To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

[alexandrasm]

I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

Taxi is cheaper - do that

Brace yourself!

You are not a CF. Your DB is. I’d get a taxi and really think in future about any favours I would do for him.

So agree with this. My brother looked after our kids when my husband arranged a surprise 'dinner and a show' in the west end for my fortieth, he didn't charge for babysitting because he's family and spending time together is lovely not a money making scheme!!

Why are you being so combative about a mild question?

40p a mile? This isn’t a company expense he’s submitting 😂 it’ll take about half a tank and cost around £30. £50 for a full tank and a meal would be fine, otherwise op should get the taxi and use the change to get herself lunch

She's his sister!!!
Bloody hell. I can't imagine living in a world where siblings don't help one another out. Seems very sad!

A taxi would be more reliable and cheaper. And he would indubitably dine out on it for years to come.

Let him know this.

Honestly @alexandrasm ignore the people who don't understand how close-family favours work. They will never get it. Apologies that I haven't read the whole thread, but I hope you've sorted out getting to the airport without having to fork out £115 to your dear brother for his non-favour.

Dont all airports have stations? Get the train or a coach/bus, will be much cheaper.

But you posted in AIBU so that’s why people are giving their opinions. If it’s all fine, probably shouldn’t have posted in the first place

Yep get a taxi

She hasn’t expected though. He offered.

i think the whole wear and tear stuff is a bit much when it’s between family and he’s offered to help. Of course he pays insurance etc but when im offering lifts or helping family and friends j don’t make it quite so transactional and send an invoice!

No
she asked
he said yes
op said that is the equivalent of offering

yes, go figure!

It’s sounds to me like he doesn’t really want to take you and probably knew this would mean he wouldn’t have to. I’ve done that before for family members I don’t really want to help out. 😬

Just get a taxi, OP and bear this in mind should he ever want a favour from you in the future!

Your brother and lifts aside, I’m a bit boggled by your helplessness in the face of U.K. geography and transport. Do you not use Google Maps or the Apple equivalent? You can put any location in and choose either walk, cycle, drive or public transport and it will tell you how long it will take and how to get there by various options. You can filter public transport by type if you want as well.

London Stansted is a well known airport but even if you’ve never heard of it, the quickest Google search would tell you where it is and that the Stansted Express runs every 20 mins to central London and that there are coaches. All this - Is it not near Cambridge? It’s in the middle of bloody nowhere! - from somebody who holds down a job and accesses the internet is just odd.

I thought the offence taken - which is yours -was the reason you started this thread

Afdee with youOP. He is your brother. Camily members do favours for each other. Or myfamily does and all thefamilies I know help family membere. Petrol costs are fair. Get a taxi.Not worth the hassle

It’s surprising that a family member would expect you to pay them for taking you to the airport. It’s not really what family is about is it? Covering petrol costs would be enough surely.

Just get a cab

Your brothers a dick. £45 fine but to then have the cheek to ask for £75 on top!!

Giving you a lift will inconvenience him. 4 hours is a lot of driving.
I’d get the train.

Agree. And even more peculiar than in her twenties and yet seems so bamboozled by technology.

This is an interesting article. I think askers are generally CFs but that could be because I'm a guesser and agonise over saying no. I no longer feel that way. If they're bold enough to ask. I can be direct enough to say no, particularly with the CFs I know.