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AIBU to think these boys should have been incarcerated?

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newrubylane · 21/05/2026 14:06

BBC News - Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

I've never started an AIBU before, but I'm genuinely really shocked. I'm just not sure how this sentence is justifiable. Their actions were premeditated and deliberate, they were carrying a knife and they filmed themselves. They're obviously a danger to women/girls, and probably to other boys too.

If anyone knows how and why this sentence might have come about, I'd be interested to hear it.

A footpath beside a river, leading under a road bridge

Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls in Fordingbridge

The boys filmed themselves laughing and encouraging each other as they raped girls in separate attacks.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

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PhaedraTwo · Yesterday 00:59

SpaceRaccoon · 21/05/2026 23:25

That's a lot of words to justify the fact that they're unpunished for a gang rape.
Being found guilty will affect their lived in zero meaningful way, given their background.
And they will do this again. Probably at least one of then will kill someone.

In a sane society that didn't hate women and girls, gang and violent rapes would have life sentences, as it's the only way to keep women safe.

I agree, a lot of fine words. The conviction will mean nothing to them.

I agree this won't be their last appearance in a court.

Sworkmum · Yesterday 01:24

Brunts12 · Yesterday 00:42

Yes, a custodial sentence for youth offenders would be shorter, but the argument that a community order is therefore 'better' assumes rehabilitation is actually happening. Youth Rehabilitation Orders are chronically under-resourced and compliance is inconsistently enforced. The evidence that they are more effective than custody in cases of serious violent and sexual offending is far from settled.
The criminal record point is technically true but misleading. Crucially, youth convictions become spent far sooner than adult ones, and many employers, universities and licensing bodies will never see them. That is a very different proposition to presenting this as meaningful long-term accountability.
The 'we don't know all the facts' argument cuts both ways, as we also don't know that the judge got this right. That is precisely why the Unduly Lenient Sentence scheme exists.
Finally, suggesting that people questioning this outcome simply 'don't understand how the system works' is not an argument. It's a way of shutting down legitimate concern. The system is not beyond criticism.

all public services unfortunately are under resourced. And there is little research currently on this subject. But research does show that rehab works better than punishment, which we do know.

regarding the spent conviction you are correct of course, but anything requiring a DBS will see this. Disclosing an unspent conviction means the likelihood of accessing employment/education are greatly reduced, which are both huge factors for desistance from crime hence why youth sentences are spent sooner. I am not sure what being out in the community but having to disclose for longer would achieve. Any job which requires working with vulnerable people would be made aware regardless. There is also register for sexual offenders and other sexual harm orders which is longer and likely in place here anyway exceeding the 3 years which would need to be disclosed.

I am not shutting it down or saying people shouldn’t appeal either. The judge certainly could have got it wrong here and every system should be free to be criticised. But the people in that court room will have all the info to make decisions most of which will not be public due to this being youths. It just feels what lots of people want here simply will not happen within the law. Which is why I said people do not understand how it works. And what is being asked for just does not exist.

Meadowfinch · Yesterday 01:54

Thelnebriati · 21/05/2026 23:24

They can get the help they need to be safe members of society while they are incarcerated imo. Rehabilitation and incarceration aren't mutually exclusive.

The other benefit of long custodial sentences is the boys will be removed from the family environments that have taught them to behave in such an appalling manner.

In a proper rehabilitation unit, where they are seperated from each other, there is more chance of their learning some decency and core values.

EvieBB · Yesterday 03:26

AreYouAGod · 21/05/2026 21:56

Thank you everyone who explained how to appeal. Just did it. Power of mumsnet!

Yes, thank you so much for setting up this thread OP as I wouldn't have even heard about this otherwise (don't always watch the news as too depressing, then I came across this 😞 Just signed the form as well and considering emailing my MP also.

NorthernJim · Yesterday 03:29

I saw an article about this yesterday. It said the perpetrators are from the travelling community. Can't seem to find it now, maybe it's been pulled/edited? Other articles say the boys had ADHD and 'low intellectual capacity'. First article said the judge told them they weren't being given custodial because of those factors. Basically a licence for less intelligent people to get away with the most heinous crimes? The mindset and thought process of these judges terrifies me.

EvieBB · Yesterday 03:33

Sworkmum · 21/05/2026 23:08

Much like @FinchiePink and @Backedoffhackedoff have pointed out we don’t know all the information here.

realistically if they got a custodial sentence it would likely be less than 3 years due to their ages/mitigating factors. Therefore the longer community sentence is actually a better outcome.

not much can be achieved in a custodial sentence. The rehab, assessments etc you are suggesting mostly do not happen in lots of custodial settings, they are more likely to happen in the community.

people are confusing justice for children with justice for adults. Sentences/custody/inteventions/assessments etc are not the same or comparable. Community orders are more effective and better resourced than most youth custody establishments.

they have been criminalised, they will now have a criminal record and this will show on their record. They have an unspent conviction for rape (x however many they have been charged for).

they will be 18 by the time they finish these orders and have time to mature and learn consequences and understand why they should never repeat this behaviour. It may not feel like justice as saying lock them up ‘feels’ more justified. But in reality it is just not as effective at preventing this happening again. Surely that’s the outcome everyone wants is for this behaviour to be prevented in the future - if so this is how. The people in these courts including the judge have all the facts and know how the system works. It is apparent most on here do not.

Well I hope you're right 🙏 ....
but the comments made by the judge about "not "criminalising then" are still way out of order and surely give out the wrong message to other scum that are inclined to do the same :(

HelmholtzWatson · Yesterday 03:51

Shocking. I could understand the argument for a non-custodial sentence if it was a one-off. However, they premeditatedly repeated the offence, and would surely have raped further girls if they had the chance.

RingoJuice · Yesterday 06:04

they will be 18 by the time they finish these orders and have time to mature and learn consequences and understand why they should never repeat this behaviour. It may not feel like justice as saying lock them up ‘feels’ more justified. But in reality it is just not as effective at preventing this happening again

These children will never learn that, they laughed and taunted these girls, threatened one with a knife. The most effective way to prevent this from happening again is to put them in prison and don’t let them out until they are old

Brunts12 · Yesterday 06:40

Sworkmum · Yesterday 01:24

all public services unfortunately are under resourced. And there is little research currently on this subject. But research does show that rehab works better than punishment, which we do know.

regarding the spent conviction you are correct of course, but anything requiring a DBS will see this. Disclosing an unspent conviction means the likelihood of accessing employment/education are greatly reduced, which are both huge factors for desistance from crime hence why youth sentences are spent sooner. I am not sure what being out in the community but having to disclose for longer would achieve. Any job which requires working with vulnerable people would be made aware regardless. There is also register for sexual offenders and other sexual harm orders which is longer and likely in place here anyway exceeding the 3 years which would need to be disclosed.

I am not shutting it down or saying people shouldn’t appeal either. The judge certainly could have got it wrong here and every system should be free to be criticised. But the people in that court room will have all the info to make decisions most of which will not be public due to this being youths. It just feels what lots of people want here simply will not happen within the law. Which is why I said people do not understand how it works. And what is being asked for just does not exist.

Sure. However, the research you are referring to is largely relates to lower-level and non-violent offending. The evidence base for community disposals being more effective than custody specifically in cases of serious, premeditated, group sexual violence involving weapons is considerably thinner. Citing general rehabilitation research to justify this specific outcome is a stretch.
You say 'what people want simply does not exist within the law' and that is precisely the point many of us are making! Perhaps it should. If the law cannot provide a proportionate response to ten rape convictions involving a knife, filmed group assaults and two separate victims, then the law needs examining. That is not ignorance of how the system works. That is a legitimate democratic argument about whether the system is fit for purpose.
Nobody in this thread is calling for vengeance. We are questioning whether a non-custodial sentence adequately reflects the gravity of what was done to two teenage girls. Those are not the same thing, and conflating them doesn't strengthen your argument.

Funtime2 · Yesterday 06:45

Submitted the form

kvazzy · Yesterday 07:21

Submitted the form too. Both my husband and I. We are truly horrified by the sentence.

Bunnycat101 · Yesterday 07:25

These boys might be minors but they were old enough to know raping a young girl at knife point and filming it was criminal behaviour. Most rape cases don’t ever actually get to trial. This case had bloody video evidence and it still didn’t result in a custodial sentence. In these circumstances I think the societal messaging is actually more important than the individual ‘needs’ of those boys. What about the needs of the girls, one of whom wants to die. It makes me sick. I don’t really give a shit about pension funding - I do want my girls to grow up feeling safe.

RollOnSunshine · Yesterday 07:40

This needs to be shared on other forums and social media too. We need to get as many forms submitted as possible. I have posted on a couple of other forums that I use.

BufferingAgain · Yesterday 07:42

‘He added that he needed to remember the boys were “very young”, had low intelligence, a “limited understanding of consent” and “peer pressure played a large part in what went on”.’

Peer pressure? Try a vape, did they?!

‘Forced to leave her mobile phone and AirTag in a shop so her movements could not be tracked, she was made to walk to a secluded field, where she was raped by two of the defendants as they filmed the incident.’

This part is terrifyingly premeditated (and shows some level of forethought/intelligence)

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/may/21/boys-convicted-of-get-non-custodial-sentences-as-judge-says-they-should-not-be-criminalised-unnecessarily

Boys convicted of rape get non-custodial sentences as judge says they should not be criminalised unnecessarily

Boys physically overpowered and then filmed attacks on teenage victims in separate incidents in Hampshire

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/may/21/boys-convicted-of-get-non-custodial-sentences-as-judge-says-they-should-not-be-criminalised-unnecessarily

Alexandra2001 · Yesterday 07:45

HelmholtzWatson · Yesterday 03:51

Shocking. I could understand the argument for a non-custodial sentence if it was a one-off. However, they premeditatedly repeated the offence, and would surely have raped further girls if they had the chance.

Rape is a vile crime, often having huge MH impacts on the victim.

What sort of person pins down, against her will, another person and then enjoys having sex with the crying victim? whether it be power or sex.

One off? no such thing, once they know they can do this once, they'll do it again, these boys shared the images, treated it all as a big joke, no regret, not shame.

Stomach churning that prison and a very long sentence wasn't imposed.

what message has this Judge sent to the rest of society?

Pigeonpoodle · Yesterday 07:54

Sworkmum · 21/05/2026 23:08

Much like @FinchiePink and @Backedoffhackedoff have pointed out we don’t know all the information here.

realistically if they got a custodial sentence it would likely be less than 3 years due to their ages/mitigating factors. Therefore the longer community sentence is actually a better outcome.

not much can be achieved in a custodial sentence. The rehab, assessments etc you are suggesting mostly do not happen in lots of custodial settings, they are more likely to happen in the community.

people are confusing justice for children with justice for adults. Sentences/custody/inteventions/assessments etc are not the same or comparable. Community orders are more effective and better resourced than most youth custody establishments.

they have been criminalised, they will now have a criminal record and this will show on their record. They have an unspent conviction for rape (x however many they have been charged for).

they will be 18 by the time they finish these orders and have time to mature and learn consequences and understand why they should never repeat this behaviour. It may not feel like justice as saying lock them up ‘feels’ more justified. But in reality it is just not as effective at preventing this happening again. Surely that’s the outcome everyone wants is for this behaviour to be prevented in the future - if so this is how. The people in these courts including the judge have all the facts and know how the system works. It is apparent most on here do not.

I appreciate we may not know ALL the information, but it’s patronising to accuse the vast majority who are appalled by this of not knowing enough to recognise this is unacceptable.

What occurred here wasn’t youths merely acting selfishly, recklessly or thoughtlessly, these were acts of premeditated evil for which there can be no mitigating factors that should mean they avoid a lengthy custodial sentence regardless of the fact they are teenagers, similar to the James Bulger case.

These youths were capable of acting as a group to attack girls in a secluded place as knifepoint, rape them, show sadistic pleasure as they did so, and then post video of the acts to others. If they had the mental capacity to do this, it is irrelevant what their IQ is, they are culpable and should be punished accordingly.

Responding to this by quibbling that procedure may have been followed or that we are under-resourced to manage youth crime but not with outrage that this is unacceptable regardless is nothing other than callous.

Bobcurlygirl · Yesterday 07:55

Submitted an appeal to the sentence. This is horrific. It's no wonder there is so much violence against women when there is no deterrent.

Lalgarh · Yesterday 07:56

Jess Phillips is currently on R4 blaming social media companies for this

aquitodavia · Yesterday 07:59

Ohcrap082024 · 21/05/2026 23:37

You make some very good points @Sworkmumespecially about the level of rehabilitation in the community vs within custody. And I agree with you that these males should not be treated as adults because they are not.

But, I think that there is a huge point that you are missing, which is many people, including the PCC for Hampshire, have concerns that the sentences given out today concentrate purely on the rehabilitation of the offenders. That there is no tangible sense of justice for the 2 girls who have been raped multiple times.

The court appears to have concentrated on the needs of the offenders rather than the rights of the victims.

Judges do get things wrong sometimes and today may well be one of those occasions.

There is also an important factor in the message it sends more broadly. Gang rape a girl in your teenage years? Probably fine, seen as a bit of a childish misdemeanor, slap on the wrist and a few courses (that may or may not be true but that will be the perception). If it happens to you, then probably best not report, it'll be dragged out in the courts, you'll be called a liar, and those kids who filmed you, degraded you and mocked you will be called good kids and congratulated for their behaviour in court (!!). Sentences act as deterrents, and an example of justice, they are not just about the individual perpetrator.

And I also don't believe that rehabilitation can't take place in a young offenders' custodial setting, they aren't adult prisons.

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 08:00

Another thing - I think the belief that every criminal can be rehabilitated is misguided and naive, and that the focus on rehabilitation over punishment at all costs means that justice isn't served.

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 08:00

Pigeonpoodle · Yesterday 07:54

I appreciate we may not know ALL the information, but it’s patronising to accuse the vast majority who are appalled by this of not knowing enough to recognise this is unacceptable.

What occurred here wasn’t youths merely acting selfishly, recklessly or thoughtlessly, these were acts of premeditated evil for which there can be no mitigating factors that should mean they avoid a lengthy custodial sentence regardless of the fact they are teenagers, similar to the James Bulger case.

These youths were capable of acting as a group to attack girls in a secluded place as knifepoint, rape them, show sadistic pleasure as they did so, and then post video of the acts to others. If they had the mental capacity to do this, it is irrelevant what their IQ is, they are culpable and should be punished accordingly.

Responding to this by quibbling that procedure may have been followed or that we are under-resourced to manage youth crime but not with outrage that this is unacceptable regardless is nothing other than callous.

Also, justice must be seen to be done.

It isnt just about these boys.

PlummyAndFruity · Yesterday 08:10

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 14:50

I’m afraid I agree we shouldn’t criminalise children

I think their risk to women/ the public and their progress in rehabilitation needs to be carefully assessed, and I would advocate on the side of caution with that- but not that they should be criminalised. It’s just not effective

So why criminalise anyone?

The committed (heinous) crimes - they criminalised themselves.

RingoJuice · Yesterday 08:10

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 08:00

Another thing - I think the belief that every criminal can be rehabilitated is misguided and naive, and that the focus on rehabilitation over punishment at all costs means that justice isn't served.

It is based upon Christian principles (which liberals follow even though they claim not to), they literally believe anyone can be saved even though we know that these boys will never ‘see the light’

IwouldlikeanewTV · Yesterday 08:12

RingoJuice · Yesterday 06:04

they will be 18 by the time they finish these orders and have time to mature and learn consequences and understand why they should never repeat this behaviour. It may not feel like justice as saying lock them up ‘feels’ more justified. But in reality it is just not as effective at preventing this happening again

These children will never learn that, they laughed and taunted these girls, threatened one with a knife. The most effective way to prevent this from happening again is to put them in prison and don’t let them out until they are old

Exactly. I don’t believe a rapist can be taught not to rape. Rehabilitation doesn’t work. It’s how the rapist views women and girls. That can’t be changed. You can educate but they will never change. These boys should have gone to prison. They will get the best treatment possible if they turn up.

Ohcrap082024 · Yesterday 08:19

@Brunts12you are absolutely spot on.

I am still waiting for evidence that community rehabilitation works for young gang rapists.

Not young shoplifters, vandals, arsonists, burglars.

The judge in this case has made the decision that these 3 young convicted gang rapists are suitable for community based rehabilitation. But, is there any evidence that such programs actually work with rapists whilst the offenders remain in the community in which their behaviour originated? I suspect not as the data pool will be rather limited. I strongly doubt that the three males will actually receive the kind of rehabilitation in the community that the judge and others seem to think that they will.

So, we end up with a situation where the victims do not receive justice and the convicted rapists are dealt with by a system not designed to rehabilitate gang rapists.

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