Partner on holiday with a female friend!

[Daisymay1000]

I need to ask peoples honest opinions.

my partner went away on Sunday “with the boys” I wished him off well, hope he has a lovely time etc. been FaceTiming me, sending me pics etc. then yesterday a female friend may be flying over. I said I wasn’t very comfortable with this especially as she would be staying in the same apartment. He said he wasn’t sure if she even was yet she just said she may do. I looked on her story on instagram and she was already there, had been the whole time! Tagging him in pics etc. Iv broke up with him as the lies and the disrespect for me are too much. Am I being unreasonable or over reacting? He said I was and it’s just a friend and I’m controlling. But for me I can’t imagine he would ever allow me on holiday with a male staying in the same apartment?! There’s 3 men and her.

Just resharing this.

known him 5 minutes? Where are you getting that from?

As per my other post. In your other posts you had a LDR that ended in Sept 2025 and and other relationship that ended in Nov 2025. That’s 6 months to now. So however long you’ve known this knobhead is not long enough to be living with you and certainly not your child.

No no no no no no no it's all wrong. Dump the loser. Pronto. You're worth more and YANBU obviously.

If there’s nothing to hide why lie about it? There’s your answer

It's not the going on holiday, it's the lies.

You've never knew or heard of one woman showing up to service all 3?
Most likely all at once?
I have not only heard of this but experienced it 2 weeks ago. Im single but the others are married.
This happens more than you think and yes the lady 2 weeks ago was married also

Are you sure there are other friends there and it’s not just the two of them?

Like I say how do u know I met him recently? How do u know how long he’s been in my life? If he’s someone iv already dated? Don’t assume.

This isn’t a compliment though. Don’t entertain his begging. As others have said, package his items, leave them by the door and be done. He is telling you who he is, you need to listen, and reclaim your inner peace. If he wants to get with other women and broadcast it, that’s his own business. You certainly don’t owe him storage for his belongings, or anything else. Chose yourself.

Is he someone you knew/dated before?

OP I don’t know what your gut is telling you, but the snoring thing just doesn’t ring true for me. I’d lay a lot of money on him sleeping in the living room with this girl.

However, regardless of whether he is or not, or whether anything happened between them or not, that’s a big set of stinking great lies he’s fed you, and I applaud your bravery in saying you’re not willing to accept it.

Few things about lies, a) people tell lies to hide stuff they don’t want you to know b) if they can lie about one thing, they can lie about ANYTHING c) someone else lying is not your responsibility, they chose to do it regardless of how you react, it’s not an excuse d) there is no trust where there are lies, and where there is no trust there is no relationship.

Good on you OP, you ditched a guy who has no respect for you or your relationship and is happy to lie to you about anything that makes his life easier. You had every reason to do so, bullet dodged.

If it was above board he wouldn’t have lied. I
always go with my gut on these things. I think you’ve done the right thing op. No you’re free to meet someone else.

As a previous poster has said, If he had nothing to hide, but why has he lied about it? He must have felt a reason to be dishonest with you, and I don’t believe it’s because he thought he would get this reaction, as you’ve said you’re absolutely fine with it, just not fine with the lies. don’t let people tell you that you’re being unreasonable because I would feel the exact same!!
In fact, my ex partner actually went on holiday “on his own” to the same island as his estranged wife, dumped me the next day and reunited with her a couple of days later! And at the time, I wasn’t suspicious that he was going to do anything of the sort. Don’t let people tell you that your reaction is unjustified, you are allowed to feel as you do! 💛

Too many commentors here immediately assuming the lying is hiding something sinister when everybody knows FULL WELL the most plausible reason for his deceit is him knowing exactly how his controlling and insecure partner would have reacted. After reading OPs comments in this thread, this is the type of unhinged behaviour that drives partners away forever. Unbelievable. Hes better off.

Going on holiday in a mixed group is ok.
Lying about it is definitely not.

And you genuinely believe this person was fine with it? Shes lying to everyone here. Course she wouldnt be fine with it, but she cant be the villain in her own mumsnet story. She ended it anyway. Relieved for the poor fella.

well if he's begging you to talk why is he letting her on his quad bike where she is holding on with her vagina? he probably isn't bothered about winding you up, he's just enjoying doing what he wants whilst trying to get back into your pants.

OP i wouldn't be happy either not sure why you are getting flak

Yeah, okay. 😂

so block him and then when he comes home you can discuss who's living where etc

You’re right OP.
Sounds like she’s deliberately rubbing it in your face and he’s doing nothing to deter her.
I would be kicking him out too.
She can have him!

You mean she’s better off without him!

No, I don’t believe she was fine with it actually because she has said the reasons why she isn’t a fan of this girl; she’s hardly lied in this thread!
not sure why you’re jumping on her, I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t be fine with it either, but then again most people on MN are perfect, with absolutely no worries whatsoever 🤔
Very easy to judge when you aren’t the one it’s happening to, and I’m sure if it did happen to someone like you, you definitely wouldn’t be posting on here for peoples opinions for fear of being judged!

well you're as bad as the rest of them if you had a foresome with 3 married people. don't judge. everyone else by your absent morals.