AIBU to feel anxious about my husband playing tennis with a woman?

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DH and I are 29 and 30, he loves playing tennis, usually plays once a week and goes to the club social, I have no interest in tennis, would rather watch paint dry!
He’s been a member of the same club for the last 5 years, we’ve been together for 6 years.
I feel bad for him as some of his friends he would normally play with are moving further out of London and joining clubs local to them. It’s hard at his club to play with non-members.
I am pregnant with our first child so perhaps a bit anxious and paranoid in general and I can’t tell if I should be worried about this or not.

On Wednesday night he went to the tennis social, he came back and told me he had got chatting to this girl and they might go and play tennis together at the weekend. I didn’t want to be controlling so I said that’s nice.

This morning he went to play tennis with this girl, 11-12. He then messaged and sent a pic showing they were having a drink at the club house. This made me a bit anxious, I don’t know this girl.

When he came home I asked how it was and I told him I felt a little anxious about him spending time alone with a woman I don’t know. He said he didn’t want to make me uncomfortable and wouldn’t see her again, but it sucks as he’s running out of people to play tennis with as everyone moves further out and she is actually good so he enjoys playing against her.
I feel bad, I don’t think he would cheat but it’s making me anxious. It probably hasn’t helped that I asked about her and he showed me her insta and she’s clearly very very attractive, Italian and young (I think 25). I will admit I’d probably be less bother if I didn’t feel so threatened by her.

AIBU to feel anxious about this? I worry I’m being controlling, he hasn’t argued that he wants to, says it’s fine, joked it would be easier if I just played too then we could play together.
Should I just suggest we all meet up, maybe after they play again and try to not let my anxiety control me?

My husband plays tennis with lots of women, I am sure there is much flirting and fun that I am not involved in. However, he is still here and I don't want to play tennis. Always leave the doors open. If someone leaves then they weren't yours to start with. You stay with you husband because you love him, not because he stops you seeing or speaking to other men. If one partner breaks the trust the relationship is probably over. Let them go, they weren't yours. Better to find out sooner than later. Good luck. Ps I was once told having a romantic partner it is like having a dog. You hope the dog won't ever bite you, but you don't really know and it might one day. If you don't like that risk, don't get a dog. If you keep a partner on a short leash, expect it to run away the first chance they get

I think at least hes been open and honest with you, and told you what hes doing, rather than trying to hide anything. I think like people have said, if theyre going to cheat, they will, I would say its probably your pregnancy hormones at play, if you dont normally feel anxious about this sort of thing!

Yeah this thread clearly also brought out all the serial other women too! Or the delulu "cool-wives" who are in total denial that their husbands are shagging behind their backs. They kid themselves that it's perfectly fine for a married man to have one on one drinks with platonic female friends because that's what normal people do (it's not, but ok).

blimey, some of these men must have so much energy! Working full time, shagging their own wives, doing their hobbies and practicing sports for hours AND shagging anyone behind the wives' back.

That's quite impressive.

I can’t imagine how dark and distressing your relationship history with men has been @User774563

Have you ever had a healthy relationship where you haven’t been cheated on?

Maybe have him skip the drink after.

and go straight to shagging? 😂

Good story, bro.