To ask how many of your wedding guests have died?

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It's our anniversary this week, although we are getting divorced.

How many of your guests did you lose in the twenty years after your wedding? I feel like our losses are high. About 85 guests and 15 are gone. Is this normal? Or does it seem high to you too?

Married 30 years ago, approx 120 guests, and 12 have died

I'm so sorry to read about all your loss especially your DS. Sending love to you and your DH x

Oh @DoAWheelie this is heartbreaking. Sending love x

Married 23 years. Can't remember how many guests overall, probably about a hundred including the evening bash. Off the top of my head I can think of 11 who are no longer with us.

So sorry for your losses @Joystir59 sending love x

We had about fifty all day to our wedding. 25 years ago this year. Seven have died.
Still married!

I had 111 people and 6 are now dead. 3 old, 3 young.

Married 17 years ago. My mum has since died, as have two of my husband’s cousins (they were only 14 and 31). My great aunt and uncle have also since died (they lived to 94 and late 80s respectively).

So sorry for your loss @Seawolves sending love x

25% of our guests were dead within 6 months of the wedding. But, having been engaged for years and never getting around to getting married, we got married when we did as FIL had been given a terminal diagnosis and my grandmother was in her 90s and was getting very frail. One of the reasons for having immediate family only was so we could organise it around their needs.
We had a party a month or so later with 100 or so guests most of whom were in their 30s and, a decade later, everyone who came to that is still alive. If we’d had the whole big white wedding thing, many of the party guests would have been at the wedding so that would have changed the statistics considerably.

We had 65 ish guests, give or take. Been married 16 years. Only two have died - at the ripe old age of 95 & 97. Dh has a lot of longevity in his family (me, not so much, most of mine were dead before I even got to getting married).

We are NC with 3 family members who featured heavily in our wedding though, so that must count for something. 😂

I do think about this, usually on our anniversary. We had 75 people; we've lost
nine I know of, including my parents, and possibly another two (as they were very old and ill the last contact I had). We've been married nearly 22 years.
Two of them were young (50ish) and it was tragic (one heart attack, one MND) and one was in first wave of covid.

RIP all of them and unMNetty hugs to you all.

I’m sorry for your losses, but you seem to be looking for reassurance by making meaningless comparisons. Depending on what age you got married and the age of the various guests, the answers could vary wildly. If you got married at 45 and had a lot of older family members/family friends there, the number likely to have died over 15 years is much higher than if you married at 20 and had mainly friends your own age there. This isn’t a one size fits all situation.

However, on a related note, I have been shocked by how many people I know/know of who have died in their 40s and 50s, because I don’t recall my parents losing many friends before they retired.

Married 35 years. Out of the 100 guests we had 15 have died including one parent. The rest were all the aunts and uncles on both sides. Feel like this is probably a low to average ratio over that amount of years, and given that some of them were getting on in years even then. I feel it would be expected.

18 years on we've lost three of 65 guests. They were all pretty elderly so not entirely unexpected. We both come from fairly small families so the numbers of older guests were low, with more guests being friends of similar ages to the bride and groom.

About 20 guests. Over half now gone.

Married in 2006, we are in our mid 30s. The number is 3. FIL was already diagnosed with the condition he died with in 2010. One of my great aunts died a couple of years ago and we lost my grandma in 2019, she was 96. I’ve been fortunate to have very little loss in my life.

I had 75 people at my wedding in 2016 and seven of them are now dead.
My Dad, Nan, cousin, uncle, and 3 friends.

Surely this would all depend on
a) how you were yourself when you got married
b) how old the guests were that you invited

If you got married in your late 30s or 40s and had lots of the older generation there, no surprise that 20+ years later quite a few may have died.

married 9 years ago, 60 guests, 5 people died

10 years 4 out of 34.

Married 15 years, 120 guests, no deaths!

We did invite one of my husband's close friends who has since died but he didn't attend (didn't attend due to a mental illness which he ended up dying of) so I won't count him.

Every relative gone except my Sister and DH’s Sister , so at least 30. We’ve been married for 40 years.

When looking at the wedding album there are a fair few faces I don’t even recognise so no idea if they’re still alive.

0 so far. It has only been 2 years though.

My husband died 4 months after our wedding and my father 5 years later.