British behaviour in holiday hotel

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We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

Have you never heard about or been to an all inclusive before?

If this is how your children behave then you're doing something wrong! Other parents like to foster independence and confidence in their kids.

I disagree, what OP is describing is the equivalent of shrieking children in the garden / loud music etc - not normal noise.

Of course it is good to have DC help themselves at buffets… as long as they are old enough to know how to not make a mess, before that parents should help them! And parents should also keep an eye on them and tell them off if they touch the buffet food with their hands, that is just disgusting.

I’ve been to many TUI AI over the years and have never experienced the type of place you’re referencing. Out of interest I priced the last TUi place I stayed the other week and it was €9700 for my family for 14 days so not what I’d call “cheap”. I’ve experienced rudeness from all nationalities when abroad and tbh i think children serving themselves is sort of what you expect when you go to child friendly AI resorts. My last holiday was a 5 in the Middle East and didn’t see any less children helping themselves in the buffet or occasional rudeness than I did in a 4 in Spain or Greece.

I can tell you, from experience, that it is NOT just the British who behave badly abroad. On a few coach trips DH and I went on with our DC (and just the two of us,) over the past 15 years or so, the worst behaviour came from the Danish, The French, and The Dutch. Even the bar staff and hotel management staff in our Spanish hotel said it's a myth that the British are the worst behaved.

I remember letting my DS get his own food aged about 5... It had to stop after he dipped a sausage in the communal jar of Nutella... 🤮🤣

A few years ago I went abroad and it was the Dutch behaving badly, there was a big group of them in my hotel and boy did you know they were there. They made the British look like angels.

OP I can confirm that Dutch behaviour in holiday hotels can be equally bad.

I bet the real reason you do this is because you’re poor 🤨

I've just been on an Easyjet A.I holiday (my first of that type) and I was very pleasantly surprised by the quality of the food. It definitely wasn't chips with everything type of catering. The buffet counters were always very clean and tidy despite a fair number of Brits and (gasp) young children. You seem to have been unlucky.

Why the judgement on those who have more limited budgets?

There is always freshly grilled meats and a great salad selection, in my experience. And fresh bread. It depends how fussy you are I suppose! I’m always happy with grilled chicken salad!

I’ve done two AI many years ago. One in Sardinia and one in Cuba where AI was the only option. DD’s school broke up a couple of weeks before state schools so we usually went then when prices were a bit cheaper. Only other children around were Scottish who also broke up earlier. It was all fine until our flight failed to leave due to a broken part which had to take the long way round as nothing could go via the USA so we ended up staying an extra three days. OMG the change in the place when the English arrived en masse. Shit in the pool. Food chucked everywhere, all night drinking and shouting in and round the pool. Effing and jeffing on balconies and shouting to mates across the complex.

And the wasted food was shocking.

Yes I’m a snob.

Valuing those with things doesn’t make you a snob. Expecting people who can afford more expensive hotels to have better manners DOES make you a snob. Classist, disgusting attitude. Ironically very rude actually.

Oh was it meant to be funny? I genuinely didnt spot that even after second reading!

Exactly! No-one minds a bit of music coming from someone's garden, and children playing and laughing, and adults having a bit of a laugh. It's the 'weed-smoking, music on full blast, feral, screaming children on a huge inflatable or trampoline, with a BBQ going and the adults necking tins of cider' type of family that people are fucked off with. Every street has at least 2 or 3 of these families. And this hot weather brings them out!

But if you dare to say anything (even on here) you get called the 'fun police'' and get told to have a spliff to relax and calm down. 100% guarantee the people defending the trampoline/BBQ/screaming kids/huge inflatable/spliff smoking types of family are that family. And that's why they think the behaviour is OK!

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Maybe get a Villa next time so you won’t have to encounter other people, obviously not a Villa from Jet2 or Tui, that would be cheap

OP said British people. So why is it that you assumed poor behaviour = English, specifically? Other than your very obvious bias.

As it happens I’ve stayed in plenty of AI and half board places over the years…even the dreaded package TUI/Jet 2 holidays.. and I haven’t ever had that experience from Brits (no, not even the English ones 🙄). Whether they be families with young children or couples or small groups. The worst behaviour I’ve come across has always been from “local” people. And that’s only because they tended to be groups of school aged teens on a trip or young adult men. I would never use that to target the entire population, because I know it’s not representative and would be unfair.

And to add, I absolutely hate these types of holiday (prefer milder weather and countryside more than beach resorts), and would only go along with them because I enjoy seeing my family enjoy themselves so I would have no problem having a little moan about things if they’d been an issue. But these xenophobic generalisations of the English really rankle, and they seem to be accepted in a way that wouldn’t be if it was aimed at other groups.

I had the misfortune to stay at an AI hotel in Turkey, that was full of mainly Russian guests. I have never seen such awful behaviour! Whilst I was patiently queuing for lunchtime drinks, they would just shout their orders at the bar staff, who immediately served them. They would routinely take huge amounts of food for their tables, and often leave it untouched. Even asking for another bottle of wine, and immediately leaving their table.

It put me off that type of holiday completely.

i mean ive been on AI - but i must have really gone on the POSH one as ive never ever encountered this behaviour - maybe your AI isnt all that posh OP... sorry 😂 and stop being such a snob while youre at it

These threads ALWAYS bring out the English bashing. 🙄 Nothing about the Scottish, Welsh, or Northern Irish. ONLY the English

EVERY. TIME.

So tedious. It's one a week at the moment.

People need to change the record.

And the 'I'm ashamed to be English' posts are just cringeworthy. 😖 I'm embarrassed for these posters.

British behaviour? Don't you just mean bad behaviour? You'd be racist if you called something Asian behaviour or Eastern European behaviour right?

Tbh whilst I also wince (and get annoyed) at Russians (and Germans are similar queue pushers 😂) it just cultural. Different societies have different ways of being polite.

and Russia in general has a terrible fairly tragic alcohol problem obviously

plus a lot of the southern European counties hate them post ww2 anyway 🙈

I always remember working with a woman who wouldn't speak to me because I was from the rival town of her favourite football club. She talked constantly about an AI she was going to and I remember thinking: this is why I don't AI. She told me she wore her team's shirt all the time, when not at work

😅

Bloody wish I could have a “cheap” AI holiday! I’ve not left the country for the last ten years.

Me either 😪

And there was me feeling happy that I might actually be able to stretch the budget this year and go to a tui blue hotel.