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To wonder on the future of generous welfare in the UK

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happybug1234 · 11/05/2026 12:51

It seems increasingly obvious that many middle-income families are becoming frustrated at how squeezed they are financially, while at the same time seeing people on universal credit receive a growing range of subsidies and support — £1 attraction tickets on days out, a 6% rise in benefits this financial year, childcare costs reclaimable through Universal Credit, housing benefit, and so on. I see thread after thread on this on this site and also increasing momentum in the media on this issue (income cliff edges etc)

In my own extended family, 1 unemployed parent with the other on min wage, in social housing appear to have more holidays and more disposable income than we do, despite us both working full time with a household income of around £95k. Once childcare, mortgage, insurances, commuting and tax are taken into account, we 100% have a lower level of disposable income than they do as they do not have any of these work related costs and their rent is paid. They have recently gone on a 2 week holiday whilst the most we can ever afford is 1 week.

Quite a few teachers in my friendship circle are declining promotion opportunities or TLR because the extra pay often doesn’t feel worth the additional stress once tax, pension contributions and childcare costs are factored in. Instead, some are putting more effort into private tutoring, which is tax free cash in hand.

What is stopping the government from addressing this as people seek to be responding accordingly in their behaviour!

OP posts:
Plugg · 11/05/2026 15:54

StandingDeskDisco · 11/05/2026 15:46

Interesting.
So there is no longer any justification for the triple lock?

The triple lock was brought in by Gordon Brown as it was widely acknowledged that the increases in pension hadn’t increased with inflation for some years. The design in the triple lock was specifically to increase the pension at a higher than normal rate for a few years in order to ‘catch up’ with inflation and then for the triple lock to be removed. I cannot emphasise enough that it was never designed to be anything but a temporary measure. And yet here we are with no politicians willing to put their name to being the person to end the policy and the pension increasing in a manner far higher than it was ever designed to with no end in sight. Sigh!

Purpleturtle45 · 11/05/2026 15:55

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 15:46

People on benefits arent better off tho

Some are, by the time a lot of working people pay for childcare they would be better off claiming benefits.

dizzydizzydizzy · 11/05/2026 15:58

happybug1234 · 11/05/2026 15:21

No but they are still a perk that middle class families can’t access

Can’t you be happy that a hard up family can have a day out? If both parents, or to be honest if one parent is unemployed or too sick to work, there can’t be much joy in family life. A bit of a mental break and some quality family time might be just what that family needs. If you have a job and your health, you are going to have opportunities that they don’t have.

StandingDeskDisco · 11/05/2026 15:58

Anyahyacinth · 11/05/2026 15:44

Your whole argument fails on "generous"

"UK state benefits are among the least generous in the developed world for working-age adults and retirees, particularly when compared to other high-income European nations.

The UK ranks near the bottom of OECD countries for unemployment replacement rates, while also paying one of the lowest state pensions in the West.

International Benefit Comparison Breakdown:Unemployment Support: The UK offers one of the lowest income replacement rates in the developed world.

While Nordic and Benelux countries (like Denmark and the Netherlands) replace a large percentage of a worker's previous wage, the UK relies on a flat, means-tested system (Universal Credit) that leaves the initial replacement rate near the bottom of the OECD.

Retirement Pensions: The maximum UK State Pension is relatively low compared to the cost of living. Research indicates the UK basic payout is worth significantly less as a percentage of average earnings than in countries like France or Germany.

Family and Housing Benefits: The UK does stand out in a few targeted areas. The UK's gross spending on housing benefits and family/childcare support is notably high as a percentage of GDP, though this is frequently offset by exceptionally high private rental costs and high out-of-pocket childcare expenses for parents.

Asylum Seekers: Support for asylum seekers is also distinctly lower than in comparable European nations. While countries like France and Sweden offer higher daily or monthly allowances and fewer purchasing restrictions, the UK provides a lower flat rate per week

Unlike many Western and Nordic European states where benefits act as an earnings-related safety net (scaling payments to your previous tax contributions), the UK system is highly means-tested. It is heavily focused on flat-rate basic allowances for those who are unemployed, which has eroded the real-term value of benefits over the last decade against inflation and surging living costs."

THIS is the reality

Retirement Pensions: The maximum UK State Pension is relatively low compared to the cost of living. Research indicates the UK basic payout is worth significantly less as a percentage of average earnings than in countries like France or Germany.

This is one of those slippery statistics that needs closer examination.

Firstly, what is the justification for comparing the pension to average earnings, instead of e.g. the cost of living, the cost of housing, or the minimum wage?

Secondly, what is meant by 'average' earnings. If it is the mean, that will be badly skewed by stratospheric earnings in some sectors in London.
If it is the median, then it is a matter of policy as to where the state pension should sit, e.g. should it be at the lower quartile? At 20% of the median?

Thirdly, as a previous poster just pointed out, the combination of state and occupational pensions is handled very differently in different countries, so there is a serious danger of comparing apples and oranges.

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 16:00

Purpleturtle45 · 11/05/2026 15:55

Some are, by the time a lot of working people pay for childcare they would be better off claiming benefits.

They are not generous

pinkrocket123 · 11/05/2026 16:00

dizzydizzydizzy · 11/05/2026 15:58

Can’t you be happy that a hard up family can have a day out? If both parents, or to be honest if one parent is unemployed or too sick to work, there can’t be much joy in family life. A bit of a mental break and some quality family time might be just what that family needs. If you have a job and your health, you are going to have opportunities that they don’t have.

Plenty get lots of money and only work part time

hazelnutvanillalatte · 11/05/2026 16:02

ChickenBananaBanana · 11/05/2026 15:24

As ever: quit and claim then 🤷🏻‍♀️

Who's going to pay for that?

PracticalPolicy · 11/05/2026 16:05

happybug1234 · 11/05/2026 15:36

Yes they should access them on there means of being able to pay for the entry fee… just like everyone else is.

The subsidies are paid by the company not the government. The attractions make much more money on the food and drink sold on site than in entry fees. It's an incentive to get more people through the gate and then the pester power of children means they spend a lot while on site.

It's called capitalism.

The politics of envy is not pretty. These people won't have pensions or housing security and often live precarious lives. They die young, get cancer more often and have poor health. Comparison is the thief of joy. I don't begrudge them cheap tickets one bit.

Jenkibuble · 11/05/2026 16:06

StandingDeskDisco · 11/05/2026 14:53

Don't forget that if you have a mortgage you are buying an asset. In 20 or 30 years time you will be immensely better off that someone who rents for life.

That is taken to pay for your care if/when needed !

Monty36 · 11/05/2026 16:06

MaturingCheeseball · 11/05/2026 15:35

@Monty36 - very well acquainted with The Specials, thank you! RIP Terry. In fact I went on a trip to Coventry c.1981 and boy, was it depressed.

I wasn’t slagging off boomers, but making the point that not all homeowners have experienced huge gains in value, but are then classed as some sort of wealthy landowners à la Thd Duke of Westminster…

I thought because you said ‘ for which I paid ££££ unlike not 50p like some older buyers’ meant you were slagging off boomers.

You are right to point out that whilst people can pay a fortune for their homes it doesn’t mean the value stays as is or indeed rises. Negative equity was a real issue during one recession. Many people assume that their property will hold or increase in value. Often it does. But it is not guaranteed.

And social care costs are extortionate. I would love to see how they break down and justify their costs. Staff will be on NMW topped up probably by the taxpayer. Food will be cheap. I fail to see how they charge thousands for one person every week. You could stay at a very posh hotel if only they would have you.

Plugg · 11/05/2026 16:06

PracticalPolicy · 11/05/2026 16:05

The subsidies are paid by the company not the government. The attractions make much more money on the food and drink sold on site than in entry fees. It's an incentive to get more people through the gate and then the pester power of children means they spend a lot while on site.

It's called capitalism.

The politics of envy is not pretty. These people won't have pensions or housing security and often live precarious lives. They die young, get cancer more often and have poor health. Comparison is the thief of joy. I don't begrudge them cheap tickets one bit.

Surely if they upped the UC rate a little and reduced the all comers rate they’d get more people through the door. I never go to any of these things as a family because it’s just extortionate. But we’re not on UC.

Whyarepeople · 11/05/2026 16:08

There are a few things I think when I see posts like this:

If you are on £95k and consider yourself hard up you are doing something wrong.

You don't seem to understand the benefit and advantage you have by being able to pay off a mortgage.

Jealousy is such a childish emotion that makes people small and resentful.

Someone's done a very very good job of redirecting people's attention away from the billionaires who are actually bleeding the world dry, towards families going for a day out. That's quite an achievement but the fact that you have fallen for it makes you a total idiot.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 11/05/2026 16:08

ilovesooty · 11/05/2026 15:28

So you want people on limited incomes to be excluded from these attractions because they can't afford them? Do you object to these companies offering concessions to pensioners because you aren't eligible?

My kids are excluded from these attractions because I can't pay 10-20 a ticket yet my friends who don't work and are on UC take their kids almost daily. How is that fair? And for those who think it's clever to say 'you quit working then' - who's going to pay for that if everyone does it?

A friend was complaining to me that it took the council 10 years to give her a 4 bed house. A privately bought 4 bedroom house costs millions, most will never afford it, and that's before repairs, council tax, etc all paid for. The system is really unfair.

Jenkibuble · 11/05/2026 16:10

Pickledonion1999 · 11/05/2026 13:01

I think UC can be very generous for families and set to become more so with the lifting of the two child cap. This is due to the generous taper rates and work allowances. An ex collegue of mine has been solely on benefits for a while and just returning to full time work as a professional and will still be eligble to claim UC on a salary of 40k ( one child, low rent) plus child maintainence on top. However for single people or people who cannot work due to illness or disability the rates are absolutely direand i genuinely struggle to understand how people survive. The system needs an overhaul.

Lifting the 2 cap is an insult to those who are responsible about the family size they have !

There are better ways to lift kids out of poverty!

Lifting the cap merely encourages people to have kids they can not afford !

liloandstitchh · 11/05/2026 16:10

happybug1234 · 11/05/2026 15:36

Yes they should access them on there means of being able to pay for the entry fee… just like everyone else is.

I personally spent years working with children who live in poverty and as a member of a high tax paying household I really don’t have any issue at all with those children getting a day out for £1, even if that means I am subsidising them by paying a higher ticket price.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 11/05/2026 16:10

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 15:43

Yep. Its ridiclous. Ill be doing 16hrs when able to in september. Want to enjoy my kids whilst little.

Edited

I hope you’re joking, imagine if everyone took that attitude

Froschlegs · 11/05/2026 16:11

Pickledonion1999 · 11/05/2026 13:01

I think UC can be very generous for families and set to become more so with the lifting of the two child cap. This is due to the generous taper rates and work allowances. An ex collegue of mine has been solely on benefits for a while and just returning to full time work as a professional and will still be eligble to claim UC on a salary of 40k ( one child, low rent) plus child maintainence on top. However for single people or people who cannot work due to illness or disability the rates are absolutely direand i genuinely struggle to understand how people survive. The system needs an overhaul.

How can you claim if you’re on 40K?? Madness

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 11/05/2026 16:12

ChickenBananaBanana · 11/05/2026 15:24

As ever: quit and claim then 🤷🏻‍♀️

Then who’d pay the tax?

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 16:12

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 11/05/2026 16:10

I hope you’re joking, imagine if everyone took that attitude

Im not. My kids are more important.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 11/05/2026 16:15

BillieWiper · 11/05/2026 14:55

The welfare that I'm on isn't remotely generous. It's barely enough to exist on. Being chronically disabled is really expensive but able people don't believe or want to see that.

Edited

I have no problem with universal credit supporting those who can’t work/are limited due to disability or illness, those temporarily out of work for a good reason or those working hard in low paying jobs that need a top up. I am not happy about supporting people who choose to not work/work limited hours when they are perfectly capable of working more.

PracticalPolicy · 11/05/2026 16:17

Plugg · 11/05/2026 16:06

Surely if they upped the UC rate a little and reduced the all comers rate they’d get more people through the door. I never go to any of these things as a family because it’s just extortionate. But we’re not on UC.

If "they" upped the UC rate a little? You mean the government?

Having read many benefit bashing threads on MN. I doubt "they" would increase UC.
Moreover the entry fee is what the market will stand.

The price is elastic. In economic terms it means they will reduce the price if it means significantly fewer people will go to the theme parks. Right now the price may seem high to you but enough people pay that price for the theme parks to maintain that level.

An example of an inelastic price is petrol. Does matter what it costs, people will pay it. Watch the pump prices stay high once the oil price drops as they all rake in the cash.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 11/05/2026 16:17

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 16:12

Im not. My kids are more important.

so are mine which is why I work hard to support them

Paganpentacle · 11/05/2026 16:18

dizzydizzydizzy · 11/05/2026 13:21

The 6% increase in UC is £24 per month for a single adult. That won’t cover the increase in food.

How do you think people who don't get benefits cope? They dont get anything extra...

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 16:18

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 11/05/2026 16:17

so are mine which is why I work hard to support them

I do support them. But i want to be present too as much as im able to.

catipuss · 11/05/2026 16:20

Plugg · 11/05/2026 15:19

We have occupational (workplace) pensions that are either defined contribution or defined benefit, as well as a state pension. In most of Europe (pretty much all countries) the individual and their workplace pay the equivalent of the occupational pension contributions to the state instead.

so whereas we have occupational pensions and state pensions, they have a state pension that combines both. If you want to compare our pensions to the rest of Europe you need to add in occupational pensions to state pensions, and when you do, the UK sits bang in the middle of pension generosity. There is absolutely nothing to complain about when it comes to the value of the UK ‘state pension’.

Not everyone has workplace pensions, women in particular were often told it wasn't worth paying into and being in low paid jobs with intermittent employment due to childcare they didn't contribute or so little it is worth pretty much nothing, in the future you may have a point.

The benefit system was meant to be a safety net for people in temporary financial difficulties not a lifestyle choice. The fact there is even a debate about whether people are better off working or being on benefits indefinitely is pretty bizarre really, and shows there is something wildly wrong somewhere.

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