To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

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I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

He would just take his day off, take a later shift or take annual leave (which is paid!)

I think you’re now making things up and pretending he’s the one making the full profit when he’s not. I’m a bit done with this thread to be honest as it’s been full of people casting aspersions and making up lies. He gets two days off every week, he gets annual leave - that’s not losing money. If it was unpaid leave it would be different but it would just be choosing different working hours for the week.

Ask one of the supposedly many friends and family members you have that do this with no problem at all then. Surely many of them owe you a favour anyway!

As I’ve said many times I will look at other options!! I don’t know what’s wrong with some of you on this thread

You went straight to train and bus making no mention of dropping a message to mum, dad, uncle, aunt, all your friends etc - who do this airport without thinking!

Didn’t realise I needed to list every single option I was looking at? I’m sorry your family don’t like you very much though

In some families not asking a family member to give up half a day of their time to save on a train fare is considered caring and respectful.

It's quite clear from the brother's response that he feels this ask was above and beyond the normal run of favours.

Shame - looks like you’ll be getting the bus or train as your bro has bailed and no one in family or friends offered

Which is fine? I asked, he named his price, we’ve chatted and I’m getting there using other transport. Not sure why some people are so offended by that!

So all good!

I can’t believe these replies.
maybe Canadians are a bit different because our country is so large, we drive a a lot. For example, I would drive at least an hour just to go out for dinner. Or drive 3 hours to visit a friend for the day and return same day.

Are English people usually this transactional/particular? Asking for gas (petrol) money seems totally reasonable but asking to be paid for their time seems insane to me. ITS YOUR BROTHER!! He said yes! He could just say no, if he didn’t want to do it.

Reading this forum for the last few years makes me feel Canadians are just nicer and more willing to help each other? Way less “tit-for-tat”. Probably has to do with having 5-6 months of winter ha ha

Where I live, you do a favour to help someone, and it may mean you don’t come out “even” (with time or money) or gain anything, your just helping someone.

I think you would be right in thinking Canadians are nicer than British people if you were to just base thst on what you read on Mumsnet. But thankfully this forum is not reflective of British people as a whole and most people in real life don't think or behave like many Mumsnetters.

He is a CF.

I’ll have to come visit so I can experience “real” UKers! (what do you call people from the UK?).

@MapleLeaf190 Thats a whole different can of worms! Some people will say that they are British, but others will insist they are English, Welsh, Scottish, or from Northern Ireland. But hopefully you will like it here if you visit - most people really do have a sense of humour, are willing to help each other, and don’t hate their mothers in law and older people 😆

The UK could fit into Canada about 40 times and has a smaller population. This counts for a lot of differences in behaviours. I have driven in Canada and on the whole, it is a lot less stressful than driving in the UK. You usually don’t spend your time in thick traffic. Here we personally never put the cruise control on because you will be changing your speed soon. Canadian car park spaces have enough room to open your car doors more than a few inches.

Me either tbf

Canadians may well be nicer people but driving for 4 hours in most of Canada is in no way so stressful as driving for 4 hours in most of the UK (esp in places it has airports).

Absolutely, and I’m glad I’m not in one of those families because there is, imo, nothing disrespectful about asking a favour and I’d hate my family to feel they couldn’t ask me.

A two hour journey in a taxi would cost in the region of £200. My relative does airport runs to airport which is 1hr 45 away and that costs £180

They are bitter as their sibling relationships are transactional/they don’t have anyone who would do this for them

£75:for his time? Paying for fuel is reasonable, but his time?. That's unbelievable.

Well it would rather appear the OP’s is also like this

And perhaps he also believes in "don't ask, don't get."

Do keep up dear.