DH tagging me in a FB post that my customers can see

[imhoppingmad]

I'm hopping mad right now! My DH is off today (his first day off in a week) and he's having a lovely day in the garden. He just cracked open a cider, took a photo and posted it to FB, tagging me, basically saying that "we" are in the garden drinking cider.

I am not! I am inside working. I am friends on FB with my clients who I am working for right now. They will have seen the post. I've taken it down now. I am so mad at him! I was going to join him after I finish for the day, but I'm now sitting inside seething at his stupidity. I feel like just sacking our evening plans off entirely.

How could he be so silly?

Nope. Because my clients wouldn’t be able to see my social media 🤷‍♀️

Even those who are on my friends list can only see posts I’ve approved.

It’s basic online safety and social media 101.

I don't think she's over reacting. My DD used to do this on my social media. Make comments that were inappropriate for friends/colleagues who had added me. Had to delete DD in the end, because although I'd asked her not to do it, she continued.

Then years later she commented that someone thought it was odd that I didn't have her on my SM. I asked her if she'd told them why and she insisted that wasn't why I deleted her. But it definitely was.

So if you’re meant to be in a meeting with a clients vulnerable child...

Clients with vulnerable children shouldn't be anywhere near your personal social media. And people who are on your social media shouldn't know about your clients with vulnerable children. Absolutely basic safeguarding

And it's not up to dh to monitor his wife's social media to see who her friends are.

The OPs post is clear he implied she was with him, undermining her work

Omg what a nothing burger just comment As if! I'm inside working and a sad face

I don’t change my mind just because other people don’t agree with me lol.

I don’t play about my job.
It’s something that I take very seriously and wouldn’t do anything to jeopardise it.
OP is obviously the same.

I wouldn’t even post an embarrassing photo of someone or of them doing shots in a club etc if I knew that they had clients or employers on there and that it may look bad for their job.

Obviously me and OP are in the minority but I’m ok with that.

If she is working with someone’s child - vulnerable or not! - then she shouldn’t have them on social media at all! In many workplaces that would be gross misconduct because it is completely inappropriate

This isn't even remotely the same thing.

This was a tag, not a comment on one of the OP's own posts.

If she wants to mix business with her personal account, she was completely unprofessional to not quickly read up on how to use FB settings.

If OP took her job seriously she wouldn’t have her social media open to all and sundry.

A lot of anger over something so small. Chill out.

This has nothing to do with someone's ex colleague being told off for Facebooking.

The OP wasn't Facebooking.

DH is not the one who did something "so silly" - that's you, OP, for not locking down your social media and being professional enough to ensure that clients can't see your personal stuff.

You're mad at the wrong person.

@imhoppingmad YABU

If you have clients on your FB then it's up to you to make sure you have the correct security settings including having to approve any posts you're tagged in.

Go to settings, privacy check up, who can see what you share. There's then the option to review any posts you're tagged in.

Just reply to his message saying "YOU may be drinking in the garden but some of us are inside working!".

Its not big deal and no need to be fuming.

I get it OP it was a thoughtless thing to do whilst you are working to suggest you aren't.
Take the measures others have suggested so it can never happen again.
Don't ruin your own evening ..what's done is done now

So you’re saying that if someone was a tutor they can’t tutor for their friend’s children or children from their child’s school because they’ve got them on SM??

How is that basic safeguarding?

The safeguarding aspect comes from being in a private room (and not in an open space like a garden).
You can absolutely tutor or give therapy etc to friends children if they want you to.

Huh?

I'm referring to OPs post, which suggests they are drinking together...hence her anger when clients can see that.

Trusting your DH to protect your work and work reputation is pretty basic stuff.

Keeping your clients away from your private social media is also pretty basic stuff.

..and if her husband took her work seriously????

Maybe he wouldn't post implying they are drinking together on a day she is working

You realise there is a feature on fb where you have to approve any posts you are tagged in before they go on your timeline? Of course friends could post pics you are in and not tag you and mutual friends would see them, but if you are worried about work people seeing posts you are tagged in it is vv easy to sort or restrict your fb to them so they see none of your posts but you still appear to be "friends". I switched approve posts on years ago, but the easiest way to prevent work people/clients seeing things from your private life is simply don't have them on your personal fb, this is my approach, not that I'm wild or interesting these days!

You can't really be annoyed at your husband, you clearly just don't know how privacy settings work.

That's not true...lots of people share appropriate private SM with clients

We arent talking about an overshare by OP are we?

He hasn’t done anything that implies he doesn’t take her work seriously 🙄

The key word being “appropriate”.

I have a few clients on my private social media. I also have my settings set so that I have to approve every single tag, and they’re also all on a specific list so I can hide posts from them, or share with them if needed.

I don’t, however, give any of them free range to all my posts and tags because that is very silly behaviour.

I’m guessing most of these posters think that FB is life and are just on it constantly tagging everyone in everything.

I also think many of them are in relationships where they don’t have what’s seen as a ‘proper’ job and so assumes OPs job isn’t a proper one either.

I bet if if was DH at work in his ‘important’ job and she implied he wasn’t there or not doing it properly, he’d be going mad and everyone would be in support of him.

I don’t see what’s wrong. It’s a perfectly lovely thing to have a nice cold cider with your wife on a hot summer bank holiday. It would be different if he’d posted about you hosting a dog fight and mainlining crack cocaine at an abandoned quarry or something, but in the grand scheme of things, if you’re mixing business and pleasure this is one of the more pleasant things you could be doing. Turn on approvals for posts you’re tagged in and that should stop them being posted in your page.