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AIBU?

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AIBU to think these boys should have been incarcerated?

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newrubylane · 21/05/2026 14:06

BBC News - Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

I've never started an AIBU before, but I'm genuinely really shocked. I'm just not sure how this sentence is justifiable. Their actions were premeditated and deliberate, they were carrying a knife and they filmed themselves. They're obviously a danger to women/girls, and probably to other boys too.

If anyone knows how and why this sentence might have come about, I'd be interested to hear it.

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Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls in Fordingbridge

The boys filmed themselves laughing and encouraging each other as they raped girls in separate attacks.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

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Cartmella · Yesterday 19:44

I think the jury were courageous. I would like to thank them.

FernandoSor · Yesterday 19:45

Pigeonpoodle · Yesterday 18:10

You can sneer and condescend, but I would vote for the devil himself if he ensured justice for rapists and effective deterrence to keep women safe.

If Labour respond to this with proper action, I may vote for them next time, but if they don’t, and it they show the same attitude as that judge either through their words or inaction, then so help me god, I’ll do what’s necessary when I cast my ballot.

What action do you expect the Labour Party to take? Do you want to live in a country where the ruling party can overrule courts? Really?

The Attorney General will review the case and likely ask the Court of Appeal to re-consider the sentence. This has nothing to do with politicians.

Thmssngvwlsrnd · Yesterday 20:10

Well done everyone who asked for the review. This case has left me so angry and upset. Those poor girls.

Allisnotlost1 · Yesterday 21:17

Brunts12 · Yesterday 19:29

I would somewhat disagree that every custodial environment for young offenders is inevitably brutalising. Feltham and some of the older YOIs absolutely have deeply troubling records and I wouldn't dismiss that. But Adel Beck in Leeds, Hassockfield and some of the smaller Secure Children's Homes operate very differently. They have smaller units, higher staff to young person ratios and genuine therapeutic provision. They are not perfect but they are a world away from the brutalising environment. The problem is that provision is so inconsistent and so dependent on where you are in the country that the postcode lottery element is itself an injustice.
The answer to that though is surely to demand better custodial provision for serious cases like this and not to conclude that custody itself is the problem.

I agree SCHs are better, but as I say I’d imagine that wouldn’t be an option for boys of this age convicted of rape. It wasn’t when I was in youth justice anyway.

Hassockfield closed in 2015. You might mean Oakhill? STCs were conceptually good but proved disastrous. Oakhill is no better than Feltham A. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cvgnmpgx383o

I agree we should have better custodial provision, but custody is also itself a problem, which is why it should be a last resort.

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Youth detention centre in Milton Keynes removes 33 staff members

The chief inspector of Ofsted says children were found to be living in unsanitary conditions.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cvgnmpgx383o

EvieBB · Yesterday 22:11

jeffgoldblum · Yesterday 19:04

Please let’s not derail this thread with talk of politics, @Pigeonpoodle, was simply displaying the depths of her grief, anger and dissolution with the way women and girls are treated.

I didn't - it was Pigeonpoodle who started talking politics.
I absolutely appreciate she was displaying her anger with the way women and girls are treated - which is precisely why I could not let her comment go unanswered in light of the fact that she (quite rightly) feels deeply for women's rights but is clearly misguided if she thinks that Reform are the party to safeguard women.

OonaStubbs · Yesterday 22:34

Any convicted rapist should face significant time behind bars. Otherwise what is the point? The victim goes through all the stress of a trial, the rapists are found guilty and are allowed to walk free? It just makes a mockery of the legal system.

Brunts12 · Yesterday 23:06

Allisnotlost1 · Yesterday 21:17

I agree SCHs are better, but as I say I’d imagine that wouldn’t be an option for boys of this age convicted of rape. It wasn’t when I was in youth justice anyway.

Hassockfield closed in 2015. You might mean Oakhill? STCs were conceptually good but proved disastrous. Oakhill is no better than Feltham A. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cvgnmpgx383o

I agree we should have better custodial provision, but custody is also itself a problem, which is why it should be a last resort.

You're absolutely right and I apologise. I must have had it in my head when I mentioned Feltham (very sleep deprived here). I should have said Aldine House.

jeffgoldblum · Yesterday 23:21

EvieBB · Yesterday 22:11

I didn't - it was Pigeonpoodle who started talking politics.
I absolutely appreciate she was displaying her anger with the way women and girls are treated - which is precisely why I could not let her comment go unanswered in light of the fact that she (quite rightly) feels deeply for women's rights but is clearly misguided if she thinks that Reform are the party to safeguard women.

I understand but you are doing it again, reform doesn’t matter here , labour doesn’t matter here , no party does, only the girls matter and countless others matter.

Allisnotlost1 · Today 00:40

Brunts12 · Yesterday 23:06

You're absolutely right and I apologise. I must have had it in my head when I mentioned Feltham (very sleep deprived here). I should have said Aldine House.

No need to apologise. Aldine yes, that was a good one.

EvieBB · Today 00:59

jeffgoldblum · Yesterday 23:21

I understand but you are doing it again, reform doesn’t matter here , labour doesn’t matter here , no party does, only the girls matter and countless others matter.

I agree that politics doesn't matter in this case and I reiterate that I wasn't the one to bring up that subject in the first place - I was merely flagging up somebody's misguided belief that voting for a particular party would be safer for women, when in fact it would be the exact opposite. So in the interests of safeguarding women (which is the purpose of this thread) I think my post was necessary and entirely appropriate

Avemariamacchesney · Today 01:10

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 15:46

Those boys were six, and killed a child in a game gone wrong with no premeditation. This is entirely different.

GloiredeDijon · Today 07:23

Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 15:16

They’re from Southampton. And with sentences like that, I’d bet my house they’re white.

Actually they are from Fordingbridge which is as white as you can but same point.
It’s a lovely small town in the New Forest.
Hardly an area of deprivation in case anybody tries to suggest that either.

RingoJuice · Today 07:27

GloiredeDijon · Today 07:23

Actually they are from Fordingbridge which is as white as you can but same point.
It’s a lovely small town in the New Forest.
Hardly an area of deprivation in case anybody tries to suggest that either.

Hasn’t it already been reported that they have a traveller background? But we probably cannot speak much more about that …

Weebonnet · Today 07:41

There have been a couple of mentions on this thread about holding the parents more responsible for the clear failing in these boys’ upbringing, which a lot of the time has been summarily dismissed as “lol you can’t punish one person for another’s actions”

Yeah, ok. But do you know what you can punish
someone for? Being a shit parent, to the point where the human beings you were supposed to - by law - love, nourish and teach are now raping girls in secluded areas, face-down with their leggings cut off with a knife, filming it and publishing it. Repeatedly.

If that’s not a sign that something is going very wrong at home, not sure what is. These little shits have learned these behaviours from somewhere, and it’s not unreasonable to look first at their immediate family.

Incarceration in a YOI may not be much of a chance at rehabilitation, or a deterrent (although as people have rightly pointed out it’s not all about the personal growth of troubled young men, fs). What MIGHT be a deterrent is seeing your mum and/ or dad behind bars. Not because of your behaviour, necessarily, but because they were neglectful, abusive, enabling, and displayed behaviour that you, wrongly, were conditioned to believe was ok.

it might also give pause to some parents who are supposedly at a loss for what to do about their stupid rapist asshole sons. The threat of their own incarceration might inspire some ideas.

Lalgarh · Today 07:42

Being discussed now on R4. There are moves to review and increase the age of criminal responsibility already. Judge is mentioning the brain maturing late and young offenders institutions are beastly and they're not getting educational training. This is all very lovely and humane but unfortunately there are and will be scrotes who hear this and think: " rape a teenager, get an apprenticeship"

ArabellaScott · Today 07:44

Allisnotlost1 · Today 00:40

No need to apologise. Aldine yes, that was a good one.

When you say last resort, organised gang rape must be the very definition of a crime that calls for the last resort? Other than murder, I can't see much worse than this. Violence, brutality, coercion, sadism- all premeditated.

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