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AIBU to think these boys should have been incarcerated?

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newrubylane · 21/05/2026 14:06

BBC News - Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

I've never started an AIBU before, but I'm genuinely really shocked. I'm just not sure how this sentence is justifiable. Their actions were premeditated and deliberate, they were carrying a knife and they filmed themselves. They're obviously a danger to women/girls, and probably to other boys too.

If anyone knows how and why this sentence might have come about, I'd be interested to hear it.

A footpath beside a river, leading under a road bridge

Teenage boys sentenced for raping lone girls in Fordingbridge

The boys filmed themselves laughing and encouraging each other as they raped girls in separate attacks.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clypg68e2neo

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 21/05/2026 16:08

And shame on their mothers who were relieved or whatever

Disgusting.

KidsDoBetter · 21/05/2026 16:08

lornad00m · 21/05/2026 16:07

That's what I want to know. What about this?? You can apparently request a sentence review. But it has to be within 28 days of the sentence.

Submit your request as early as possible before the 28-day deadline expires.

https://www.gov.uk/ask-crown-court-sentence-review

Yes this is what everyone has been posting above. Links are there for details necessary. Write "unknown" for names

clearlyy · 21/05/2026 16:08

I’m absolutely sickened. The sentencing for rape in this country is too lenient and it makes it seem that rape is now “legal” as there is no deterrent. It’s so very upsetting. Those poor girls.

lornad00m · 21/05/2026 16:11

KidsDoBetter · 21/05/2026 16:08

Yes this is what everyone has been posting above. Links are there for details necessary. Write "unknown" for names

Oh sorry. Have they been? I've been on a mission and didn't check. I'm too fired up. 🙄 Thanks for the heads up re the 'unknown' for names.

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 16:12

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 16:08

You said children don't belong in prison.

I didn’t say that. I said I agree that children shouldn’t be unnecessarily criminalised, to give them the best chance of rehabilitation.

you’re so wild with fury you’ve made assumptions. We are talking about one situation which we have limited details of, I don’t apply the same view to every single under 18 who has committed a violent crime. I don’t know the first thing about the iow bomber.

Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 16:12

Firetreev · 21/05/2026 15:47

Okay, I'll admit 'literally' isn't accurate but cases like the one at the link below come to mind. Seven years for murdering someone, and I think manslaughter is often the same thing, is getting off with it. They should be imprisoned for a couple of decades at least.

And yes, the boys may have been convicted, but without a prison sentence what is their real punishment? And what does this sentencing do to deter other boys and men from doing the same? Zero!

BBC News - Teens who killed man with rocks and a bottle sentenced
www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1m290e0x3xo

I’m not really following you. Are you saying you think manslaughter is the same as murder? The outcome is obviously the same but legally they’re very different and attract different sentences. The sentences in this case are a little below average I think, but not as surprising as the rape case in the OP.

Agree that a community sentence often seems as though it’s not much of a punishment. However there’s no evidence that longer prison sentences are a deterrent to others than shorter ones, or that prison is more of a deterrent than a non-custodial sentence. In countries where children really are not criminalised, there’s less youth violence and less reoffending.

SweetSummerHerbs · 21/05/2026 16:12

What an arsehole of a judge and there are many more of them.

I think the judge should have to sign his name to a legal document stating that he will be held responsible for any sexual attack these rapists do in the next 20 years.

If he has such faith in the little shits, that won't be a problem for him and if it is, he should ask himself why he is willing for women to take the consequences and risks of his brainless sentence if he isn't.

A guarantor for a loan has to sign his name saying he will be responsible if the person making the loan repayments stops doing so. It is the same principle.

That might make a few of these soft headed, soft hearted judges think twice.

Hoppity80 · 21/05/2026 16:13

i am horrified by what i am reading. I half expected the boys to be 11/12 or in some kind of relationship . Not that would make this ok in any shape or form but it might have explained why the judge wanted to give a second chance.
but these boys knew exactly what they were doing, they SHOULD be criminalised! Surely this kind of crime is what prisons are for!!

Netcurtainnelly · 21/05/2026 16:13

RingoJuice · 21/05/2026 14:53

Two of the boys' mothers burst into tears as Judge Nicholas Rowland told the attackers "none of you need to go to prison today"

Their mothers are horrible too these boys are dangerous and they will almost certainly do this again. How many time before they are caught again? How cruel to these girls and future girls that will be victimized

Wonder how the boys would have felt if someone raped their mother's/sisters?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/05/2026 16:13

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 16:12

I didn’t say that. I said I agree that children shouldn’t be unnecessarily criminalised, to give them the best chance of rehabilitation.

you’re so wild with fury you’ve made assumptions. We are talking about one situation which we have limited details of, I don’t apply the same view to every single under 18 who has committed a violent crime. I don’t know the first thing about the iow bomber.

But they’re violent rapists, so they wouldn’t be “unnecessarily criminalised”, would they?

feebeecat · 21/05/2026 16:14

It is absolutely appalling. What message does that send to those poor girls.
As the mother of girls I am so increasingly pissed off at the attitudes held by certain males and the dismissive responses they seem to receive from our society. I really don’t recognise this place anymore.
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catscatscurrantscurrants · 21/05/2026 16:14

I've written to appeal the sentence as unduly lenient. This is a disgraceful outcome to a very disturbing crime. Those young girls will have to live with what happened to them for the rest of their lives; it's only fair that their attackers should have an equally serious consequence.

coulditbeme2323 · 21/05/2026 16:14

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 16:12

I didn’t say that. I said I agree that children shouldn’t be unnecessarily criminalised, to give them the best chance of rehabilitation.

you’re so wild with fury you’ve made assumptions. We are talking about one situation which we have limited details of, I don’t apply the same view to every single under 18 who has committed a violent crime. I don’t know the first thing about the iow bomber.

There you go

https://www.gbnews.com/news/prison-officer-ear-sliced-off-terrorist-jail-beaten-unconscious-kettle-work

Prison officer whose ear was sliced off by terrorist in jail is 'beaten unconscious with kettle' just after return to work

'The bloke has been badly assaulted twice in a year and is getting no support from the service,' one source fumed

https://www.gbnews.com/news/prison-officer-ear-sliced-off-terrorist-jail-beaten-unconscious-kettle-work

Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/05/2026 16:14

I think you’re just goading posters for whatever purpose. Your lack of empathy for these girls is crystal clear.

Pigeonpoodle · 21/05/2026 16:15

Pigeonpoodle · 21/05/2026 16:01

Does anyone know who would be best person to complain about this and ask for a review?

Thank you for previous posts stating how to complain about an unduly lenient sentence. Here’s a link for others:

www.gov.uk/ask-crown-court-sentence-review

Nihongo · 21/05/2026 16:15

FinchiePink · 21/05/2026 16:05

Again, this isn't like a petition.

Only one person needs to file a request.

It doesn't make any difference if hundreds of people do it.

So what? What’s it to you if 10 people or a hundred submit the form?

SweetSummerHerbs · 21/05/2026 16:16

Allisnotlost1 · 21/05/2026 16:12

I’m not really following you. Are you saying you think manslaughter is the same as murder? The outcome is obviously the same but legally they’re very different and attract different sentences. The sentences in this case are a little below average I think, but not as surprising as the rape case in the OP.

Agree that a community sentence often seems as though it’s not much of a punishment. However there’s no evidence that longer prison sentences are a deterrent to others than shorter ones, or that prison is more of a deterrent than a non-custodial sentence. In countries where children really are not criminalised, there’s less youth violence and less reoffending.

So what.

A deterrent is only part of it-we're too hung up on that.

The main part should be focusing on punishment.

Punishment is what these fuckers need and if the punishment is harsh enough, that will be deterrent enough.

If they come out and throw a crisp packet in the street, then back they go for life.

Bollocks to rehabilitation-there is no such thing. Punishment is what's needed. Hard, tough, unforgiving and strong.

If there aren't enough prisons then get those already in prison to build more-that will reduce the bill and make them work for their keep doing something useful.

NoisyHiker · 21/05/2026 16:17

I would vote for any party who would look hard at our current judicial system and sentencing guidelines.

It is not fit for purpose. It does not protect the public, it does not appropriately punish crimes (especially sexual ones) and it does not act as any form of deterent.

There seems to be something wrong with many judges, they have too much leeway within sentencing guidelines to be lenient where they have a bias for some reason (look at this man's comments about not wanting to criminise these serial rapists).

DrPrunesqualer · 21/05/2026 16:17

FinchiePink · 21/05/2026 16:07

No it wouldn't, it just creates an admin headache for some civil servant somewhere.

By all means start a petition, but it would be a waste of time given that an unduly lenient form has already been submitted.

Polite request to not downplay mumsnetters submitting these forms

We have every right to and as @Meadowfinch noted
the more people who do this the better

Who after all gives a toss about creating an admin problem for a justice system that doesn’t protect young girls

Im all for giving them an admin headache every time !!!

Cornflowers35 · 21/05/2026 16:17

Feis123 · 21/05/2026 14:56

Well done, I think all the commenters on here should do it.

I agree and I have also raised a complaint.

Thank you to the PPs who provided links

Meadowfinch · 21/05/2026 16:17

Form submitted.

DrBlackbird · 21/05/2026 16:18

GingerdeadMan · 21/05/2026 16:04

The justice system is also supposed to provide protection to society from offenders, support the rule of law ave provide restitution to the victims.

These sentences meet none of those aims.

I would like to see some evidence that these rehabilitating orders actually work as I'm afraid I have zero confidence. They just sound like a low cost option. And if they do work, there should still be more consideration to the victims and their feelings and support for them. I feel sick at what those poor brave girls have been through at such a young age too - going to court and getting this out one must feel like a kick in the face.

There is some evidence that intensive rehabilitation can work for youth offenders but properly done, it removes them from home, puts them with dedicated well trained case workers, often involves significant outdoor activities, and is expensive to run. I’m sceptical that happens in the UK.

Edited to add: In countries where children really are not criminalised, there’s less youth violence and less reoffending. See above. In other countries, it’s a mixture of either more focus on outdoor activities, better education, and/or stronger family and societal influence guiding and judging youth behaviour.

but it would seem that the judge wasn’t “wrong” or “weak” per se @SpidersAreShitheads thanks for posting the sentencing guidelines and the judge may well have made his judgement accordingly but there was absolutely no need to pronounce that ‘no one goes to jail today’ (or to that effect). He could have apologised to the victim’s families for being unable to give a custodial sentence. Without further explanation, his comments point to thinking of the offenders families more than the victims at that point.

WaryCrow · 21/05/2026 16:18

I am so sick of the future of boys being considered far more important than the ruined lives of girls.

Backedoffhackedoff · 21/05/2026 16:18

SweetSummerHerbs · 21/05/2026 16:12

What an arsehole of a judge and there are many more of them.

I think the judge should have to sign his name to a legal document stating that he will be held responsible for any sexual attack these rapists do in the next 20 years.

If he has such faith in the little shits, that won't be a problem for him and if it is, he should ask himself why he is willing for women to take the consequences and risks of his brainless sentence if he isn't.

A guarantor for a loan has to sign his name saying he will be responsible if the person making the loan repayments stops doing so. It is the same principle.

That might make a few of these soft headed, soft hearted judges think twice.

Judges follow the law to sentence someone who has been found guilty. Unless they have made an error in the sentencing, they are not responsible for the guidelines they follow.

Do you think they just use their own personal opinion to sentence people?!?

Pigeonpoodle · 21/05/2026 16:18

FinchiePink · 21/05/2026 16:05

Again, this isn't like a petition.

Only one person needs to file a request.

It doesn't make any difference if hundreds of people do it.

Perhaps not officially, but it sends a message, and a message needs to be sent!

I think we should write to our MPs too