To ask for the life advice that has served you well?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

The truth shall set you free

Agree. I was thinking more of people dodging a difficult message and saying something kind (but unhelpful) instead - but alleged "honesty" as a front for rudeness or unkindness is totally unnecessary

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This is such a grounding thread.

To all the wise mumsnetters who have posted, thank you ❤️

The version I heard is “if you want to make God laugh, tell her your plans”.

I don’t think it’s intended to mean that God thinks your plans for peace or ending poverty (or for your career/family) are stupid , just that people’s plans (including the best intended ones) rarely work out exactly the way they intend because that’s not how life works.

Yeah, it’s all just confidence. If you’re confident and charismatic you can basically get away with anything..that’s another motto to remember!

Don’t salt your food before you have tasted it.

Yeah, I think the "laughing" is a bit nasty.
I think it's a horrible saying.
We plan big, we plan small, it sometimes works well, sometimes doesn't.
Not something to be derided.

If life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Excellent advice about looking for the positives in seemingly negative situations.

Count your blessings. My Mum used to say this a lot. No matter how bad or how hard you think your life is, as long as you have food in your belly and a roof over your head there is always someone worse off than you. There are people out there who haven't eaten today, there are people who don't have a home so be thankful for what you have not envious of what you don't.

Change what you can't accept, accept what you can't change. My husband said this to me a long time ago, it changed my life.

Don't look back, you're not going that way.

My work mantra: not my circus, not my monkeys

Thank you, it really does help me.

I sort of tally up of how I'm doing against each one, either in my head or in a notebook. I'll think - so what have I done this month to be a leaf on a tree? I've met my friends for a swim, joined the litter picking group, played darts with the team.....that's ok. Have I been too introspective? Yeah, I spent ages worrying about such and such, I should stop that.

"The Ship is safe in the Harbour, but that's not what Ships are for"

Love this saying - it means, take risks, live to your fullest potential (in my eyes, anyway)

and

Said to me by a customer, who had just spent a lot on money on a holiday :

"It's only money, I'll just make some more!"

I like the "avoid introspection". I agree, because it can become very negative and unhelpful. It's always good to open your mind and look beyond yourself.

Always do the right thing because it's the right thing to do.

It's nice to be important, but more important to be nice.

This doesn’t rhyme or roll of the tongue but my dad says

‘you have a brain, use it, and f*ck everyone else’

he also said ‘live every day like it’s your last, as one day you will be right’

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it

Never judge someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

Then judge away - you'll be a mile away and you'll have their shoes!

It’s not always dark at 6 o’clock
What’s meant for you won’t go passed you
When someone shows you who they are believe them
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
On being with older people - As you are now, so once was I. As I am now, so you will be.

It's not who you know, it's who you blow

Always wait 24 hours before responding in writing to something that has made you angry

Look out for things online that trigger a strong negative emotional response in you - news stories, social media posts, YouTube videos etc. People make a lot of money from manufacturing outrage so whenever you see something that makes you sad, furious, anxious or uncomfortable, consider who is making money from you feeling that way before you let it inform your view of the world.

Gambling is a mug's game
Comparison is the theif of joy.
Always be nice to the people that handle your food

But the absolute best: If you wouldn't take their advice, don't take their criticism

this is actually scientifically true

yup. Its the same as if you really wanted to do it, you'd be doing it.

oh this!!