Men... are u okay? What is the problem?

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I think this will be removed / deleted but i am not saying anything untrue. Or factually incorrect. But here goes...

Since having my little girl just over a year ago I have started resenting men. I dont know why as my partner isnt bad. I just see them in a whole new light.

Firstly, years ago women couldn't vote and it was the done thing that they would look after the children and home and men were the providers. But, many women (not all!) Now have careers, go to work, earn their own money. We can now vote. Aswell as have a career, many women still take on majority of the housework and childcare. Not because men always refuse but they just dont, we do things automatically. Men, just dont think.

The other day I was driving to visit family and saw a car with its hazards on in the slip road... they have broken down i thought. Nope. A man was standing behind his car pissing. It got me thinking, ive never seen a woman pissing at the side of the road. We just wouldn't, so how do men find themselves in this situation? My dog can hold its bladder until "walkies" so what's the issue?

I read that men commit like 91% of murders, most rapes are men and men mostly abuse their partners. Men are more likely to commit suicide, men dont open up and speak about their feelings.. some men transition to become "women" and fight to enter women spaces. I know women transition to men but you dont hear about them!

I just dont understand. Men.. what is the actual problem??? Apart from sperm, what is your actual purpose??

The posts on here today.. oh my man was messaging a coworker inappropriately and he cant get her moved as it'll be suspicious... WHAT!! Nah he has played his part, otherwise it would be as simple as, hey HR this person is being inappropriate and its making me uncomfortable, here are the messages 🤣🤣

Or the other one, my man spent lots of money on my credit card and refusing to pay up... WHAT🤣🤣

What the fuck, we all play our part to with enabling such shit behaviour.

I thought you stated you had a good man at the start of the thread because of course you have!!

This post is giving someone bitter about not being picked by the popular guy at work who is married...

When you say “normal” man, do you mean a man that doesn’t commit crimes?

I'm fast coming to the conclusion that it's not all men, it's just the men you've been in relationships with.

My partner is a primary school teacher who works bloody long and exhausting hours but is perfectly capable of coming home and cooking dinner and helping with chores, as he did this evening. In fact, he's just gone upstairs to hang out the load of laundry that he sorted out and put on earlier, because I hate handling wet clothes (it gives me the ick). Meanwhile, I'm downstairs watching the Villa game. Go figure.

So yes, some men are twats. Particularly yours by the sound of things.

Wow that’s amazing that that poster has just so happened to date all the men that make up the very numerous crime and sex abuse stats. How very unlucky for her!

There are about 400,000 cancer cases in the UK each year.

About 4% are occupational.

Men account for 80 - 90% of those.

Also, if I was a woman, I could choose not to get pregnant, or not continue with a pregnancy... on the other hand, everyone needs a job.

you can be depressed about not being a Stepford Wife AND celebrating being house chores free and rushing to spend all your free time with your friends?
No, you really can't 😂

She's the one conflating that all men are shit and rapists with the fact she's fed up with her DP and her ex was crap too.

I'm a man who is not seeking a relationship.

What an ignorant post. Men make these 'life choices' too. Yet they don't forfeit pension contributions, lose out on promotions, earn less bevause of leave, pay more student loan interest because it continues while on mat leave (i don't expect you went to uni to understand).

Good luck to you. If you find yourself divorced one day, you'll see things very differently when you realise how much you 'lost' financially by being a women, or more if you are a mother.

And we thought misogyny was only men.

They do in the dementia home my relative is in

Ah! You’re a man!

Yep. That explains your ill-informed incel comment up above then.

You blame women for not choosing the “nice guy”.

Riveting.

I dont think youre wrong

Thank goodness.

Yet, it is women who give birth and raise these men.

Can't get my head around that.

So? That doesn’t make all other men amazing.

No, but it doesn't make all other men rapists and appalling human beings either.

OP's pissed off with her DP and her ex was no better and now she's started a thread lamenting how crap all men are and expects everyone to nod in agreement.

@ImFinePMSL Yep. That explains your ill-informed incel comment up above then. You blame women for not choosing the “nice guy”.

I don't think women should choose "nice guys."

I think that absolutely no one should be having a relationship with someone who has been convicted of murder or rape.

No one is forcing you to take maternity leave. Personally I thought those months were worth the small difference in my pension. I was very good a my job so I still got the promotions. My employer paid for my studies but don't most people fail to pay off their student loans, they get written off for men and women.

It tends to be men that kill women after a break-up, not the other way around. You could say many men don’t take break-ups well at all.

EDIT: attempted and failed to quote someone who was suggesting a poster hates men because she hadn’t taken a relationship break-up very well.

No, if my partner could do no wrong I would still think the same. He isnt swaying my opinion. Get a grip.

Nobody’s said all men are rapists, but basically all rapists are men.

I feel the posters on here are divided into 2 camps; those who ‘know some nice men, and women can be mean to me’ who are flatly ignoring very basic and overwhelming numerical evidence.

And those who acknowledge some men can be nice, and sometimes women can be mean, but accept the basic and very overwhelming numerical evidence.

A quick Google would suggest that 95% of those killed at work were male. What have women who died in childbirth got to do with an argument (you claim to be winning) over whether women are significantly involved in ‘dirty jobs’ as defined by the poster shuggles. Giving birth is clearly not a job.

Because you’re complaining that men are amazing for undertaking these risks, while totally oblivious to the fact women (most women!) take on risks every day by giving birth. Most men do not work in dangerous jobs.

You've used the childbirth fatality statistics from three years, but deaths at work from only one year. Why are you skewing the numbers?