To ask for the life advice that has served you well?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

The truth shall set you free

Never put anything from the chicken run in the dishwasher. Horse stuff, dog stuff, cat stuff are ALL FINE. Chicken stuff however = VERY BAD TIMES

I wish someone had told me this before I tried to wash their dirty feeder and made the entire house stink and had to deep cleanse my dishwasher

The Serenity Prayer
Life is Meaningless and everything dies
You are only ever as happy as your unhappiest child.

I once did similar but with a polishing cloth I'd been using to clean the brass door knobs. It took ages to get rid of the smell of Brasso from the washing machine 😫

Today’s news is tomorrows fish and chip paper

A lot of these are just cliches though like you see on wooden panels in little shops in sea side towns. .

Dd had a good one the other day when she didn’t get a position she’d applied for “rejection is redirection” !

💯

Headteacher at my primary school assembly back in the early 70s.
"You are the only person who has to spend 24 hours a day with you. Make sure that you are someone you like."

Yes, so many cliches. Many are truisms and people can obviously subscribe to whatever little motto they like, but I really dislike "what's for you won't go by you" (so, if you have a series of misfortunes, you somehow deserve it?) and "everything happens for a reason" (well yes, but that doesn't mean anything profound).

Don’t have an accidental life that just ‘happens’ to you. Be purposeful in your choices.

You’ll never please all of the people all of the time, you can only please some of the people, some of the time but you can please yourself most of the time.

Not one day can be gained by worrying (ie. stay in the moment)

@LurkyMcLurckeri grew up near a chicken factory. I know the exact smell you had to deal with and I feel for you.

The only thing you have to do in life is breathe. Everything else is a choice with consequences.

Life is not a pilgrimage. The toughest route isn’t always the best option.
Something that comes to mind when you get these posts on Mumsnet putting Oxbridge on a pedestal. How many would be better off going to a decent redbrick and having a bit of fun before a 35 year working life.

When you stop having a goal/intention/plan in life, you stop living.

I think it’s more complex than that, especially when young and everything is so intense and you have little perspective on life. When I was young in the 90s early 2000s you couldn’t just get therapy at the drop of a hat, it wasn’t as common and it was expensive. I get that saying “ their just not into you” works as a kind of emotional full stop for something that just isn’t happening and people notoriously hate a lack of resolution or closure so these sayings serve a purpose but really they are a sort of cop out from dealing with complexity and lack of closure.

In my case the man I ran from is now my husband but it took a few year for me to be ready for real love.

You are richer and likely healthier than the vast majority of people who've ever lived.

But also you can't fully optimise your life and will drive yourself mad trying to. Sometimes there's value in going with the flow

Don't let the sun go down on your anger

I never really understood this one. What if the situation isn't resolved by then?

Always have a plan, but be prepared for that plan to change.

Fake it till you make it

That is true, but I have seen more instances of people being deliberately unkind and when picked up on it shrugging and saying “I was only being honest”.

That is one I use a lot when I find life hard or frustrating, and I encourage my DCs to do the same. If really works.

That's a bit mean of him/her. Supposing you have a plan for peace, or equality, or ending poverty?