DH tagging me in a FB post that my customers can see

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I'm hopping mad right now! My DH is off today (his first day off in a week) and he's having a lovely day in the garden. He just cracked open a cider, took a photo and posted it to FB, tagging me, basically saying that "we" are in the garden drinking cider.

I am not! I am inside working. I am friends on FB with my clients who I am working for right now. They will have seen the post. I've taken it down now. I am so mad at him! I was going to join him after I finish for the day, but I'm now sitting inside seething at his stupidity. I feel like just sacking our evening plans off entirely.

How could he be so silly?

OPs DH knew she was working and tagged her in a post giving the impression that they "we" were drinking together...THIS is the whole basis of OPs anger

Separate your business from your personal life.

I'd probably have taken a picture of my workspace (nothing confidential of course), and posted it in the comments with the statement 'I wish!'

Ahh I see.

I think you confused me because the post of mine that you quoted and answered, was me replying to someone else who stated that their ex colleague got in trouble for FBooking when they should've been working.

I was simply pointing out to her that the OP wasn't.

Yes, and she’s being ridiculous.

It’s just a tag in a photo - it’s not like he took a picture of her necking a pint 🤣

The basis of the OP's anger should be that she's angry with her own incompetence.

Tagging permissions is a basic.

Especially considering how many past FB viruses led to pornography being posted on millions of people's timelines.

But OP was on Facebook whilst she was working which is more of a red flag than him tagging her.

OP is clear she didn't know she could do that and is upset that she couldn't rely on her husband not to undermine her work.

Sadly she was wrong and she is naturally angry. That's all she came here to say

They really won’t be paying attention.

Huh? OP would just get a notification.that she's tagged by DH as drinking in the garden...she wouldn't be ON Facebook to see that

Would of been better to comment underneath.
Ha. I wish, you enjoy while i continue working.

But as long as you dont work with children or the elderly/ vunerable, does it really even matter?

Go and have a cold drink, I think the heat is affecting your brain 🤣

Exactly. OP should maybe be grateful that her DH has exposed a massive flaw in her privacy settings and take the time to fix it.

She would be to delete the tag like she said she did though!

Evening, all. Please do refrain from the personal insults - we're all too overheated to add extra hot air to the mix at the moment, and we'd rather this thread wasn't derailed any further.

Surely all it needed was a comment 'glad you're enjoying a drink in the sun whilst I'm working' Major over reaction.

Ahh yes!

Silly little woman with her silly little job.

Of course it is somehow her fault for her DH making her look unprofessional in front of clients.

How dare she not put restrictions in place so that when he tries to make her look unprofessional he can’t succeed.

@Jellox What's with the obsession about "proper jobs" all jobs are "proper jobs" surely.
You need to calm down, he didn't say she was drinking or even imply she was. The tag feature in Facebook is used to make sure that person sees the post as well as for when you are with someone. If I was having a cider I the sun and my husband was working I would 100% tag him in the picture of it and he would see the funny side. This does not mean any of the below:

That I don't think he has a proper job
That I undermine his job
That I lie and say he is with me when he isn't

What it does mean is I am having a cider in the garden and I have posted it on FB.
To quote my 14 year old "It's not that deep"

Are you billing your clients for doing work today or what is the issue? It’s bank holiday

Did he actually say you were out there drinking with him though, you say “basically saying we” but did he actually post those words or is because when he’s posted his selfie it whatever and tagged you, itll display as “Mrciderinthegarden is with hoppinmad”

Fair enough if he actually typed the words that you were out there boozing with him but it sounds like you’re not very familiar with Facebook features etc, and if something like this could cause you financial implications at work, it might be a good idea to have a seperate professional account where friends and family can’t tag you in anything that would make you look unprofessional.

My brother is always tagging his wife and even though the tag says she’s with him, she’s usually not. My sil often tags her husband on her weekend away photos and even though the tag says he’s with her, everyone knows he’s very much still in the uk and at work.

Change your settings so you have to approve posts your tagged in.

Because MNers are notorious for not liking people who WFH.

I don’t WFH but can still recognise that people that are WFH are actually still working.

Too many posters on here have jumped to defend DH and blame OP for having clients, not having her settings sorted, having notifications on etc etc instead of just saying that DH shouldn’t have implied you were in the garden instead of working.

Why would anyone tag someone on a social media page when you’re a few feet away from each other - that doesn’t make sense.

And if for some strange reason you did tag your partner who was a few feet away, you would at least put a caption saying like “too bad you’re working today” or something - you wouldn’t just leave it blank.

You tag people and post photos for your followers to see.
If you wanted to make your DP jealous in a jokey way, you’d just send him a private photo on WhatsApp.

DH put the photo on FB for the intention of others to see.

I assume OP is not stupid.
She said it was implying that they were both sat in the garden drinking and so I don’t know why posters are telling her she is in the wrong.

People tag others in all the time they they are with, that's the point of tagging someone. Others tag people in so they see the post.
I would 100% tag my DH in and we both WFH..it does not imply he was drinking too.

Well yes you’re right, it was pretty silly not to put basic restrictions in place.

Finally we agree on something.

If I was angry about anything in this scenario (I wouldn’t be), it would be that clients would think I was a cider drinker!