AIBU to expect a reply after leaving two days early?

[Sam155320]

With 2 days left to go on my notice period, work colleague I work with being nasty with rude comments, bosses ignoring me I came home and emailed/messaged my boss that I won’t be returning for the last 2 days of my notice period as I want some time before starting my new job next week. She’s seen the message but not replied. AIBU to think she should have?

I wouldn’t expect her to reply outside of working hours.

And when (if) she does reply I wouldn’t expect the warm, friendly tone you’re expecting - more of a pissed off or at best cool response that you’re leaving them in the lurch at no notice - or at least failing to work when you had agreed to do so and are contracted to.

Mind boggling that you expected thanks or good wishes.

you expect your manager to spend her free time responding to a message where you tell them you are just not planning to show up for last 2 days? And to say thanks and wish you luck?
I'm too old for this world..

You should have told the truth why you weren't doing the last 2 days, why did you lie and say you wanted some time between jobs.
I think you may of had a reply if you told the truth about how vile they were toward you,and you were uncomfortable

Life's too short Op ❤️

Well how do you expect them to do that outside working hours?

I think you may have misunderstood the purpose of a notice period. And possibly work.

How long did you work there for OP and was it largely a happy experience or were people just rude / ignoring you in the last couple of days?

This! “I HATE YOU ALLL AND AM NEVER COMING BACK!!! NOT WORKING MY NOTICE!!!!”
cue tumbleweed…
”wait?!! Where’s the sobbing goodbyesss from you people I hate?!!”

Was there 7 years not a overly happy experience but people were more rude (especially colleague I worked with) and most if not all were ignoring me last 3 weeks of notice period (this week was the 4 week)

Why would they reply? You have told them you are not working when you are still contracted to do so. I wouldn't be surprised if they warn your new company. Yes the reference is done but there's nothing to stop them adding to it

If I was your boss I’d just pass that to HR to handle, I wouldn’t respond directly to you.

It's never great to burn bridges this way, ah well.

If they've been ignoring you and been rude to you, they clearly don't wish you luck and why would they thank you for leaving early?

So basically f*ck them and your former friends colleagues who will have to pick up the work you decided not to bother turning up to do?

Whether or not you expected to be paid for those two days is irrelevant. You are an adult who signed a contract and people were relying on you.

This is just the tip of the working iceberg. I’m delighted not to be managing people like this any more.

A reference is usually no more than a confirmation of working dates. If be asking HR in this instance to updated it to show you left two days early.

Good luck in your new role. Hopefully you pass your probation.

She's probably read it and is waiting for working hours to check hers and yours position before she replies

If you have a notice period to work, you are expected to fulfil it. You haven't. That can come with repercussions

I don’t understand what you expected by way of reply?
They will need to refer to HR as you are in breach of Notice period.
It’s hassle for manager as they’ll need to deal with HR and payroll will need to reduce your pay.
I assume you are changing sector and no risk of coming across former colleagues or managers.
For sake of 2 days I’d have sucked it up.

Without wishing to be unkind, it sounds as though you are potentially not particularly well liked at this workplace/by these colleagues and the lack of a response is a continuation of that - not suggesting that is grounded in anything legitimate as we don't know the details but I'd imagine that if there is already ill feeling, your actions in not turning up to work your notice because you 'want some time' before your new job isn't likely to have improved those sentiments.

I think they've just washed their hands of you in a similar way that you have of them to be honest - would it be courteous to acknowledge and reply, obviously yes but equally what can they say other than "ok, thanks for letting us know". It's two days and it seems unlikely any of you will be communicating with each other again.

I wouldn’t reply outside of working hours to a message like that because I wouldn’t want to be drawn into anything in my own time.

When were you last paid OP?

If you’ve reneged on your notice period I think they can hold payment for your entire notice period so you may lose more than 2 days pay.

(This happened to a friend of mine working at a large, reputable, UK employer).

So true. I’d be mortified if one of my team sent this with two days to go. I’d want to call them straight away to understand what had gone so badly wrong.

Then manager brain would kick in and realise it’s actually a call with HR I need to understand the repercussions between payroll, honouring a reference, returning any kit or security badges and also getting onto IT to remove login credentials if HR say it is ok to do so.

They're probably thinking "FFS" and you're better off not having them reply with what they really think. It's bizarre that you're expecting them to wish you luck!

She'll have bounced it to HR/legal dept. You are in breach here, and she can't be seen to be condoning your unauthorised behaviour.

For 2 days, no one is going to give a shit.

Why didn't you just tell them you had a stomach bug. 48 hours off

Not true. I would be majorly concerned about IT access, security access and whether or not something was about to happen in those two days or if something had vanished off the premises.