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AIBU to tell DH to split his inheritance with his half siblings?

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hesbelleth · 17/05/2026 18:17

DH lost both of his parents quite young, when he was in his late 20s. His parents were both on their second marriage. He was adopted but only found out on his dad’s death.

His mum had two biological children with her first husband. They are in their late 50s, so much much older than DH. He sees them maybe 2-3 times a year, but growing up he didn’t really see them for a few years at a time. They’re both nice people.

When his mum died, she left his dad all of their property/money. She wanted her half to be split amongst her three children.

When DH’s dad died, he left everything to DH. It’s not an enormous sum but includes a very small flat in Kensington so it’s an estate of £1m+

DH’s siblings have now come to ask if he will be giving them their share of the estate. That is, for the mum’s half, split between them. DH doesn’t want to give them anything as it was left to him. He also says the money is more useful for him than them as they’re retired or about to and own their own houses outright.

OP posts:
PyongyangKipperbang · 21/05/2026 23:56

Reallyneedsaholiday · 21/05/2026 23:34

Its literally your funeral, but mum's net is full of people who "knew" their spouses and were wrong.

Yep this thread alone is proof of that. I am sure that the OP's MIL was sure that if her widowed husband left it all to his only child, said child would vary it. Except he hasnt.......

PhaedraTwo · Yesterday 00:18

PyongyangKipperbang · 21/05/2026 23:56

Yep this thread alone is proof of that. I am sure that the OP's MIL was sure that if her widowed husband left it all to his only child, said child would vary it. Except he hasnt.......

Aside from whether your spouse is honourable or not I think it's kind of weird to leave everything to Person A but with the expectation that Person A won't make use of what they got and will preserve it to pass to the mini-person As

Sunshineandgrapefruit · Yesterday 18:26

He should split it, and the fact he isn't would make me see him in a very different light. How do you have your will set up op? Be very careful about anything you leave to him.

BIossomtoes · Yesterday 20:22

PhaedraTwo · Yesterday 00:18

Aside from whether your spouse is honourable or not I think it's kind of weird to leave everything to Person A but with the expectation that Person A won't make use of what they got and will preserve it to pass to the mini-person As

Inheritance tax.

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