To think marrying someone who has already been married and divorced 3 times is a very, very bad idea

[MargoLivebetter]

I saw that Earl Spencer was on the front pages of some of the papers today for marrying a 4th wife.

AIBU to think that it is probably very unwise to marry someone who has already been married and divorced 3 times? Just that. Not even thinking about all the other stories that whirl around this particular individual but just the very fact that if you have been married and divorced 3 times that seems like a giant whale sized red flag to me.

Maybe I'm missing the romance of it all - or maybe not!

A bitter sweet ending. But a happy 30 years.

He’s a damaged fool, she has nothing to lose I suppose. But who knows it could be true love this time.

One marriage can be a mistake a second failed becomes a pattern especially if short term.
I'd not be marrying more than twice if even that nor would I marry anyone who has been married more than once.

Just a personal preference.

Depends how old they are, surely?
I used to know a lady who had been married five times. 3 of her husbands committed suicide.

My dad has been married 5 times twice to the same woman. He is an ordinary man just not great at picking wives..

His last wife I think was his "one" after she passed 15 years ago he never looked again he wants to be burried where she is and I think he feels he is fine as he is..

I dont judge anymore I realise people are doing the best they can and sometimes that's not quite enough to keep a relationship going.

About Charles Spencer, he and his wife have, between them, four failed marriages and nine children. The odds are not good, but you never know.

At least he hopefully might not be planning to bring children into it this time round.

But yes, at some point you have to decide certain people are not built for marriage.

Wasn't the money as all were wealthy in their own rights. Be mad that you never knew one was a CEO....ouch!

What made you label women who earn their own money? jealousy?

She's only 43 and might well have frozen her eggs between meeting him and now. It would not surprise me if she does have a child with him, whether naturally or assisted. And might even produce twins if they do use IVF!

I think many people are not built for marriage. Otherwise we wouldn't have such high divorce rates.

First marriages have a failure rate of 43 percent. Would you get on a plane that had a 43 percent chance of crashing?? Yet we do. It's crazy.

sometimes if fidelity is an issue people who don’t mind an open marriage perhaps have arrangements - more likely after you are
more open to that if had other relationships fail for that reason perhaps ?
also perhaps men who can’t hack parenthood and divorce in those years then have happy later marriages where there are no offspring -
and likely therefore to stick with the woman who they may now consider as worth investing in as their need to have someone to look after them as they age is
more
important than the need to have fresh blood .
sorry to be cynical but i know a lot of
older women who wouldn’t take on an older man as they don’t want to fall victim to those who are looking for “a nurse with a purse” !

Fully agree. Everyone can make one mistake, but three??? Also imagine how complex their affairs must be.

Are they called Ross??

Maybe he has an amazing private family library/archives!

How old are his actual daughters?

People get better at getting divorced?

He has been married three times previously and has 7 children, the youngest of the children is only 13. It has been alleged that he has been unfaithful to all three previous spouses. His elder children allegedly do not speak to him and he did not attend the wedding of two of his daughters in 2021 and 2023. It is alleged in recent court documents that the new wife was his mistress and she also cheated on her husband.

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/royal-family/article/lady-spencer-earl-affair-zoom-call-rxgvg6rmk

Doesnt make either Earl Spencer or the new wife look good.

I have a friend who is on her 4th husband, she left her first husband after meeting the man who became her second who she divorced after the relationship broke down due to difficulties with his young son. She married for a 3rd time to a man who had been her mum's carer who died from MND, after divorcing him she recently married her 4th husband, who knows how long this will last?

I guess it's like a lot of things in life. After you've done it once, it becomes easier to do it again. And again. If you've actively accepted the idea that marriage is not forever, then you'll be less likely to put the work into saving a marriage which is no longer working.

I've known a couple of people who found long-term happiness in their 3rd marriages - 4th marriage is not too big a stretch from there. If anything Is say it might be more likely to succeed if both partners have been divorced one or more times. They'd both have more realistic expectations. I'm not saying it will definitely work for these two but I wouldn't be astonished if they managed to make a go of it.

I think age matters.

If you get married after children are a factor I think everything changes.

Maybe I'm missing the romance of it all

Missing Althorp more like. I’d risk a 4th marriage to live there!

She has MS I think? So maybe she thought she’d grab some happiness while she could and let the future take care of itself

Every situation is different. My mother was my father’s fourth wife and they were very happy together for 35 years. He lost his first wife in WW2, his second cheated on him with her childhood sweetheart, his third was an amicable divorce after a number of years together - so amicable that I often stayed at her house to spend more time with my half sister.

Has she been married a couple of times? I didn't read any article, just saw a headline.

It's surprising but some people have quite long and successful third or fourth marriages. They made all their mistakes earlier.

At least he won't be having more children.

Good luck to them.

Especially when you look at how his poor first wife was treated and all of it dragged through the tabloids at the time. Toxic.