Age

[Ninapertree]

Do any other women feel like this. Im 42. I feel young. I am enjoying life. I go travelling, go to festivals. I know im not super young. But im not one foot in the grave. Im enjoying life.

However, men constantly try to make me feel old.

I went to a new group the other day. Age came up for some reason or another. I said my age. The men there looked at me like I was absolutely ancient. They looked at me like "how are you not in the grave" kind of way.

If i go to groups where there are people that i dont know well. If i say im in my 40s, the men look at me like i should be taken out back and shot!

Im single. I did online dating for a bit last year at 41. The men, even the ones the same age as me, would write things like "i cant believe you are 41". " you cant be 41".

I just feel like the way men seem to feel about women in their 40s is not how i feel abut myself at all! Its kind of sad

I've definitely met people who think you should lie about your age or not tell people your age when you get to 35+, particularly as a woman. I've always said "I don't care, I'm 50" etc and sometimes it makes them feel embarrassed that I even admitted to it. You shouldn't worry about what odd/old-fashioned/sexist men think, OP.

Very weird. Are you sure you are not imagining it? Or are you looking for something that is not actually there?
And stop telling people your age, if it causes such dramatic reactions for you.
Maybe join some clubs for the elderly, then you’d be referred to as the youngster.

Really awful some of the victim blaming on here.

It must be the woman imagining it. It can't be the man that's wrong.

How can I 'imagine' a comment that was said by a man to me?

Me either and I'm 45

They must be tits.
I’m nearly 60 and I don’t encounter this.