To be angry at my mum over an animal in distress

[Corintha]

My mum has just text me in casual conversation to say that there is a pigeon trapped in the chimney vent in her and my dad’s bedroom. She says that they heard it fall down early this morning and it has been in there cooing ever since and is clearly stuck.

I have asked what she intends to do about it, whether she is going to get my dad to take the vent off or call someone in. She doesn’t want to take the vent off as it will be messy and doesn’t want to call anyone out as she says she’s too busy with other life admin (she’s a carer for adult autistic sibling). She says “It’s a shame but it’s life” and she’s just going to leave it and let nature run its course.

I’ve lost my shit with her a bit as she seems okay to lay in bed for the next few nights listening to an animal die in a horrible way. The vent is behind their bed board ffs! I’ve also warned her that the smell is going to be horrendous and she will have flies but she is insisting it will be fine. It’s a vent, of course the smell is going to seep through.

I’ve lost my shit with her a bit and she has told me to go away and blocked me saying “it’s not the first time an animal has died in a chimney and won’t be the last”.

AIBU to think she’s being incredibly thick. I’m so angry at her and I don’t know what to do as I live an hour away and don’t drive, it’s 3 hours away on public transport

Tell her the only reason I found out I had a dead pigeon in my chimney vent was because of the flies. She’ll definitely get them, especially in the summer.

Yes, I do wonder where your very generalized comment is coming from.

Ok cool 👍

What a horrible false equivalence to draw.

She should let the pigeon out, but how someone treats other human beings is much more instructive in determining their character than how they behave towards a single sodding pigeon.

Where is your mum OP?
If you tell us where in the country perhaps someone can go and take the vent off for her? I'll go if she's local to me.

As I've said all ready, the use of "We" is misleading!

I rang my dad as he is usually a bit more reasonable than my mum. The reason he hasn’t been involved prior is as he was working (he is still working full-time despite being beyond state pension age).

He said they are just going to “let it die” and when I said they will have a smell and flies he said “the smell will go upwards and out through the chimney and the pigeon is too far down for any flies to get down there”

Absolutely ridiculous. I hope it stinks the place out and they get a fly infestation. They aren’t usually this thick, I don’t know what’s gotten into them. They seem to be sharing a brain the size of a garden-pea between them. I heard mum in the background during the call saying she could hear it flapping its wings.

I’m fuming. My partner is away at the moment otherwise he’d have driven down and offered to sort it.

Is it odd of me to predict I'd get a response like this? I'm fine with you alleging it's odd.

But I'd call the RSPCA and if they want to rescue it they can do.