of my last parent I probably wouldn't be thinking it either. And age-wise, three of the losses were people in their forties and someone in their fifties, and a couple in their sixties. So lots who were not very old.

Hopefully your twentieth will be happier than mine.

I got married 12 years ago, I think it was 140 at wedding, and just got a pen and pencil out to make a list and I have it at 10 deaths.

Can't be specific but I am sure several have passed away now. 19 years ago.

Been married 16 years and I think 8. A couple of Uncles on my side, a young friend of my husband's, an unexpected guest (but welcome-its a long story!), and both sets of my husband's grandparents. Without looking up the list or looking at the photos I can't give a full number.

Married 14 years, 2 dead: one in his 90s (heart) and the other aged 40 (alcoholism).

3 for us and 1 that couldn’t attend due to ill health and later died. Married 10 years. I think often grandparents attend and it’s realistic they would be gone 20/30 years later. But the age you marry and the age of your elder relations at the time would be a factor
every one who’s died since my wedding were 70 - 85 years old when they died.

We got married 8 years ago today and out of around 100 guests, we’ve lost 2 who were present at the actual wedding - DH’s elderly grandma and my uncle. However I’ve also lost a DCousin who was invited but in respite care on the day of the wedding (her parent’s choice).

And we lost my dear dear DM and DGM during our engagement (wedding was postponsed due to loss of DM). And a proportion of DH’s extended family didn’t attend the wedding because his cousin’s young wife was in the last days of cancer.

So if you include everyone on our original invite list, it would be 6. Which feels like rather a lot.

Will have been married 20 years in December! 9 have died in that time including all our grandparents. The saddest one being my husbands best man, he died of stomach cancer 4 years ago at 44 years old.

Married 21 years this year. Had 90 guests and I think 7-8 older family friends / family have died, only 1 younger person who sadly died at 40.

Married 2004 am early 50s about 120 guests 6 gone

3 grandparents
2 parents family friends
friend my age from breast cancer aged 42

Married 19 years. 39 guests, 5 died. But lost contact with 7 others for various reasons

3 out of 60 got married 11 years ago.

Married 10 years, 80-odd at the wedding of which we have lost 4.

3 of them were older and/or chronically ill (eg advanced COPD) but one was our age and passed away a couple of years ago at the age of 40 from a cardiac arrest.

Married 28 years, lost 8 of 50. I'm at an age where funerals are picking up and I'm adjusting to that.

Not Kate Middleton and not a typo. Think Asian, I got married abroad! We have big fat weddings! 😁

Married 2.5 years - 3 guests have died.

I haven’t thought about this before.

We had about 100 at our wedding 18 years ago including evening guests - I think 7 have died since then, including my beautiful mum.

She loved my wedding day and this makes me very sad.

A few of the guests who have passed away were actually friends of our parents, no not close to us.

Out of 70 guests!

Married 40 years, 45 guests, 8 dead....