To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

[alexandrasm]

I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

Even for family? I'd do it (and have done it) for any of my large extended family.

I think it's fairly CF behaviour to expect a lift that far to avoid paying for a train/taxi. Good for him for matching your energy.

But I don’t expect one. I asked. I didn’t say “you’re driving me”

I feel really sorry for all the pp (not just you) who have such rubbish families that doing a nice thing for each other is seen as the recipient being a CF. There’s a couple of threads at the moment that are very revealing about how cold and transactional some families are, really eye opening tbh.

Some people don’t mind helping family and friends save money and actually like helping them out.

A four hour round trip is nothing compared to the favours me and friends do for each other 😂

But she's not expecting a lift is she. She asked. And offered to pay for a full tank of petrol (which is more than the trip would require).

@alexandrasm , for comparison, when I asked my brother for a ride to the airport I offered him half of what the airport parking would have cost me (which was a lot of money). He wouldn't hear of it, just wanted the cost of the petrol and the airport drop off fee. That's what family do for each other.

Yes, but the OP was asking him to lose similar/more money (by not going to his 0 hours job) than she would save. That's not respectful.

He can take it as AL! Or just use that day as his day off. I didn’t tell him to lose money ffs

I’m really, really surprised

No she isn’t. Read the thread.

And if it didn't work for him he could have said that. Not seen it as an opportunity to make some money off his sibling disguised as a favour

Book a taxi. Or pay your brother. See which works out the cheaper. It's reasonable for him to not lose money if he is on zero hours.

He. Would. Not. Lose. Money.

it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

He will be on a very low wage I imagine. If he was my little bro, on a zero hours contract, I’d definitely want to pay him. Especially as you say that you’re very chilled about money

i think it was fair to ask- i asked for a lift to the airport once petrol drop off charge and a bit extra and they still moaned

never asked again

If it’s really common in your friends and family… is there no one else you can ask? No one who you took that would like to now repay the favour?

As I’ve said he’s paid more than me, 0 hours is just what works best for his entire workplace (everyone is on 0 hours), because we’re in a seasonal town that’s very busy in the summer but dead quiet in the winter.

I caught zero hours contract is not going to be highly paid!

If you say so commonplace amongst friends and family - how come he seems to be your only option?

But we are coming up to the summer. You say he could just change his hours/take annual leave/use day off. Presumably if he is really busy in the summer then he could also work more hours.

If he can't do it for sinking live then he shouldn't do it. He's a CF

Good point. Sounds like winter he takes a massive hit whereas summer is his opportunity for earning a decent income

Where does OP say he will lose money? Must've missed that I didn't

Well he would as he would choose not to work

and summer supposedly his most profitable time whereas winter is dead