The secret to a good marriage is never having shared a bathroom

[WryJadeWren]

Half joking, half serious…

Everyone I know in a long, happy marriage seems to swear that having separate bathrooms is a game-changer - less friction, more privacy, fewer arguments about mess and timing.

Obviously plenty of couples share and survive just fine but I’m starting to wonder whether separate bathrooms are an underrated relationship saver.

AIBU?

Nearly 30 years in it's separate everything, in our separate houses 1 mile apart. When together I get priority for the bath/shower as is my right ha ha. We both have d/s loos for the basic bodily functions.

We have separate houses due to work, not separate lives, it works for us, married 30+ years.

Yes absolutely! DH'S poo stinks really bad so he has his own little bathroom in the hall. Me and my teenage sons use my bathroom.

Us too, but I’d kick the teenagers out and share with DH quite happily!

I share a bathroom with DP and the cat. If I ever win the lottery I’m buying a home where I can have my own bathroom. In fairness to DP he’s not so bad, it’s the cat that always comes in for a poop when I’m in the bath or brushing my teeth

I hate stepping in man-wee in the mornings.

Same !

It’s probably the thing I hate most about my DH. He needs glasses but isn’t usually wearing them when he does his shart filled morning ablutions. Suffice to say the loo bowl is regularly Jackson Pollocked, but in such a way that someone who is shortsighted might not notice, but the other person i.e. me would

One of my oldest friends swears by this - he has his own bathroom and he cleans in but she can just leave it - jolly good idea

How is that even possible? Does he squat on the cistern?

No bathroom sharing problem here.

For a long and happy marriage, I would recommend not to share kids.

Separate bedrooms!

I’d argue that the addition of an en-suite would significantly damage the intimacy of our marriage, if the muffled sounds that come from the main bathroom are anything to go by. I don’t need it any louder or closer. Maybe a house bathroom and an outhouse…

My parents had an extension built in the house that they retired to and their new bathroom was right next to the lounge, with the toilet literally on the other side of the internal wall. I’ll never forget the embarrassed silence when they had guests and my father went to the loo. Everyone trying to pretend they weren’t hearing the sounds of copious micturation.

I only go into my DHs bathroom to clean it. Before you all say, why do I clean it, because he really can’t. Health reasons.

I really do appreciate having separate bathrooms. My bathroom is lovely and clean and nice. His is not so!

I say this often. The secret to a my very happy marriage is separate bathrooms, separate duvets and shift work.

Absolutely agree, bathroom for me, shower room for him, happily together 24 years ❤️ I clean mine, he cleans his.

We live in a 2 bed terrace that has one and a half bathrooms, unfortunately not loaded with cash but we don't have to smell each other's poo which is always a bonus!!!
We are both considerate which is the most important thing though. Sharing on holiday is fine.

It undoubtedly helps, but unless you re super loaded it means trading down from Zone 1...so not without some compromise
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YANBU

We used to have separate bathrooms and we moved to a bigger place overall but only one bathroom. It’s awful. So much regret.

we all have our own bathroom here! Works perfectly

I don’t get it, I’ve never once had a bathroom related argument with my husband. What are you all getting stressed about?!