To not let sister's dog use my garden as a toilet?

[YesterdaysQueen]

My sister recently moved to the same town as me but into a flat without a garden. She has a dog who only likes to do his business in a garden, not out on a walk. Since moving she has been letting herself into my garden with her dog so he can do his business in my garden as he won't do it anywhere else according to her. She does pick up after him but it all goes in my wheelie bin which stinks!

I had no problem with her dog using my garden when she would occasionally visit before but now it's become every day, 2 sometimes 3 times a day.

I've asked her to stop as I have young children who, now that the summer is finally here, want to play in the back garden and it just annoys me that all of the lawn area has had dog poo on it and as he gets a dodgy stomach fairly often, some of it is diarrhoea so my sister has been ripping up the grass in those areas when trying to pick it up.

Anyway, she's now very unhappy with me for saying her dog can't use my garden as his toilet any more and has said it's not a big deal and I'm overreacting and being difficult.

AIBU?

I am a dog lover and longtime dog woner although not any more and even i think this is batshit. Why did she get a dog if she lives in a flat or why did she move to a flat if she has a dog?

She should have dealt with her dogs anxiety issues long ago.

There is a good chance a dog of this age with such long standing issues will hold on to poo long enough to make himself ill now - not your problem of course @YesterdaysQueen

The sensible thing to do would have been to build a small pen where he could toilet, confining the soiled ground to one area that could be more thoroughly cleaned and yes, take her shit home with her!

She'll have to walk him on a long line late at night or take him to a private hire secure field if he will not shit on the lead in a place with other dogs around.

Hmm.
Another dog owner who's shit at owning dogs then?

😂

Your sister has a screw loose.

Say no, it’s Grim and I’m a dog owner. Dog wee over time kills grass, smells in hot weather and I certainly wouldn’t let her put it on my wheelie bin…. She can take it with her like she would do if on a walk and put it in a dog poo bin or her own at the flat.
One of my dogs prefers to toilet off lead in her own garden, rather than on walk (can’t be let off in a lot of places due to high prey drive) however when we go places on our caravan, there is no garden….
I just keep walking her on a longer than usual lead, she does go eventually as she’s desperate. I praise and reward her and then take her back to the van, if she refuses to go I take her back but try again shortly after. It’s just a case of persevering and being stubborn about it.
If the dog often has diarrhoea I would suggest she look at its diet, a grain free fish/potato variety may suit it better from my previous experiences.

I love dogs but no, she's talking twaddle. The dog will go to the loo when it needs to, end of. I'd be mortified if my dog pooped in anyones garden, even family just the once, let alone treat their garden as a dog toilet.

She needs to take the dog to classes so she can learn how to train the woofa. Having a reactive dog has to be sorted otherwise I'd not have them around your young children either.

Your sister definitely needs to be told no in no uncertain terms. She is being completely unreasonable & behaving like a poor sister to you. I would confront her with a lie (but realistically could be true) & say one of your children stepped in/fell in/got on their hands some dog sh*t and that is the final straw. Match her anger with your own anger. Her stupid fault for moving to a flat after all. That dog could live another 10 years - do you want 10 years of that dog pooping up to 3/4 times a day, that's at least 10,950 visits!!

I doubt a 13 year old dog has another 10 years to go... and I've had dogs make it to 17 and 18.

Oops I didn't realise the dog's age was mentioned. So if it lives say another 2 years that's at least 2,190 visits!

Exactly. Is this wind up? Bolt and secure your back gate and lose your shit over it

This is disgusting. Dog poo can take multiple years to properly decompose and for the germs to disappear from the soil. Multiple people told me this after moving somewhere that previously had dog! I'd be fuming and I'd put a lock on the gate.

Can you lock the gate so she can’t access the anymore?

Fgs, I own dogs & wouldn’t dream of doing this. She’s rude and entitled 🤨🐾

that's not actually true. I know of a dog who was left in kennels and wouldn't poo on concrete. The owners were away and the kennels thought like you and the dog ended up needing an operation for impaction.

Have a dog, always had a dog, love dogs. But this is diabolical!

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/toxocariasis/
just putting this here…you know how kids like to roll around on the grass playing

Yeah I don’t get it myself. I live on the third floor and I’m in between two dog owners. There's also other dogs in the building.

There’s been occasions where dogs haven’t made it outside before they’ve peed and there’s been trickles or even puddles in the lift - and faeces left in the car park, it’s disgusting. I feel dogs are for people with their own private garden.

Other than that it’s not great for either their dogs or for people who share spaces with them
And no of course YANBU OP, does your sister have form for manipulating or bullying you?

She’s treating you like an idiot by pretending the issue is you, when she knows fine well no-one else would stand for it.

I don't even let my own dog shit in my garden.

I look after friends dogs at my home. Never are they allowed to use tge garden as a toilet. I'd tell her it must stop ... should never have started!

There is such a thing as obedience school. She needs to enroll the dog asap.

All of that is correctable.

Ew I feel really gross about my garden now having read all of the comments. 🤢 I don't even know how I feel about the dog using the garden on occasional visits now. Although as its stands, sister wont be coming round any time soon as she drags a gurdge on for ages.

Grim, it will be killing your grass. Make sure you get a padlock for your gate.

This is why people have started hating dogs. This post is giving me the rage!

Well done if you have told her no from now on. If you haven't, do it tonight while you're spurred on by all these comments saying how wrong it is.

I’m loving all the dog owners on here who won’t permit their pets to foul their own lawns or gardens but are happy to let them defecate on publicly-owned grass areas or pavements where potentially other people’s kids could play. Talk about the ultimate nimbyism.