AIBU to ask tenants to move before or after new baby?

[CatWithAPetDog]

We are landlords and have a property that our son would like to move into at some point in the next year. Our current tenants have a toddler and have just told me that they are expecting another baby in November.

If you were the tenant, would you prefer to have to move out whilst pregnant or with a young baby. I know it’s not great timing for them either way, but which would you say would be easier? We can wait a while as long as my son is moved in this time next year, but then they would have a toddler and six month old baby, so it may be easier to do it sooner with just a toddler?

They’ve been good tenants so I would like to cause them the least stress possible.

Sorry forgot to make boring make sense

YABU - Get them to move before the new baby arrives

YANBU - Get them to move after the new baby arrives

The thing is there was chance in this housing crisis that the only way that they would be able to leave is by the eviction process. So the chances are this family could have very easily had to deal with an eviction while newly postpartum.

i obviously don’t know the sons life story but from what she said he had savings, had a degree, a good job and had lived abroad so it sounds like he is incredibly capable so there is a very good chance he could have found somewhere.

i feel like I am going round in circles now though trying to explain it

I’ve never heard anything like it.
It’s not banter it’s rude. You are rude if you use that word.

I can’t believe this is still rumbling on. Let’s get something straight.

My tenants are not on the bones of their arse. It’s quite offensive that some posters hear that people rent and automatically assume they must be poor with very few options. The house they rent from us is a fairly large 3 bed detached property which costs almost £3k per month. It’s a very nice house. There are other 3 bed houses less than 10 miles away that they could rent for MUCH less, £1k less! They could also rent a 2 bed for much less again. I won’t say their actual jobs on here obviously, but their jobs are well paid. They are not poor, they have options and lots of them! Not every person renting is poor.

It doesn’t matter if her son is a billionaire, or a pauper, capable or not capable. WTF does that have to do with anything? It’s HER property. She OWNS it. She can do whatever she wants with it, or give it to whomever she pleases. She is in a business transaction with her tenants, and as long as she does things legally, and treats them fairly, that is the only obligation she has towards them. Unbelievable that this is even a topic of discussion.

I would tell them from now and give them the option to decide what works best for them. Everyone is different, with different pregnancies and level of stress they can handle. Our current tenants really wanted to move in to our property at least 3 months in advance to welcome their baby once they are settled. We changed property with a 3 month old baby and it was easy for us.

But we don’t know the background. Maybe the son has additional needs & needs the house adapting; maybe the son actually owns the house & they’re holding it in trust for him (e.g grandparents left it to him), maybe they would like to help him leave home without having to borrow off the bank of mum & dad.
I know not all parents can afford to help their children, but most do if they’re able to.

and the OP has said she wants to give as much informal notice as possible, rather than waiting for the last permitted date.

Chew a different bone.

the OP is being as considerate as she can be. She's allowed to put her own family first, she isn't responsible to house these people forever.

Yes, his parents expense, which they are entitled to do.

you know Jack shit about his situation & you don't need to. It's the OP's house, she can give it to her son if she wants to.

stop taking your bitterness out on the OP.

she asked on aibu if she was being unreasonable with the information she had given I believed she was being.

Spot on

No she did NOT ask if she was being unreasonable to give them notice

try calming yourself down & reading what she actually asked.

dont keep pouring your bitterness on her thread.

People ask on aibu all the time something and people will give their opinions on the general topic. It happens all the time. She asked whether it was reasonable to evict her tenants before or after they have a baby so her son could move in. I thought based on the information given she was in fact unreasonable. That she and her son were showing their privilege.

she posted on aibu.

im hoping her tenants have got everything sorted and that they have have a plan moving sorted.

Also I have apologised numerous times. Given my opinion respectfully and wished her tenants and her son luck. I am happy to let this go but people keep on commenting and criticising me.

So much has changed in the letting world now that EMOTIONS and FEELINGS don't come into it.. YOU are pushing uphill. I should NOT say or do ANYITHING informally, without a legal person overseeing any eviction notice. Otherwise, one false move and they practically will gain possession of your property. I should do everything through paperwork , formally through a solicitor ASAP as it will be uphill battle all the way . Thank me later. Oh and ensure you have plenty FUNDS to cover non payment of rent if tenant take umbrage.