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To ask how many times you have seen anyone wearing a niqab (full face veil revealing eyes) or burqa (full face veil with mesh cover for eyes)?

305 replies

Jane379 · 20/05/2026 17:18

I've seen recent talk on UK Reddit about banning them, and I think we should, for several reasons, but I also think in some ways banning is easy but actually integrating people leading a very conservative Muslim lifestyle is much harder, and should be the main discussion.
European countries that have banned found not many women wore them. What about here? Some estimates say 1%-2% of Muslim women, but we don't really know.

I live in S London in an area with quite a few Muslims and have only seen about 10 niqab wearers in my life. Most in more central areas. I've never seen anyone wearing a burqa.

How typical is this?

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Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:43

Beachforever · 20/05/2026 23:39

Correct, I don’t believe that anyone has the right to have an opinion on how someone chooses to practice their religion so long as it does not break the law.

FGM, polygamy, child marriage all do break the law. Laws that are there for everyone and designed to prevent harm. (Although I don’t actually care about polygamy, personally.)

How many times have you spoken to someone wearing a Niqab or a Burqa and found that not seeing their facial expression whilst you were talking to them caused you such difficulty that you want it banned for everyone?? I’m going to take a wild stab in the dark and guess that you’ve never spoken to a woman wearing one.

FGM, polygamy, child marriage all do break the law. Laws that are there for everyone and designed to prevent harm. (Although I don’t actually care about polygamy, personally.)

  • I think this misses the point that FGM is only against the law because activists rightly campaigned for it. Just as some are campaigning for infant circumcision bans now (which I also agree with, but that's another topic)
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Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:45

NoGarlic · 20/05/2026 23:39

If you have conducted widespread research by talking to the Niqab/Burqa wearing community who have said that they feel oppressed

This is naïve. If you've never experienced situations in which you've felt routinely shamed, I envy you. Ask someone who's been made to believe they're 'disgustingly' fat, for example; they'll tell you they feel more free when wearing big, baggy outfits. It's their choice, only because they're afraid of abuse if showing their body.

A colleague of mine went to work at a village in Pakistan. She had to integrate with the female life - eating separately from the men after they'd finished, never initiating conversation with a man, always covering up if a male might be able to see her. When her placement was finished, she said she felt really weird about showing her face in mixed company and talking normally to men, and actually quite scared. She had to fight to overcome it. She was only there a few months.

This, I can imagine those unhappy would feel huge community pressure not to speak out.

Moreover, even if the women were all happy, I think it should be banned as it should be a basic standard that everyone shows their face.

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Beachforever · 20/05/2026 23:46

NoGarlic · 20/05/2026 23:39

If you have conducted widespread research by talking to the Niqab/Burqa wearing community who have said that they feel oppressed

This is naïve. If you've never experienced situations in which you've felt routinely shamed, I envy you. Ask someone who's been made to believe they're 'disgustingly' fat, for example; they'll tell you they feel more free when wearing big, baggy outfits. It's their choice, only because they're afraid of abuse if showing their body.

A colleague of mine went to work at a village in Pakistan. She had to integrate with the female life - eating separately from the men after they'd finished, never initiating conversation with a man, always covering up if a male might be able to see her. When her placement was finished, she said she felt really weird about showing her face in mixed company and talking normally to men, and actually quite scared. She had to fight to overcome it. She was only there a few months.

I wasn’t being naive, I was being sarcastic.

My point being that no one is asking to be liberated. It is condescending to an entire faith and reeks of white saviour complex.

Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:46

Perrygreen · 20/05/2026 17:53

There's a couple of women in my town who wear a niqab. It makes me so angry for them that they live in families and an unequal culture that think it's acceptable. Imagine never feeling the sun or fresh air, not being able to wear comfortable clothes or exercise easily.

Yes, I expect that women who do this will try to get sun, exercise in all female groups (at least I think some do) but obviously it makes it harder.

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Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:48

TheBookShelf · 20/05/2026 18:13

I too would like to see face coverings of any type (whether niquab, masks, etc) disallowed in public facing services roles, on access/disability//communication grounds. I have some hearing loss and face coverings muffle sound; if i can't see the person's face, of if their mouth is covered, I can't reliably understand what they are saying.

This is another important point.

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Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:50

Perrygreen · 20/05/2026 18:15

I don't think there is a single woman who would choose to cover herself up to her eyes. That's the culture she is living in that makes her do it.

I don't have any patience for patriarchal abuse. See also FGM, abortion bans, traveller girls leaving school early to learn to be housewives etc.

I don't think there is a single woman who would choose to cover herself up to her eyes. That's the culture she is living in that makes her do it.

  • people are very varied, there'll always be some who will do something willingly.. That doesn't make it right. As I said to pp, the strongest argument to ban may not be about whether the women are all forced but about basic standards of being able to interpret facial expressions.
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FrankSinatraonToast · 20/05/2026 23:52

In the part of Birmingham where I live, I see women wearing the niqab fairly frequently but very very rarely see Muslim men wearing anything but 'Western' attire.

NoGarlic · 20/05/2026 23:53

Beachforever · 20/05/2026 23:46

I wasn’t being naive, I was being sarcastic.

My point being that no one is asking to be liberated. It is condescending to an entire faith and reeks of white saviour complex.

Missing the point, perhaps deliberately. But, addressing your concern about religious observance:

European Christians tortured and executed tens of thousands of women for witchcraft. Absolutely okay, as it was mandated by the common faith, right?

Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:53

Runningswanker · 20/05/2026 18:20

Would it need to be a ban though, a law specifying what women could wear - or could you just specify you needed to be served by someone you could lip read from?

I used to train at a combat sport gym where we had a women's class that a lot of women who wore religious clothing attended, mainly abayas, some would cover the lower part of their faces in public. I got the impression it was quite freeing, in that they weren't subject to the expectation to look desirable to men, eg they might be into fashion for what they enjoyed wearing underneath but it was for them, no one else. In a society that focuses a lot of women's looks, 'opting out' can be a bit of an F you I imagine. I certainly didn't get the impression that any of the women were doing it to please someone else, they were all pretty strong characters.

. In a society that focuses a lot of women's looks, 'opting out' can be a bit of an F you I imagine. I certainly didn't get the impression that any of the women were doing it to please someone else, they were all pretty strong characters.

  • interesting. This is what I think re motives: they are probably varied and quite a lot may genuinely want to for various reasons.

Covering feels more like a capitulation than a F you though. I mean, if women have to cover their faces and bodies to be able to be free from worrying about how men perceive their appearance, isn't that a win for the patriarchy, if anything?

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Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:54

FrankSinatraonToast · 20/05/2026 23:52

In the part of Birmingham where I live, I see women wearing the niqab fairly frequently but very very rarely see Muslim men wearing anything but 'Western' attire.

Good point re men. Muslim men have dress requirements too which it seems many ignore.

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Jane379 · 20/05/2026 23:58

inkognitha · 20/05/2026 18:05

I respect freedom of religion and to let others live their life as they choose, but face covering and niqabs are not ok. It goes way beyond what is prescribed by the Quran (to dress modestly), it’s an extremist, misogynist, and sexist practice.
I wouldn’t ban it because you would only punish the victims and you can’t change social norms by law only.
But I would force every imam in the country to publicly denounce this abuse, disavow the practice, and remind everyone it’s up to women to choose for themselves. I would also offer support and intervention for women and young girls forced to wear it.

I see what you mean re bans' effect. That worries me too.

Unfortunately the Quran isn't the only source of Islamic teaching. The Hadith (narratives of the life of Muhammad and his followers) adds the requirement that women should cover their faces and there is evidence Muhammad's wives did this, despite several playing pretty active roles in the community. It's unfortunate but it does make it harder to argue against theologically. Thus I think arguments against should avoid theology and just focus on UK standards of showing the face in public.

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 00:06

InfoSecInTheCity · 20/05/2026 18:58

Everyone does have the right to express their opinion. What we don’t have is the right to is to enforce our opinion on others. Given that most of the posts are about how awful it is that women are forced to wear these items they would surely agree that enforcing a different dress code would also be wrong?

Are you as strongly opposed to Jewish orthodox women covering their hair and wearing modest clothing from ankle to neck, or orthodox Christian women covering their hair and wearing modest clothing from ankle to neck? Or is it just when the religious clothing is linked to Islam that it becomes a concern?

I think all modest dress codes targeting women like that are wrong. I expressed my disagreement with the Haredi Jewish shave-head-and-wear-wig practice upthread.

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 00:12

Sartre · 20/05/2026 19:02

Lots. Used to teach in Huddersfield and also worked in Keighley for a spell so saw a few there. Grew up in Bradford so saw a fair few there too. Actually saw children wearing them when I went back to Bradford last summer which surprised me. I’ve never seen children wear them before this and tbh most don’t wear the hijab till puberty. I now work in Manchester and don’t see as many but occasionally do.

I don’t know if you get out into big diverse cities much if you almost never see them really! They are relatively uncommon I suppose. I don’t know how I feel about banning them. I know some women choose to wear them and feel safer like that, I don’t like removing a woman’s choice. Yes yes some are forced but some also choose and prefer to wear one… I recommend the TV series We Are Lady Parts as a positive representation of Muslim women.

Interesting! I think this may be more of a thing in the north where there are more conservative Muslims? The Muslims in my area are often quite liberal re dress, some women don't wear a head covering at all.

I do disagree strongly with children being made to wear coverings when there's no mandate at all for that : but as you say, that's not very common.

I thought of mentioning We Are Lady Parts upthread! I do really like it, the comment about some girls dressing more strictly to rebel reminded me of Amina.

Re bans...I see what you mean. Women shouldn't have to cover so much to feel safe...it's difficult. I do think there is a case for banning on the grounds that all should show their faces. There's also the argument it directly links to very fundamentalist forms of Islam though this won't apply to all.

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Bollixtothat · 21/05/2026 00:19

I think they’re horrible and designed to keep women hidden away. We live in a progressive society apparently so they don’t have a place in the UK in 2026. I’d like to see them banned.

TeaPot496 · 21/05/2026 00:25

I'd honestly have preferred wearing one as a young woman in London, to reduce street harassment. My Muslim friends actually felt more free, in a way.

In the heat you can wear very little underneath and feel light and airy.

And why are people saying they never feel the sun on their skin or on their face, they have homes and gardens innit 😂

jamimmi · 21/05/2026 00:30

Daily in my area of northan england for niquab, monthly for burqa. I work in healthcare and normally they will remove for examination but not always . It does make examination hard . I have alot of hijab wearing collegues who find it more worrisome than i do and see it as opressive. Im on the fence about a ban, I ageee with right choose but find it os a significant barrier to communication

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 00:54

TeaPot496 · 21/05/2026 00:25

I'd honestly have preferred wearing one as a young woman in London, to reduce street harassment. My Muslim friends actually felt more free, in a way.

In the heat you can wear very little underneath and feel light and airy.

And why are people saying they never feel the sun on their skin or on their face, they have homes and gardens innit 😂

I'm sorry you had so much harassment. But the best solution should be for men to act decently, not for women to cover up. I'm not sure covering necessarily does reduce harassment: certainly countries like Egypt where women often cover still have very bad street harassment.

Agree the gardens though- I dislike niqabs & burqas for several reasons but exaggerating the situation isn't helpful.

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Beachforever · 21/05/2026 01:01

I dislike niqabs & burqas for several reasons but exaggerating the situation isn't helpful.

You baffle me OP. By your own admission, you’ve only seen someone wearing a Niqab at most 10 times in your life. And never seen someone wearing a Burqa. So why the dislike and the endless posts about them being banned as you want to see their facial expressions??

This is just racism.

A government telling a woman what she cannot wear is just as bad as a government telling us what we must wear.

OonaStubbs · 21/05/2026 01:05

Very rarely, never in my hometown, a few times in Sheffield, mainly in the areas where a lot of Muslim people live like Sharrow or Attercliffe. I don't think I've ever seen anyone with the full face covering in Sheffield city centre or Meadowhall, it might not even be allowed in Meadowhall.

NotMeAtAll · 21/05/2026 01:37

I sometimes wear a mask when I go out. If it's sunny I might have sunglasses too. Should that be banned too, or is it only muslims whose clothes you want to control?

AlexaStopAlexaNo · 21/05/2026 02:28

There is not a woman alive who would choose to wear this if they really had a choice and were completely free form any repercussions of making it.

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 02:57

Hadenough32 · 20/05/2026 19:18

I live in Leicester..fill Muslim attire is the norm here. My kids are the only white British in their school of 600 kids. The school is majority Hindu but id say 30% Muslim..90% of those mums wear the niquab or burkha. So every morning I see these mums..absolutely never been an issue. Seen them lift their veils at kids parties so they can enjoy a coffee etc. When I first moved here I thought I'd struggle to connect with them but I don't. They're human just like the rest of us

Interesting : I imagine maybe they feel happier showing faces at kids' parties or similar as there's less likely to be unrelated men there?

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Jane379 · 21/05/2026 02:59

AlexaStopAlexaNo · 21/05/2026 02:28

There is not a woman alive who would choose to wear this if they really had a choice and were completely free form any repercussions of making it.

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I don't think that. People on here say that about selling sex, surrogacy, other stuff. I don't think any of those are good but people vary enormously and there will always be some who do choose for whatever reason.

Imo whether it should be banned is a separate question.

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Zanatdy · 21/05/2026 03:00

I live in Surrey, and work in Croydon. I’d say i’ve seen a fair few over the years, but not loads no.

Jane379 · 21/05/2026 03:00

NotMeAtAll · 21/05/2026 01:37

I sometimes wear a mask when I go out. If it's sunny I might have sunglasses too. Should that be banned too, or is it only muslims whose clothes you want to control?

May I ask why you wear a mask? For health reasons? Or something else? I understand if you'd rather not give more info.

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