AIBU to ask tenants to move before or after new baby?

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We are landlords and have a property that our son would like to move into at some point in the next year. Our current tenants have a toddler and have just told me that they are expecting another baby in November.

If you were the tenant, would you prefer to have to move out whilst pregnant or with a young baby. I know it’s not great timing for them either way, but which would you say would be easier? We can wait a while as long as my son is moved in this time next year, but then they would have a toddler and six month old baby, so it may be easier to do it sooner with just a toddler?

They’ve been good tenants so I would like to cause them the least stress possible.

Sorry forgot to make boring make sense

YABU - Get them to move before the new baby arrives

YANBU - Get them to move after the new baby arrives

I didn’t need to my ex-husband owned a house.
I would not have allowed him to fertilise me if he had not married me and owned a house.

well, people have made solutions work for them.

No one has to listen or do the same, but they can't complain if they can't reach the same goal when they don't make the same choice.

Precisely

Where did you live while
you were saving for the deposit with your kids?

If you can't get a guarantor you can get guarantor insurance instead.

Where would all the renter's live then?

I would tell them now and say you will give them 12 months notice. Trying to pack whilst pregnant is not easy, I think I’d prefer 6 month old baby and mive although neither are ideal. If early stages they might be proactive although rental market in many areas is not good.

Personally think you should talk to the family. She could have a high risk pregnancy or complications.

I'm due late September and lots of medical issues and specialist care, moving for me would be impossible right now and much rather do it with a new baby if I had to. Or they may rather do it ASAP, best to explain to them and see what they say.

Wow

Making a young family homeless because your son can't be arsed to get himself on the property ladder

There's alot of things I'd LIKE to do but can't .. maybe your son needs a reality check

I have talked to them and wrote an update yesterday. All is good.

This is a ridiculous post. Are you really saying that the OP should tell her son to move somewhere else, rather than moving into a house s/he owns? That IS getting on the property ladder!

Family come first. Glad you have it all sorted, OP.

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Those of you getting emotional about families who have to rent should save your ire for all the second home owners, not landlords who actually do provide houses for residential use. And the OP's son has to live somewhere too.

Why on earth would he do that when his parents own a house he can use?

Honestly MNers are on another planet at times.

Let them know and let them decide, rather than assuming what's best for them.

Lots of reasons but I don’t think any explanation is needed other than we own the house and he is our son.

The tenants would have had 12 months to find another property if needed. If you read all my posts, you’ll see that I have spoken to them and they had decided to move anyway to be closer to family. They will likely be moving soon and they’re happy.

Thank you. 😊

because her son should stand on his own two feet. The whole thing about raising children is about raising them to be independent, resilient and kind people. How is ops son gonna understand the privilege of owning his own home if he didn’t have to work for it. How is he gonna understand the importance of saving and working towards a goal if his mum is their handing him everything on a platter.

i do think I wasn’t the kindest in my replies yesterday and could have worded it all better but honestly regardless of it working out in for the family. I do think the op should think about getting her son to pay rent at a minimum.

Why cant OPs son move into a different house. Why does the current tenant have to move out to accommodate their son.

My son has faced significant difficulties in his life so I’d bet he’s more resilient than most. That is fuck all to do with you though.

He has been working for 3 years after his degree and has a good amount of savings. He is good with money, pays his bills, saves and is a responsible and kind person. He has worked abroad so is plenty independent. He doesn’t need the extra lesson that comes from having a mortgage to be able to be responsible with money or understand his privilege, not sure why you think he would.

I’m glad you have recognised your words were unkind. You certainly haven’t yet learned to be kind, like my son actually has.

You really should think before you type such clueless and offensive ramblings.

My son won’t be paying rent. 😊

Neither. I'd give them as much notice as possible and let them decide what works best for their family. Moving house when heavily pregnant is difficult. Moving with a newborn and a toddler is also difficult. There isn't really a stress-free option. The bigger issue is that finding a suitable rental may take longer than the actual move itself. If they've been good tenants, I'd be open and honest about your son's likely timescale and work with them rather than focusing on whether they should go before or after the baby arrives.
Also, if you're in England, landlords can no longer simply serve a Section 21 notice. If the property is genuinely needed for your son to live in, you'd need to use the family occupation ground, which requires at least four months' notice and potentially a court order if the tenants don't leave. So the practical question may be less about choosing the perfect timing and more about starting the conversation early and giving them as much certainty as possible.

No longer relevant

RTFT

And yes, a close relative moving in is allowed under the new laws.

🤦‍♀️ It is you that doesn’t know the new laws so ‘ hahaha’.

And CANCEL THE CHEQUE!!!!

Totally agree with this.

Make sure you follow each step or it’s likely to be thrown out of Court.