DH tagging me in a FB post that my customers can see

[imhoppingmad]

I'm hopping mad right now! My DH is off today (his first day off in a week) and he's having a lovely day in the garden. He just cracked open a cider, took a photo and posted it to FB, tagging me, basically saying that "we" are in the garden drinking cider.

I am not! I am inside working. I am friends on FB with my clients who I am working for right now. They will have seen the post. I've taken it down now. I am so mad at him! I was going to join him after I finish for the day, but I'm now sitting inside seething at his stupidity. I feel like just sacking our evening plans off entirely.

How could he be so silly?

Ok so alone. Well, I suppose that is some kind of reassurance.

Just calm down. This is not a big deal

Still not going to tell us what you’d do in the OP’s shoes are you?

I wouldn’t dream of being Facebook friends with my clients. Friends are friends and clients are, well, clients and never the two shall meet.

I didn't actually even specify that she was it was suggesting it and I would say anyone uses Facebook is a loser

He just cracked open a cider, took a photo and posted it to FB, tagging me, basically saying that "we" are in the garden drinking cider.

Why would he tag OP if she was working?

Do you tag your DH when you’re out by yourself or with friends and imply he’s there too?
That’s pretty weird if you imply people are there when they’re not tbh.

So if your employer paid for you to attend a conference which you were genuinely at but your (ex) DP said that you weren’t there and you were actually in the pub, you would seriously think that’s mild?

Your employer shouldn't be able to see your personal social media, so it shouldn't be an issue.

Surely it depends what your job is though.

I have friends who are SE hairdressers, nail technicians, builders etc and I know for a fact that they’re friends with a lot of their clients on SM.

Tagging someone on Facebook does not necessarily mean “Jane is here with me right now”.

My mum knows I love dogs and horses and will often tag me in photos she’s taken of them.

I often tag friends in photos of nice restaurants or cafes - maybe they’ve recommended them to me or maybe I’m showing them what the food looks like.

I would tag DH in a photo at the pub if he was working and I wasn’t as I know it would annoy him - he would do the same to me 🤷‍♀️

Maybe you should stop being quite so literal.

I’m not actually on SM apart from this but my entire team is on SM including our bosses and they’re all friends on there.

If I was on it then 100% I’d have my manager and line manager on there.

@Jellox pretty please tell us what you’d do in the OP’s shoes?

@imhoppingmad
why are you working on this lovely bank holiday?

I’m autistic so I am literally but obviously OP is upset about it and so I’m not the only one.

Another reason why I wouldn’t want to WFH as so many people don’t see it as a proper job.

If this was DH at his ‘proper’ job, everyone would say OP was wrong for suggesting he wasn’t actually at work.

Grow up.

Very odd response to just being asked how you would respond to the OP’s situation

I’m autistic too 🤷‍♀️

But no, nobody would be saying that - it’s just social media, it’s not real life and doesn’t need to be taken so seriously.

I went to the pub yesterday and tagged my mum
to annoy her as she was home with a cold - maybe I should give myself a telling off 🤣

You could of commented "ha, I wish, I'm still working, maybe later" or similar. He was just trying to include you in his sunny post. Your reaction seems over the top to me.

Why does it matter how I would respond?

This is not your thread nor mine, it’s OPs.
I’m not sure how my response will help OP after the situation has already happened.

But regardless, I have a lot of respect for myself and my work and so a DP would never suggest that I wasn’t working when I was.
I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a man who didn’t take my job seriously.

The OP's husband isn't responsible for her incompetence.

Surely you can see the difference between having a joke with your mum whilst not working vs OP supposedly working but her DP suggesting she’s not?

My ex colleague was given disciplinary action for using FB during working hours and so we wouldn’t even be allowed to tag anyone whilst working.

No - because it’s social media. It’s not real life and shouldn’t be taken so literally.

Both DH and I are self-employed. It would never, ever occur to me to worry about what his clients thought about social media posts because he’s a) not daft enough to have them on his friends list to begin with and b) he’s an adult who doesn’t need to justify his social media posts to anyone, least of all his clients.

My ex colleague was given disciplinary action for using FB during working hours and so we wouldn’t even be allowed to tag anyone whilst working.

The OP's husband wasn't working when he tagged her 😳

This.

Why can your client see your personal Facebook?

You’d think by this point @Jellox might be wondering…. Maybe my fury and anger about this is just a touch extreme given it very very much seems I am alone in my anger aside from the op!

So if you’re meant to be in a meeting with a clients vulnerable child and someone implies you’re not in your private office during the time you’re in the meeting, you don’t think that’s even a little bit off?

DH knows she’s got clients on there, he knows that they’ll see it, he knows she’s in her office working and there’s absolutely no need for him to have done it when they literally live in the same house.