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Ninapertree · 20/05/2026 13:33

Do any other women feel like this. Im 42. I feel young. I am enjoying life. I go travelling, go to festivals. I know im not super young. But im not one foot in the grave. Im enjoying life.

However, men constantly try to make me feel old.

I went to a new group the other day. Age came up for some reason or another. I said my age. The men there looked at me like I was absolutely ancient. They looked at me like "how are you not in the grave" kind of way.

If i go to groups where there are people that i dont know well. If i say im in my 40s, the men look at me like i should be taken out back and shot!

Im single. I did online dating for a bit last year at 41. The men, even the ones the same age as me, would write things like "i cant believe you are 41". " you cant be 41".

I just feel like the way men seem to feel about women in their 40s is not how i feel abut myself at all! Its kind of sad

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muddyford · 23/05/2026 16:06

I'm 63 and have never experienced this. Your groups sound impolite.

Juliadiesalone · 23/05/2026 16:07

And why are people asking you your age all the time? It’s very rare to be asked your age as an adult is it not? Esp by virtual strangers in a hobby group.

KilkennyCats · 23/05/2026 16:09

Juliadiesalone · 23/05/2026 16:07

And why are people asking you your age all the time? It’s very rare to be asked your age as an adult is it not? Esp by virtual strangers in a hobby group.

This is very true 🤔

Notmyreality · 23/05/2026 16:39

KilkennyCats · 23/05/2026 16:09

This is very true 🤔

Gosh I do hope OP hasn’t fabricated a cock and bull story just for internet likeys?

OneSnugGoose · 23/05/2026 17:11

Notmyreality · 23/05/2026 16:39

Gosh I do hope OP hasn’t fabricated a cock and bull story just for internet likeys?

Well if she hasn't she seems to have had extremely unusual experiences everywhere she goes and with frequency which is very unlucky.

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