AIBU to report nut-containing muffins being brought into a nut-free school?

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I’m really conflicted whether to keep quiet about something or not . If I say something it will be completely obvious it was me that reported.

Dd best friend always takes in a homemade muffin to school as has packed lunch. Dd had a play date and when I picked her up said that she had some and can we make them for her lunches after the half term break so I asked for the recipe.
One was a ‘Bakewell muffin’ made with almond flour and glace cherries the other was a peanut butter chocolate and banana marbled muffin. The thing is it’s a nut free school and when I said ‘oh I’m surprised you’ve got away with this’ after she shared the recipe she just laughed. Now I’m feeling like it’s wrong?

I know in the class there are no nut allergies but I have no idea obviously about the rest of the year/school. But if I say something is it going to cause a massive problem ? This is dd best friend and I just don’t know what to do ?

You know if there was a child in the school with a severe allergy to those things, I would happily eliminate them from my child’s packed lunch!!

Precisely this! Glad there’s still some people with common sense!

I can guarantee you there will be children with a severe milk allergy in every single primary school. It's not rare.

That's not common sense. It's ignorance.

We have explained countless times on this thread that nuts aren't more fatal than milk

For younger children.

If you had a family member with an airborne allergy, you would soon realise that death from being in the room with the allergen is entirely possible - YOU ARE IGNORANT

Myself and my DS have peanut allergies. It does drive me mental that people think nut allergies are more serious than other allergies. Any allergy can be serious.

Our school (small rural) asked me about becoming a nut free school. They already request no nuts, but it’s not particularly strict or enforced. I told them no I wasn’t pushing for an outright nut ban. Ultimately you cannot guarantee that some random parent/granny/child hasn’t provided something with allergens in, either by mistake or because they don’t care.

The best way to keep my DS and other allergy kids safe is to drill into him that he can never ever share other kids food, and to ask a teacher about anything he’s unsure of. And for hands to be washed after eating and tables wiped.

Id just tell your friend it’s supposed to be a nut free school. If they don’t seem to care then I’d tell the school and they will probably send an email out

Myself and my DS have peanut allergies. It does drive me mental that people think nut allergies are more serious than other allergies. Any allergy can be serious.

Yes, absolutely and without doubt any allergy can be serious and must be taken seriously.

However, in adults nuts and peanuts are responsible for more anaphylactic deaths in the UK than all other food allergens combined.
And that’s not because people tend to eat more nuts than they do the other allergens.

Nut allergies are feared for a reason.

My DN has a nut allergy and we as a family do not eat nuts on the day we see her. Because we love her!

If the school is nut-free, they clearly present a life-threatening risk to one or more children.

Imagine being the parent of such a child and having to rely on the good will of other parents to keep your child safe/

Most decent parents will cast an eye over the ingredients of the food they put in to their kids lunches to check for safety and sometimes nuts may sneak in by omission to check thoroughly, or ignorance of nut ingredients, but imagine being so fucking entitled that you'd actually make something for your kid to take in and wilfully select ingredients that are fatal. FFS what a psychopath.

You should have a polite, but firm word with the mum.

Yes, report it. My friend's little girl has a peanut allergy, and has ended up in hospital not once but twice because people in her class have ignored the rules. One of the children actually brought a peanut protein bar and chased her with it (this wasn't one of the occasions she was actually harmed). People find it funny!

I wouldn’t mind a nut free school because it’s easy not to eat nuts.

But a dairy free or gluten free or … you could go on. That’s a huge problem if you have children in a large school covering that spectrum. I think I would have to say no packed lunch and just go with school dinners but what would the school actually serve!

Now I think about it perhaps meat and 2 veg?

I have had children in my classes who have very, very severe allergies to nuts ... multiple epi pens in school level allergies.

Please report her.

Except that nuts aren’t more likely to be fatal, as far more children die from dairy allergy reactions.

Except that’s not always the case. I’ve known plenty of schools who are “nut free” just because. No allergies, I was a governor at one, and they did it because it looks good on their ofsted report and to potential parents.

This is why people don’t take these bans seriously. They’re generally not there to protect a specific child, they’re there to make the school look good.

And yet those same smugly "decent " parents are probably sending little Johnny into school with a cheese sandwich/yoghurt ...

There will be children with life threatening allergies to milk in every single primary school

Quite a number of children have died from exposure to milk at primary school

Both my children and many others on this thread have had children who have had to use their EpiPens due to exposure to milk at primary school

So anyone smugly congratulating themselves on not sending in nuts while cheerily wrapping up a lunch stuffed with dairy products needs a head wobble

Allergies are pretty common. My children have nut allergies (as well as their milk allergies) and there's always at least one other child in their class with nut allergies and usually at least one other child with milk allergies

Unless you were governor of tiny schools it's highly unlikely there were no children with allergies

Except this alleged ‘common sense’ is actually totally incorrect…

I would speak to school, they will probably send a blanket note along the lines of we have noticed some children bringing food containing nuts, we have server allergies please stop. We have had a few like this, so she won’t necessarily link it to you.

Again there’s a huge difference in sending in dairy in a lunch box when you have not been asked to avoid this and knowingly flouting a ban on nuts.

Objectively there isn't though, once you've had it explained to you that milk is just as dangerous as nuts and that there will be children with life threatening milk allergies in every primary school

Absolutely not ok to take something containing peanuts in to school!

But we haven’t been told not to bring in dairy 🤔

Will fully come clean here. I am an allergy parent (DD has a severe pea allergy) and knowingly flouted the nut ban when she was at school with PB sandwiches, Nutella etc..

The girl in question with the peanut allergy (tiny prep school where everyone knew everybody) was much older, knew to avoid her allergens and was never in close contact with DD. There wasn’t a justifiable risk and I don’t regret it.

Not everyone in a school community has in depth knowledge of who the allergic child is or the severity or nuance of their allergy. If a ban is in place, respect it.