AIBU to report nut-containing muffins being brought into a nut-free school?

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I’m really conflicted whether to keep quiet about something or not . If I say something it will be completely obvious it was me that reported.

Dd best friend always takes in a homemade muffin to school as has packed lunch. Dd had a play date and when I picked her up said that she had some and can we make them for her lunches after the half term break so I asked for the recipe.
One was a ‘Bakewell muffin’ made with almond flour and glace cherries the other was a peanut butter chocolate and banana marbled muffin. The thing is it’s a nut free school and when I said ‘oh I’m surprised you’ve got away with this’ after she shared the recipe she just laughed. Now I’m feeling like it’s wrong?

I know in the class there are no nut allergies but I have no idea obviously about the rest of the year/school. But if I say something is it going to cause a massive problem ? This is dd best friend and I just don’t know what to do ?

Inform them but tbh, as an allergy parent I don’t see the point in nut free schools.

my daughter is allergic to egg and peanut. She’s actually far more allergic to egg and that’s never banned and actually in way more stuff. We’ve just taught her around cross contamination, reading labels, not sharing food, which is much safer than relying on other parents, as I know many wouldn’t comply either from genuine misunderstandings or not caring.

Even we as bona fide allergy parents mess up occasionally so it’s too much to put on the general population imo.

You've missed the point. Schools going nut free rather than having robust allergy training is problematic for two reasons

• nuts will creep in anyway,
• there will be many children in every school who are severely allergic to other foods. Including milk.

Schools need robust allergy policies and training rather than thinking they can tick the "sorted allergies" box by wittering on about nut bans

School rang me several times to tell my my daughter had been in the same classroom as a peanut butter sandwich. But when a cheese slice was actually thrown into her lunch box rendering her lunch inedible they didn't even think to tell me or try and sort her some replacement food. it's this utter gulf in understanding of the fact that for children with a milk allergy milk is enough exactly as hazardous as nuts that makes the current approach so frustrating

i think posters dont even realise Natasha of Natasha's law wasnt allergic to peanuts or treenuts (My ds is not allergic to peanuts, just some tree nuts, and seeds mainly sesame and poppy seeds) Natasha had an anaphylactic reaction to sesame seeds in a baguette and Benedict Blythe died because he ingested cows milk. instead of the oat milk his parents sent in and the school had not realy allergy policy.

Indeed, and Karanbir Cheema died when a cheese slice was thrown at him at school.

He had an anaphylactic reaction from skin contact to cheese

This is Natasha's story. She was hospitalised as a child from reactions to milk particles in the air

https://www.narf.org.uk/natashas-allergies

Don’t be THAT parent…

My eldest like me has a whole host of food allergies including a variety of nuts, dairy, eggs and less common things that aren’t even required to be listed in restaurants/schools etc cos they’re not the big 14. We had to teach her at 4.5 to always ask and to recognise the allergens herself because her school
did nothing to support heR despite the HV contacting them and the allergy clinic too.

I don’t agree with complete bans because it gives a false sense of security and doesn’t really help children check for themselves, also we see the fuck you parents who will
do what they want anyway. What should be necessary is proper hygiene education (lack of Hygiene is one of the biggest allergen contaminants - coughing on people/not washing hands to remove the proteins etc) Ensuring EpiPens are available just in case and teaching supervisors how to react if a severe allergy happens.

With my youngest I was called and told to pick him up to deal with a sudden allergic reaction to something we still don’t know what. Thankfully it was only an external urticaria response but in the 40 minutes it took me to get to him at school anything could’ve happened and they refused to do something to help other than a wet paper towel.

And in the end of day it can be very hard to do a packed lunch with a ban for gluten, milk, egg, nuts or whatever your class friends' allergies are.

Even harder if you are a parent not used to deal with it. It's simply not viable. It can be so hard to work out ingredients and often også very expensive.
I am happy to collaborate and of course I don't want to harm other people but when I can't eat gluten/dairy products it can be difficult to also take a 100% ban for several other foods.

Sometimes it's ok to be "that" parent!

What do you mean/who was that addressed to?