Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

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Was chatting to a friend of a friend the other day. She was having a moan about her useless husband. In the course of this moan she mentioned that she’d had to pack his bag for a work trip. Just breezed past it as if it was the most normal thing. I was like wait…why are you packing his bag for him?? She huffs and puffs about “oh he won’t do it properly” or some shit. Didn’t really have much of an answer.

Mentioned this exchange at work. Seems this is not particularly uncommon. Had women moaning about having to do “all the packing for everyone” for family holidays etc.

i am quite baffled by this. Why are some women packing their husbands bags for them..? If nothing else, my husband wouldn’t want me to pack his bag for him. Being a grown adult he’d rather choose his own clothes.

Some men are absolutely fucking useless but my god, some women really don’t help themselves…

I too worked in the travel industry. I never met a lot of men that had wives or even a girlfriend.

He doesn’t need to does he, not when she’ll do it.

No absolutely not 😂 even my 16 year old dd and 13 year old ds have been packing their own bags since they were about 11 when we go away.

Women didn't say they wouldn't do anything for their husbands women said they wouldn't pack a bag of clothes for a grown man
Men who let their wives "throw gym kit" in a bag are putting responsibility on their wives because they can't be arsed being responsible for themselves,

probably because they think they have big important lives and are too busy for trivial things like making sure a gym bag is ready? as i said if you are happy to do that then crack on but again don't make out "you dont hate your husband" maybe ask yourself why does your husband think it is ok to ask you to organise him like this.

Completely agree! I’m surprised at how many people think it’s ‘pathetic’ or that husbands are ‘incompetent’ for not packing their bag… what if one likes to pack his bag? What if I like to pack his lunch? It’s a gesture of love and care in my eyes , I like to fill his suitcase with the stuff he needs. Not to say if you don’t do these things you don’t actually not love your husband but I’m just shocked at how shocked women are at the concept. Saw a post saying they’re not a ‘doormat’ so of course they don’t pack their husband bags but packing your husbands bag does NOT make you some sort of slave.

I’m sure this will absolutely blow peoples minds but my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly. It’s not expected of me and I don’t feel like some sort of martyr. Tbh, if I met a man and they took pride in doing their laundry or dare I say, ‘girls jobs’ I’d find them a bit wet??

you crack on if you enjoy it... but the PP suggested we must hate our husbands because we didn't do that for them.

What's "wet" about washing bed linen? Do you think your husband, prior to meeting you never once washed his own bedding? Why would a man taking pride in having clean clothes be something to be ashamed of?

if you didn't do the laundry, would your husband genuinely just sit there and let it pile up and never change the bedding?

heaven for bid a man should see a tampon 😱

Agree, I’d be far more put off if they’d never washed their own bed linen than them doing “girl’s jobs”!!

Why is washing 'bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets' something you 'naturally' think about more? Does your husband sleep on the bare mattress and just shake himself dry after a shower, so doesn't need to think about such things because he doesn't use them? 🙄

I mean more if a man was like ‘don’t worry darling I’m doing the washing and walked around the house with the washing basket’…or just if a man didn’t believe or admit that fundamentally there are more gender-specific jobs, because let’s face it there are. Throughout human history. I’d find that cringe. Of course my husband will wash when I am sick or most recently I’ve had a baby so he’s offered A LOT of help with cooking etc. He cares about me and will more than happily pack his suitcase, but there are certain things we are naturally more inclined to do.

It's pathetic and incompetent if the bloke thinks he can't pack a suitcase by himself. Folding clothes is not difficult. (And those women who think he can't learn to fold his own clothes neatly so they need to do it, must think he's pathetic and incompetent too. I struggle to understand how they'd find such a man sexy, but it takes all sorts.)

If you want to do it as an "act of service" and he does nice things for you too, then whatever floats your boat.

Personally I think it's weird and unnecessary, and I'd not want to be picking out what he'll be wearing like a child. If he needs to tell me what he wants, then he might as well do it himself.

Both my current DP and my EXH expected me to pack for them and I flat out refused from the beginning. They huffed and got over it. ExH did mention it a few more times and I told him absolutely not. Never.

Why? Because my mum packs for my dad, always has. And she always got the blame if there was stuff missing. I will never forget the holiday when she forgot to pack his blood pressure medication. Poor woman. Can you imagine a grown man not making sure he has his.medication? Fuck that.

Tbh, if I met a man and they took pride in doing their laundry or dare I say, ‘girls jobs’ I’d find them a bit wet??

I find this attitude more than a bit pathetic.

Your husband must be laughing all the time he's sat on his arse, watching you running around after him.

And quite how women can want sex with men who act like children, turns my stomach.

Maybe interrogate your own weird, reactionary notions about why women are 'more naturally inclined' to do laundry, or why you would find it 'cringe' for a man to wash the sheets and towels that he has himself used.

Or is that you imagine his penis might get in the way if he stripped a bed or put on a load of towels? Maybe it might get trapped in the washing machine door, therefore it's 'natural' for him to avoid laundry?

My late FIL always packed his own bags as did my dad, mind you they were both of the who fought in the war and were used to doing things for themselves.

my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly.

Why is it “naturally” something you think about more?

News flash: “naturally” is a euphemism for “sexism” and “misogyny”.

No man’s cock is too big to be able to operate a washing machine.

@Russland I shall inform my husband we're not married in that case - he packs his own bags!! Oh actually - I'm a Ms too - so the ceremony simply can't have been legal!
It's 2026 - what was I thinking?!!!

I don't have sons would pp who do it expect their sons partners/wives to do this for them ?

Also a Ms. Fucking feminists, eh?

@ItTook9Years Massive feminist. And proud!! Hate the patriarchy and won't buy into disgraceful misogynistic practices! Packing a man's bags - you cannot be serious?!!!

I don’t have refuse because he wouldn’t ask me, he’s a grown man, he can pack his own stuff.

Oh deary me. How dare I help out my own husband before he flies off halfway across the world to provide for me and our kids?

And there we have it, the Vip man !

@Russland You could always helping him by finding work and also providing for yourself and your kids? Just a ridiculous thought I know...