To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

17 years
25 guests
None dead but one on their way out
At least 2 couples from the friend pile who we lost touch with. There was a third couple who I don't think dh ever sees either.

People prioritise friends at weddings but the family are the ones you still see down the years

Also 20 years since we got married. We have lost 9 out of 70 guests.

How depressing. I haven’t thought of that before. And don’t plan to now either.

6 out of 120 guests, married 21 years.

Could I please ask - the one who died from a DVT - did he know he had it and went to a hospital before dying?

Or was he completely unaware and died of it in his sleep at home or something?

Haven't had a wedding so can’t really contribute any figures but it’s interesting. I lost a friend last year and I’ve been thinking about death more.

25 years married this year and at least 7. We had approximately 40 guests.

21 years, 130 people 7 died (2 over 90, 4 over 80, 1 was 60).

3 out of 10 guests (all the grandparents).

I think of this, too, each year. 15 years married, 120 guests, 5 have died since - 2 of our parents and 3 of our friends.

Smallish wedding 28 years ago. About eight I think, Dh sadly died over a decade ago, so that is one. Both my parents are also sadly passed and then the rest are aunt's/uncles/friends of the family. Pil are still alive.

Now NC with my brother and SIL (although still have their wedding gift in my garage). My two other brothers have also divorced their wives who were present.

Oh, it was very sad. He had travelled back from Hong Kong in economy, and he was tall. He quite possibly was drinking, which dehydrates you more. He had had a pain in his leg for a few days after the flight. A week after landing, he was on his way to a wedding or a funeral, I can't remember which. He collapsed on the way, and apparently briefly revived in the ambulance, but not too long after, passed away.

When his dad went to his flat after, he found that his son had had his leg propped up on pillows. But he hadn't asked anyone for help or gone to the doctor. It's especially poignant that he didn't mention his leg pain to his dad, as his dad is a retired GP.

Friend was single. Maybe if he'd had a wife or girlfriend to encourage him to go to the doctor, he might still be here. My BIL actually had a DVT, too. But he had my sis to tell him to go to the doc, if he'd been reluctant. Such a pity our friend didn't seek medical help, because I'm sure that they would have put leg pain + long cramped flight together and looked at him for DVT. Totally preventable and extremely sad.

We had about 60 guests around 6 years ago and have lost 3 of those, two in particular very young and all three surprising/shocking circumstances.
Not the same but I was thinking the other day how quite a high proportion of our guests have got divorced in the years since our wedding, and in many cases it means we’ve lost contact with one half of the couple as a consequence.

Yeah, when it's your parents plus 13 others, you can't really help but think of it.

We only had 30 guests back in 2000. Of those at least 7 have died, including the groom, best man and all parents.
What a very morbid question!

My first wedding was 22 years ago and only 4 are dead. We had very few oldies at it.
My second wedding was 10 years ago and 1 dead so far, 2 if you include the chef.

Oh, that's sad, on both counts.

My peers have mostly been married 15-20 years. It's only me and one other friend who have got divorced. Sounds like you've had a surprisingly high amount of divorces for only being married six years. I think that's quite unusual.

Married 30 years ago this August. Very very fortunate only 1 loss in the people who attended - my nana who died the first year after, but was mid eighties at the time.
We did only have a very small wedding and a larger evening party.. I consider us lucky , husband lost his mum age 12 so will never say he is fortunate.

3 of our guests died within the year, including my Mum and I was only in my 20s so a young wedding. 2 more since in the past 20 years so not bad going overall

Edited, forgot 2 on Dhs side also. We had 120 guests

Just looked at the whole group photo...

Married 10 years, we are mid 30s now.

60ish guests, 3 dead (both my parents and my mother in law, all within a 4 minth period in the same year, that was a bad year!)

There are another 4 who are no longer in the picture due to divorces (none of which we're sad about, all 4 people have significantly upgraded their partners!)

Married for 25 years this year. We had 100 people go our wedding and 8 have died, but apart from a close friend who died of cancer, all were grandparents or grandparents generation. Most were in their 80s when we got married so it isn’t surprising.

Were you quite young when you married?

We were married 17 years and only two people died but out of the 76 people that came to our wedding every single couple has split up or divorced except one. Including us.

Yes, 15 deaths including your parents does make you feel morbid on the twentieth anniversary of the day everyone was alive and together.

Oh wow what a question, only 1 out of 100 I think, in 10 years. That feels very fortunate.

Have you had bereavement support OP, that sounds as though you have been through a lot 💐

So how many couples is that?