AIBU to expect a reply after leaving two days early?

[Sam155320]

With 2 days left to go on my notice period, work colleague I work with being nasty with rude comments, bosses ignoring me I came home and emailed/messaged my boss that I won’t be returning for the last 2 days of my notice period as I want some time before starting my new job next week. She’s seen the message but not replied. AIBU to think she should have?

It won’t come with any repercussions for 2 days ffs

People wanging on about breach of contract need to get a grip. Yes technically she is but it is going to be vanishingly unlikely to be worth the employer’s while to do anything about it.

You missed a trick not phoning in sick with work related stress OP, that’s what a proper skiver would do.

You emailed them today after working hours to inform them that you intend to breach your contract, and you're annoyed that your manager has not responded in their own personal time to wish you well despite this breach?

With that kind of attitude, I suspect that they will be relieved to see the back of you. I would be wishing you good luck and good riddance.

I did this when I had a couple of days left of a temporary contract 8 years ago. Over a number of weeks I saw emails in which I'd been called all sorts of nasty names, laughed at, and lied about. My cv had also been shared around and mocked.

The next day, I informed them I wouldn't be returning, but I was very polite and ended things nicely. My boss replied to thank me and to say sorry it didn't work out.

In reality, I saw from his sent email (I was his PA) that he had called me unprofessional and nasty for leaving those two days early. That I had let everyone down badly. (lol, for leaving 2 days early from a temp booking)

I just took it on the chin and felt grateful that I was getting away from them.

For walking out early, I really wouldn't expect them to throw me a parade. Be thankful you left a toxic environment and be done with them.

Interesting choice of words don't you abscond from prison?

So you stomped off slamming the door behind you and are now expecting your manager to chase you down and say nice things to you. From a managers perspective you’ve acted like a teenager having a strop. There’s no way I’d spend my personal time in the evening dealing with it. I expect you’ll hear something tomorrow and it will likely be something along the lines of “Thanks for letting us know, your access has been revoked, your final pay will reflect the final 2 days as unpaid.”

So all will be fine, as long as you don’t need to look for another job within the next 5 years, in which case you may need to provide them as a second reference.

Cool story

Yabvu

Didn’t you say your bosses were ignoring you - so no reply is to be expected then?

I would have expected a reply too in the sense that any normally well run company would have responded. But you left early because you know they aren’t a normally well run company so in that sense, YABU!

If I got a message like that in the evening when I was chilling with family or whatever, I would definitely leave it until I was back at work next day to deal with it.

Well then they don’t need to be in contact with you. I agree with others that she’s probably pissed off that you broke your contract so has nothing to say to you

It sounds like a toxic environment and be glad you’re out of there. The bridge has been burnt but at least you’re done with them all now.
I wouldn’t expect any reply.

A reply to what? you have left

I am slightly amused that they are refusing to react or pay you any attention - and it does seem you were looking for some. You need to move on from the toxic workplace - try not to copy their bad behaviour going forward.

I’s love to hear their side of this.

How unprofessional on your part.

You are breaching your contract. I expect your boss is liasing with HR on how best to respond

You sound like a petulant child TBH

You’re leaving, why do you care about your ex-manager not replying to your message to wish you luck?

I would suggest reflecting on your apparent need for validation from this person.

If you walk out two days early then you’re probably not going to get flowers and chocolates from them!

I wouldn't expect anyone to deal with anything after working hours that wasn't a business-critical emergency.

You haven't behaved brilliantly here. The appropriate thing to do would have been to give them an opportunity to take action before you reached breaking point. Earlier in the week you could have sent a message saying "I am willing and able to work my notice as per my contract but with colleagues each either being rude or ignoring me, it is a toxic environment that is unreasonable to subject me to. If you want me to work my full notice please let me know what steps you will take to stop this bullying and unprofessional attitude among the team, or if you would rather I just don't work the rest of the week please confirm in writing"

Telling your boss that your reason for breaking your contract was because you want a couple of extra days off was stupid when the real reason was other people's behaviour.

I wouldn't expect a reply till aboit 11am at the eaeliest - they won't reply unril they have had a chance to discuss with colleagues and decide whether they care that you have gone early. If they have more important matters to deal with they may not have time for thise meetings and it may not be until later.

You’ve behaved unprofessionally, breached your contract, and given a piss-poor, snowflake excuse for doing so. If they didn’t like you before, this will hardly have improved your standing there. Your boss has likely washed her hands of the matter and passed over to HR to deal with.

Why didn’t you just say you were ill?

I wouldn't expect a reply outside work hours. And from what you have said I wouldn't expect a good luck message either. If anything I would expect just a simple thanks for letting us know. I don't see the manager getting involved in anything else. They will surely share with HR that you walked for the last two days and it's up to those higher up what happens regarding pay.

You leave them in the lurch with no notice.
You then use the excuse 'because you want a few days off.'
You text after hours.
You then expect a positive response?!

It doesn't sound like a good workplace, but I'm baffled as to your expectations 🙄

I mean, this. It's unprofessional. But so were you.

And expecting a reply outside of working hours is unreasonable in any case.