AIBU to let my daughter’s boyfriend use marked visitor parking regularly?

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NC’d as outing.

Recently moved onto a new build estate, up the road from us is three terraced houses with five parking spots in front of them. Each of the three houses have one and two are very clearly marked as visitor spots.

My DDs boyfriend visits us regularly, can vary from one night a week to 2/3 nights depending on both their shift patterns. She has been parking in one of the visitor spots.

The first of the three residents moved in last week. Yesterday one of the site managers knocked on the door and asked DD to move the car as the houses are now lived in and the resident had complained (some people / contractors park on the still empty houses). DD explained that it was visitor parking and that is was our visitor parked there. Site manager said he would need to go away and look at the plans (thought he would have done this before coming over tbf).

So AIBU to tell him to continue to park there? Legally he can, rules are visitors up to 48 hours at a time (I’ve checked the convents we signed). I would HATE someone effectively parked on my drive, outside my window etc but I would never have bought that house. Resident must have seen and signed the same plans as us?

If the resident comes over to speak to us, how would you respond?

Site plan attached.

It looks to me like they are general visitor spots, not just for that terrace BUT if he is there half the week that is excessive use and not fair on everyone else so I can see why your neighbours would be getting wound up

Presumably the boyfriend is only around when your dd is also home so he should just park in front of her car.

But not what either the sales office or solicitor told us.

I can't believe anyone would use a visitor slot directly outside someone else's windows. They are clearly there to be shared by the three houses they are in front of!

YABU to take a visitor's space that is directly outside somebody else's house that they have no doubt paid for.

DD lives on an estate that after 10 years hs just been completed. They have a (small) garage that their car doesn't fit in and one parking space outside it where they keep the car. There is a largish area designated for visitor parking which is a fair walk from their house and now that the estate is complete is too small for the number of houses built. Developers will never plan enough parking as it won't make them money.

Looking at that plan I would have expected the visitors spots are for the terraces too, and if the site manager got involved surely that was their take? Can't the boyfriend park over your drive or on a street further away? If not I'd tell DD to pick him up and leave his car at home.

3 houses
5 spaces
How does 2 each work?

Idiot boyfriend 😂

If they paid for it, it would be marked with their plot number and not highlighted on our deeds?

How dare he visit 😂

I suspect the resident, actaully has a second car, which IMO is far worse than someone who doesn’t live here.

I have seldom read a more entitled post on MN ever! The owner of the house outside which there is visitor's parking (in your opinion) has far more right than your daughter's boyfriend. HTH.

Monopolising a visitor parking space is a dick move regardless of who owns what. They are there for occasional visitors, not almost live-in boyfriends.

Just work out when he arrives who needs to be able to get away from the house most often or soonist, and that car parks across your dropped curb blocking your other cars in. Simple, and yet far more considerate to everyone else.

He didn't even seem to know it was marked as visitors until we told him. He has gone away to check.

Surely they don’t have any right to park in the visitor spot, if they are not a visitor?

We had this, we’ve a visitor space across the road plus a double drive. We were due workmen starting the next morning really early so I popped my car in the visitor space to allow the workmen to get on the drive. My neighbour knocked and asked me to move my car as she didn’t want to look at it all night ! I told her about the workmen, she wasn’t bothered, I said it’s a visitor bay so anyone can park there. Fast forward 25 years she has upset the entire cul de sac by constantly leaving one of their cars in it to stop anyone else using it - if they move the car they take the other one off the drive to claim it. The majority of us have extended our drives to allow 3 cars. Life’s far too short to fall out with neighbours. Parking brings out the best in people !

Thanks for your opinion. Do you have anything to support it rather than a 'HTH' statement?

Wait and see what he comes back to you with after checking. I don’t think those visitor spaces are intended just for those houses but I do think the boyfriend is taking the p a little to be parking there so much.

I do agree that now he has broken up from Uni, we need to keep check of how often he is using it.

He sounds more like a resident than a visitor. The person has probably complained as seen the same car a number of times

Wrong thread

You asked if YABU and the majority have posted that you are!
I stand by my point that you are being very entitled thinking that your daughter's boyfriend has more rights that the people who actually live on the state especially one who has the (visitor?) parking spot outside their house.YABVVU.

Households shouldn't move in if they have three cars? It's unnecessary.

This is the most likely scenario.

You should be governed by the rules (once clarified) and common courtesy. Bf is a "visitor" by the rules but common courtesy and consideration should probably make him think about parking elsewhere for at least some of his visits.

Totally disagree, if it's a visitors' space, it is for visitors. Not for residents who have more cars than spaces. There isn't a hierarchy of visitors. It's first come first served.

Don’t blame developers, blame planning authorities imposing maximum parking spaces per plot under “green” initiatives. Developers of course are quite happy to squeeze more houses into smaller plots but the planning limits are the problem.

In London there is a policy of a maximum of one space per property on new build plans. In central London this is less of an issue - transport is copious and well integrated. In outer London its a nightmare with three story 4/5 bed houses being crammed into tiny plots with only one space per house. Family sized houses unsurprisingly tend to have at least two cars because transport doesn’t work for eg working parents with children or even working couples. God forbid the residents run a business which requires a van - apparently plumbers and electricians should use bicycles along with families trying to drop off children at breakfast club and childcare before work.

So every clutch of new builds brings the problem of local roads clogged up with more vehicles. This is one of the biggest causes of planning objections around my way, slowing down building work.

I can't believe you would consider for a second that these visitors species were for the whole estate. It's so obvious that it is for the three smaller house they are in front of and it was done this way because there isn't enough for 6 spaces.

Honestly, the entitlement of some people. So rude!